Wedding gift from DH

hmp1 · August 2012

Did you and DH exchange gifts on your wedding day?

One of DH's associates is getting married next month and DH asked what he was getting his bride. He didn't seem to know that people exchange gifts. He said nothing because he spent so much on the ring he can't afford to get her anything. Yet, he is going to Vegas this weekend for his bachelor party. They are having a very posh wedding and I'm sure she knows that some couples exchange gifts.

DH gave me a necklace that is perfect to mark the event. It is two interlocking circles that represent our wedding rings. Just wondering how common it is to exchange gifts.

mrs.kapow · August 2012

yes, we did, but only because I let him know I was getting him something. I think he would have been clueless otherwise.

And it was selfish in that I wanted b-pics and they were my gift to him.

I got an amazing Na Hoku flip flop necklace since we got married down the shore. It's still one of my favorite pieces.

cmuslp10 · August 2012

DH surprised me with a second wedding band, so I would have one on each side of my ring. I was ecstatic! I had a boudour photo shoot and gifted him a nice hardcover book with the best shots. I left it at the house so he opened it the night before and included a letter to him. It was very well received!

BeebopandBuddy · August 2012

Yes, DH gave me diamond and blue topaz earrings (my something blue). They were small but very pretty. I gave him cufflinks. I thought everyone exchanged at least small gifts.

mlf625 · August 2012

We did. We both knew it was customary, and exchanged the gifts privately after our rehearsal dinner. I got him a Jack Spade travel bag and he got me a pretty cross necklace.

redneckmomma25 · August 2012

We did not exchange gifts.

BostonDble · August 2012

Yes we did, in fact I got a necklace very similar to the one you described. I got DH a dress watch with an inscription on the back. Sounds like maybe priorities are somewhere else (Vegas).

jbBeans · August 2012

We didn't exchange gifts. I mentioned it to him and asked if it was something he wanted to do. We decided we'd rather spend $ on our honeymoon.

mystrana · August 2012

DH and I didn't exchange gifts and I didn't know that people did.

Shazzie116 · August 2012

We did. I gave him a small book of boudoir photos I'd had done. He gave me a sailors valentine necklace with a sapphire in the middle.

hmp1 · August 2012

BostonDble:
Yes we did, in fact I got a necklace very similar to the one you described. I got DH a dress watch with an inscription on the back. Sounds like maybe priorities are somewhere else (Vegas).

This is my necklace. Do you have the same one?

https://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=GRP02386&mcat=148204&cid=563629&search_params=s+5-p+1-c+563629-r+101287465-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+

superned · August 2012

DH and I exchanged gifts, but since we paid for the wedding ourselves, we set a pretty low price limit. All the same, his gift was the best gift I have ever received.

Back story: I love bacon.

He went back to our alma mater to the pub where we met (we both worked there - he was my boss). Even though it had been eight years since he worked there, it was the same cook, who remembered him. He asked for one of the old burger presses, and the cook obliged.

The press had a broken handle, so DH went in our yard (of the house we had bought the year before) and found a branch that he carved into a handle.

Then, he engraved the top of the press himself with our wedding date and the message: "To [superned] - May all our days be bacon days, crispy and delicious."

I'm semi-vegetarian now, so I don't make a lot of bacon, but I use it every time I do. And we've been married seven years and telling the story of that gift still makes me tear up.

(And FTR, my gift to him was a handkerchief embroidered with: "For all our dances as husband and wife." One of the things I love most about him is how much he loves to dance and take me dancing...but he tends to get kind of sweaty. : ) )

PrncesWife · August 2012

Nope, we did not. We also don't exchange anniversary gifts.

LauraJB313 · August 2012

No. But DH and I really aren't gift people. We do Christmas and birthdays and not much else. We like to do "surprises" but they are more often activities/fun dates.

MississippiCatfish · August 2012

We didn't, but I've always thought that exchanging gifts is the norm.

BarefootContessa · August 2012

We did. I got him a watch, he got me a necklace.

kristyand · August 2012

We did.

DH wrote me a poem.

I got him locket cufflinks... which isn't really a gift, considering he needed cufflinks anyhow.

MomtobeNJ · August 2012

We didn't, because we spent so much on the wedding and honeymoon, and I was fine with that.

However, we did end up buying each other gifts while on our honeymoon in Aruba. He bought me an opal and amethyst ring and I bought him a watch.

Pokedot · August 2012

We exchanged also. I got him a nice watch and a book of all of our favorite memories to that point with a story for each picture and DH got me a my first Coach purse that I had been eyeing up for some time. I got mine when we opened our gifts the next day. Our wedding day was so hectic in the morning it didn't make sense for us!

VineyardMel · August 2012

We paid for our wedding, rehearsal dinner and honeymoon and spent A LOT on it so we opted not to add another expense and chose to write love letters to each other instead. I couldn't help myself though, when I came across a really cool print on Etsy that I knew would be meaningful to both of us and I got it framed. I gave it to him after the wedding because I didn't want him to feel like he should have gotten me something. Even though I got it for him, I consider it "our" gift.

MrsAB1316 · August 2012

We did...however our gifts were not so much "romantic" as they were just items that we thought each other would like and use. I got DH a flask engraved with his monogram and a guitar (we both play and music is a very big part of our life) and on the back at the bottom it said "With Love From Your Wife" on it. I pre-filled it with Johnny Black and had it stashed in the freezer so he'd have it for the wedding day.

He got me a beautiful cloth cross body bag. I carried it on the day of the wedding...it was way more casual than anything else for that day, but it was perfect for me. I still carry it to this day and we've been married for almost 3 years.

hunter91011 · August 2012

We exchanged gifts. DH got me a beautiful necklace and earring set, with a purple stone, which was one of our wedding colors. We exchanged at the rehearsal dinner, and I ended up wearing them as my jewelry for the wedding. I got him a nice bracelet. I'm not sure how much money DH spent, but I think I spent about 200...

leavitt1 · August 2012

DH and I acknowledged that it is customary but agreed to get a combined gift for each other instead, a high quality digital camera to capture all the memories from the rehearsal dinner on. We actually used that camera until I recently upgraded in preparation for LOs arrival, so we got 10 years of wonderful memories out of it.

mb314 · August 2012

We didn't. We were hemorrhaging money at that point between paying for the wedding and moving across country a month before the wedding. Our wedding and marriage was our gift to each other.

TAGSL710 · August 2012

We did something small. He got me chocolate and flowers, I got him his favorite things and other stuff with labels on them. Some cute socks "for if your feet get cold", pistachios "for if you get hungry before", flavored lubes "for if you want some fun tonight", some chocolate syrup "for if you want dessert later" and a few other things to help him relax and laugh

CdnFarmGirl08 · August 2012

I got him something- just a pair of nice Oakley sunglasses that my BIL could get really cheap through work- actually now thinking back to it, I think my sister and BIL paid for them and they wouldn't let me pay them back.

I didn't get anything, but wasn't expecting anything. But we also rarely do christmas/b-day presents and never do anniversary presents. We would rather spend the money on doing things together. If someone (usually me!) really wants something then he will usually get it for me- I got an e-reader for my birthday this past year.

BostonDble · August 2012

hmp&mrj:
BostonDble:
Yes we did, in fact I got a necklace very similar to the one you described. I got DH a dress watch with an inscription on the back. Sounds like maybe priorities are somewhere else (Vegas).
This is my necklace. Do you have the same one?
https://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=GRP02386&mcat=148204&cid=563629&search_params=s+5-p+1-c+563629-r+101287465-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+

Yep that is it in fact I am wearing it right now. Our husbands have good taste

tinabean00 · August 2012

We did. He bought me a lovely diamond tennis bracelet. I got him a little basket that I labeled "For..." on everything, like Socks "For your cold feet" a tiny bottle of Kahlua "For your nerves" a picture of us "Forever" and so on. The big gift was "For getting to the ceremony on time" and was a nice solar charged watch, which he should essentially have forever.

ETA: switched solar powered for solar charged. Solar powered seems so 80s

danabsd · August 2012

Bethevans85:
We did not exchange gifts.

Ditto.

freeatlast2014 · August 2012

We exchanged diamond cross necklaces. We both picked our own out but I love mine and we both still wear them.

AKB090609 · August 2012

We did, DH had no idea what to get for me so my mom did the leg work, but at the time we were graduating collage, buying a house, starting new jobs, planning a wedding in a state we didn't live in and adopting/training a dog.

I got him a nice grown-up watch since the only one he had was spiderman teamed and I decided that it wasn't a great thing for his clients to see.

Manx4 · August 2012

Nope - our honeymoon was our gift to each other.

bosha711 · August 2012

No, we didn't exchange wedding gifts.

linzeek44 · August 2012

We didn't. We knew it was customary, but we discussed it and decided to save the money and spend it on honeymoon fun stuff instead.

ajcorbs13 · August 2012

BostonDble:
hmp&mrj:

BostonDble:
Yes we did, in fact I got a necklace very similar to the one you described. I got DH a dress watch with an inscription on the back. Sounds like maybe priorities are somewhere else (Vegas).

This is my necklace. Do you have the same one?

https://www.tiffany.com/Shopping/Item.aspx?fromGrid=1&sku=GRP02386&mcat=148204&cid=563629&search_params=s+5-p+1-c+563629-r+101287465-x+-n+6-ri+-ni+0-t+

Yep that is it in fact I am wearing it right now. Our husbands have good taste

We did too! He gave me the same exact necklace!!!!

LyndseylovesHugh · August 2012

leavitt1:
DH and I acknowledged that it is customary but agreed to get a combined gift for each other instead, a high quality digital camera to capture all the memories from the rehearsal dinner on. We actually used that camera until I recently upgraded in preparation for LOs arrival, so we got 10 years of wonderful memories out of it.

We did kind of the same thing, we bought a video camera. We are not very romantic when it comes to gifts, we often just let the other person know what we want or need, so this was perfect for us. We also bought a few couple's massages on our honeymoon as a "gift" to ourselves.

ATMmom324 · August 2012

We did. DH bought me a pair of earrings from Tiffanys and I got him an Ipod touch. I am very sad to say that DD broke his Ipod and I lost one of my earrings.

steffnstuff · August 2012

I knew of people exchanging gifts but it really wasn't that big a deal to me. We didn't plan to exchange gifts but I bought DH a pocket watch only because I knew he had been wanting one and I saw one that was perfect for him just before our wedding.

BakerMommy · August 2012

I gave him a wooden box with a journal I'd started writing to him when I was 15 before we met...yeah, I'm a sentimental schmuck, a collection of letters I'd written specifically to him, and my promise ring. He gave me a pearl necklace to wear for the wedding. Actually, come to think of it he forgot the necklace and had to have someone give it to me the day of.

EGMphoto · August 2012

We didn't. We were young and paying for our honeymoon was our gift to eachother.

hmp1 · August 2012

auroraloo:
We didn't.We/I think it's silly and wasteful.
I also think saying that "he can't afford it because of the ring, but he can afford Vegas" is kind of over-judgey. Like he's supposed to spend everything he has on her? Something about it rubs me wrong.

Not judging, the conversation got me wondering how common it is in other circles. I was surprised that his reason was that he can't afford it when he is going to Vegas this weekend. If he had just said they aren't exchanging gifts, nbd. I know his fiance and I know she would love to get something sentimental from him on the day of their wedding.

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