Hostess Gift Question
knjzacher
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Hello, I am a usual lurker, looking for guidance.
My stepmother and close girlfriend are hosting my baby shower in a few weeks. I have decided to get my stepmom a beautiful Pandora charm for her bracelet with a nice card and a handwritten heartfelt message celebrating her new grandmother status, and maybe a bouquet of flowers. She is really going all out, from the snippets of info I've gotten from her about the shower, so I really want to do something nice.
The dilemma I am in: what to get the friend who is helping my stepmother. I am not looking to be flamed, not sure if this is flame-worthy (hope not, but feel free if I'm being an idiot) but I threw her baby shower, hosted it alone because no one offered to help from her closer group of friends, nor did her sister or anyone in her family. She is a great friend so I didn't mind, and spent quite a lot on a 60 person shower, and I LOVED planning it and throwing it! She did not give me a hostess gift, and it didn't bug me one bit because I didn't know about hostess gifts as I have never thrown a shower or been thrown one, until this one coming up. I wasn't expecting one and was never offended.
Now I've been lurking like the lurker I am and learning lots from you ladies, and I am wondering: if you were in my shoes, what would you get her? I know I *should* get her something nice and heartfelt. Am I being an a**hole just wanting to get her a card and something small? I am trying hard not to be a "tit-for-tat" or a brat. DH says to get her nothing. I do not agree with him.
Thanks in advance for any advice!
Re: Hostess Gift Question
If you want to "just" get her a card and something small that's fine. Write her a note about how much she means to you and how you're grateful she's a "mommy-role-model" for you.
I've honestly always loved getting notes and letters of thanks more than gifts--they mean more.
This, and if you really feel the need to get her a gift, maybe a gift card for a manicure and pedicure? Give her the chance to pamper herself a little bit. I just wouldn't give your friend and your stepmother their gifts in front of each other.