DD - wtf?

Magenta728 · August 2012

We even explained that DDing is not cool. Or am I just not seeing it?

JumpAroundBucky · August 2012

Nope, you're right. It's gone.

FYI, Alika 0622, It is very rude to delete a thread when people are taking the time to respond to it. You may not like the answers you receive, but that's the risk you take when posting on a public forum.

Allycat11 · August 2012

Not surprised at all. Apparently she did not like what we had to say, and will probably do what she wants anyway.

mindy0711 · August 2012

She's clueless. Whatever. Don't come to a board and ask a question like that and expect to not get flamed for it.

I think that's the first time I've seen her post on here.

dannon2009 · August 2012

A double DD at that too!

zonagirlie · August 2012

I don't think we were snarky even... we mostly gave her advice which is what she asked for right?

Noethola · August 2012

When you ask for opinions, you need to be able to listen to people's opinions. Whether or not they agree with you, you can decide to do what you want. But please, dont get upset when people disagree after you ask.

Besides, I thought you all did it nicely. No flaming, just humble opinions.

JumpAroundBucky · August 2012

zonagirlie:
I don't think we were snarky even... we mostly gave her advice which is what she asked for right?

I don't think anyone was over the top or out of line. We just answered her question. People were even nice enough to warn her about things that would get her flamed.

Alyssa102 · August 2012

Oh man...I actually just responded too. I didn't read anything overly snarky.

I just made a comment about having 2 kids already, I am assuiming she is all set on baby gear and all she really needs is clothes and that people will bring her that anyway. Shower or not.

mindy0711 · August 2012

Magneta, I love your Avatar. I heart Rainbrow Brite!

Jbosarge85 · August 2012

Dang I missed it Crying

JumpAroundBucky · August 2012

Jbosarge85:
Dang I missed it

Basically, it went down like this:

OP: I have a 4 yr old and an 11 month old, both girls, and I had a shower for both. No one is offering to throw me a shower even though this baby has a penis instead of a vagina! Should I just throw one myself?

Everyone else: No. That's rude/tacky

Someone: Don't post this on Baby Showers; they will tear you apart.

Someone else: And don't DD. It's rude.

OP: DD

laurapacheco · August 2012

JumpAroundBucky:
zonagirlie:
I don't think we were snarky even... we mostly gave her advice which is what she asked for right?
I don't think anyone was over the top or out of line. We just answered her question. People were even nice enough to warn her about things that would get her flamed.

Agreed. Everyone was really nice & her post very clearly stated that she wanted HONEST OPINIONS.... and that's what she got, but apparently that's not what she really wanted to hear.

jobiann · August 2012

Allycat11:
Not surprised at all. Apparently she did not like what we had to say, and will probably do what she wants anyway.

Didn't surprise me either but I felt obligated to give her the warnings since she is our January "sister"... I guess that is what I get for trying to be nice.

sbevmc09 · August 2012

Oh, sounds interesting. Sorry I missed it. I especially like how someone warned her not to DD

I feel that it's appropriate to bust this one out:

Dear DD'er,

Luv,

All of January 2013 Moms

laurapacheco · August 2012

PrivacyWanted:
Alyssa102:

Oh man...I actually just responded too. I didn't read anything overly snarky.

I just made a comment about having 2 kids already, I am assuiming she is all set on baby gear and all she really needs is clothes and that people will bring her that anyway. Shower or not.

That was basically what I said too

Although the DDing is making me think somehow she's not "set" on gear and is trying to figure out a way to get people to buy it for her

I just did a quick search to see if she'd ever posted on here before since I didn't recognize her SN... apparently when someone asked a similar question on this board awhile back this was her response:

Alika0622:

I had two baby showers for my first DD (born 2008).

Then my cousin and neighbor threw me a diaper raffle/sprinkle for my second DD(born 2011).
I do not expect another baby shower unless DF family throws me one for some reason:/ I really do not want another shower as I obviously have EVERY thing...unless I have a boy then i am kind of screwed! but it is easy to buy boy clothes

So... I'm not really sure why she asked this question in the first place.

jobiann · August 2012

laurapacheco:
PrivacyWanted:
Alyssa102:

Oh man...I actually just responded too. I didn't read anything overly snarky.

I just made a comment about having 2 kids already, I am assuiming she is all set on baby gear and all she really needs is clothes and that people will bring her that anyway. Shower or not.

That was basically what I said too

Although the DDing is making me think somehow she's not "set" on gear and is trying to figure out a way to get people to buy it for her
I just did a quick search to see if she'd ever posted on here before since I didn't recognize her SN... apparently when someone asked a similar question on this board awhile back this was her response:
Alika0622:

I had two baby showers for my first DD (born 2008).

Then my cousin and neighbor threw me a diaper raffle/sprinkle for my second DD(born 2011).
I do not expect another baby shower unless DF family throws me one for some reason:/ I really do not want another shower as I obviously have EVERY thing...unless I have a boy then i am kind of screwed! but it is easy to buy boy clothes

So... I'm not really sure why she asked this question in the first place.

I think I love you!

laurapacheco · August 2012

jobiann:
I think I love you!

LOL

Allycat11 · August 2012

laurapacheco:
PrivacyWanted:
Alyssa102:

Oh man...I actually just responded too. I didn't read anything overly snarky.

I just made a comment about having 2 kids already, I am assuiming she is all set on baby gear and all she really needs is clothes and that people will bring her that anyway. Shower or not.

That was basically what I said too

Although the DDing is making me think somehow she's not "set" on gear and is trying to figure out a way to get people to buy it for her
I just did a quick search to see if she'd ever posted on here before since I didn't recognize her SN... apparently when someone asked a similar question on this board awhile back this was her response:
Alika0622:

I had two baby showers for my first DD (born 2008).

Then my cousin and neighbor threw me a diaper raffle/sprinkle for my second DD(born 2011).
I do not expect another baby shower unless DF family throws me one for some reason:/ I really do not want another shower as I obviously have EVERY thing...unless I have a boy then i am kind of screwed! but it is easy to buy boy clothes

So... I'm not really sure why she asked this question in the first place.

Interesting. In her original post today I was under them impression that she felt the need to get EVERYTHING new for a boy even though her youngest will be less than 18 months old when he is born. I assumed (and still do) she got everything pink for her daughters. This is why my little girl will have gender neutral big ticket items with the less expensive things being pink and frilly.

Alyssa102 · August 2012

jobiann:
laurapacheco:
PrivacyWanted:
Alyssa102:

Oh man...I actually just responded too. I didn't read anything overly snarky.

I just made a comment about having 2 kids already, I am assuiming she is all set on baby gear and all she really needs is clothes and that people will bring her that anyway. Shower or not.

That was basically what I said too

Although the DDing is making me think somehow she's not "set" on gear and is trying to figure out a way to get people to buy it for her

I just did a quick search to see if she'd ever posted on here before since I didn't recognize her SN... apparently when someone asked a similar question on this board awhile back this was her response:

Alika0622:

I had two baby showers for my first DD (born 2008).

Then my cousin and neighbor threw me a diaper raffle/sprinkle for my second DD(born 2011).

I do not expect another baby shower unless DF family throws me one for some reason:/ I really do not want another shower as I obviously have EVERY thing...unless I have a boy then i am kind of screwed! but it is easy to buy boy clothes

So... I'm not really sure why she asked this question in the first place.

I think I love you!

Nice snooping Laura. That is pretty funny.

Alyssa102 · August 2012

Allycat11:
laurapacheco:
PrivacyWanted:
Alyssa102:

Oh man...I actually just responded too. I didn't read anything overly snarky.

I just made a comment about having 2 kids already, I am assuiming she is all set on baby gear and all she really needs is clothes and that people will bring her that anyway. Shower or not.

That was basically what I said too

Although the DDing is making me think somehow she's not "set" on gear and is trying to figure out a way to get people to buy it for her

I just did a quick search to see if she'd ever posted on here before since I didn't recognize her SN... apparently when someone asked a similar question on this board awhile back this was her response:

Alika0622:

I had two baby showers for my first DD (born 2008).

Then my cousin and neighbor threw me a diaper raffle/sprinkle for my second DD(born 2011).

I do not expect another baby shower unless DF family throws me one for some reason:/ I really do not want another shower as I obviously have EVERY thing...unless I have a boy then i am kind of screwed! but it is easy to buy boy clothes

So... I'm not really sure why she asked this question in the first place.

Interesting. In her original post today I was under them impression that she felt the need to get EVERYTHING new for a boy even though her youngest will be less than 18 months old when he is born. I assumed (and still do) she got everything pink for her daughters. This is why my little girl will have gender neutral big ticket items with the less expensive things being pink and frilly.

This is exactly what DH and I did. Stroller and all that stuff, gender neutral so we can re-use if LO #2 is a boy. Then we obviously got a few personal items that were girly.

Recieving blankets and wash cloths and that stuff, we got ALOT of pink at the shower, but who really cares...I don't need a blue wash cloth.

Magenta728 · August 2012

JumpAround: Amazing synopsis!

Laurap: Amazing detective work!

Mama5181 · August 2012

sbevmc09:
Oh, sounds interesting. Sorry I missed it. I especially like how someone warned her not to DD
I feel that it's appropriate to bust this one out:

Dear DD'er,

Luv,
All of January 2013 Moms

LOVE IT

Jbosarge85 · August 2012

JumpAroundBucky:
Jbosarge85:
Dang I missed it
Basically, it went down like this:
OP: I have a 4 yr old and an 11 month old, both girls, and I had a shower for both. No one is offering to throw me a shower even though this baby has a penis instead of a vagina! Should I just throw one myself?
Everyone else: No. That's rude/tacky
Someone: Don't post this on Baby Showers; they will tear you apart.
Someone else: And don't DD. It's rude.
OP: DD

Hmm...well I guess I'm not too sad doesn't sound that bad. Just annoying, especially cause she got butt hurt over honest opinions.

LoveIsOwlYouNeed · August 2012

Wow, go to one work meeting and I miss a lot! For the record, I have never felt like anyone on our board is mean or overly snarky. I am glad I got filled in!

jobiann · August 2012

Alyssa102:
Allycat11:
laurapacheco:
PrivacyWanted:
Alyssa102:

Oh man...I actually just responded too. I didn't read anything overly snarky.

I just made a comment about having 2 kids already, I am assuiming she is all set on baby gear and all she really needs is clothes and that people will bring her that anyway. Shower or not.

That was basically what I said too

Although the DDing is making me think somehow she's not "set" on gear and is trying to figure out a way to get people to buy it for her

I just did a quick search to see if she'd ever posted on here before since I didn't recognize her SN... apparently when someone asked a similar question on this board awhile back this was her response:

Alika0622:

I had two baby showers for my first DD (born 2008).

Then my cousin and neighbor threw me a diaper raffle/sprinkle for my second DD(born 2011).

I do not expect another baby shower unless DF family throws me one for some reason:/ I really do not want another shower as I obviously have EVERY thing...unless I have a boy then i am kind of screwed! but it is easy to buy boy clothes

So... I'm not really sure why she asked this question in the first place.

Interesting. In her original post today I was under them impression that she felt the need to get EVERYTHING new for a boy even though her youngest will be less than 18 months old when he is born. I assumed (and still do) she got everything pink for her daughters. This is why my little girl will have gender neutral big ticket items with the less expensive things being pink and frilly.

This is exactly what DH and I did. Stroller and all that stuff, gender neutral so we can re-use if LO #2 is a boy. Then we obviously got a few personal items that were girly.

Recieving blankets and wash cloths and that stuff, we got ALOT of pink at the shower, but who really cares...I don't need a blue wash cloth.

Us too, our infant car seat, stroller, pack-n-play, high chair, etc are all neutral. Only clothes and a a few blankets will be boy or girl specific. And since our LO didn't cooperate at our u/s on Monday we will have a ton of gender neutral stuff anyway. But I'm fine with that!

sbevmc09 · August 2012

Alyssa102:
Allycat11:
laurapacheco:
PrivacyWanted:
Alyssa102:

Oh man...I actually just responded too. I didn't read anything overly snarky.

I just made a comment about having 2 kids already, I am assuiming she is all set on baby gear and all she really needs is clothes and that people will bring her that anyway. Shower or not.

That was basically what I said too

Although the DDing is making me think somehow she's not "set" on gear and is trying to figure out a way to get people to buy it for her

I just did a quick search to see if she'd ever posted on here before since I didn't recognize her SN... apparently when someone asked a similar question on this board awhile back this was her response:

Alika0622:

I had two baby showers for my first DD (born 2008).

Then my cousin and neighbor threw me a diaper raffle/sprinkle for my second DD(born 2011).

I do not expect another baby shower unless DF family throws me one for some reason:/ I really do not want another shower as I obviously have EVERY thing...unless I have a boy then i am kind of screwed! but it is easy to buy boy clothes

So... I'm not really sure why she asked this question in the first place.

Interesting. In her original post today I was under them impression that she felt the need to get EVERYTHING new for a boy even though her youngest will be less than 18 months old when he is born. I assumed (and still do) she got everything pink for her daughters. This is why my little girl will have gender neutral big ticket items with the less expensive things being pink and frilly.

This is exactly what DH and I did. Stroller and all that stuff, gender neutral so we can re-use if LO #2 is a boy. Then we obviously got a few personal items that were girly.

Recieving blankets and wash cloths and that stuff, we got ALOT of pink at the shower, but who really cares...I don't need a blue wash cloth.

I don't see what the big deal is anyway. As others have pointed out it's not like a boy baby will care (or even notice) using pink stuff. If you made the choice to buy girly stuff the first time around and are now having a boy either use the stuff (which I see as NBD really) or buy your own new stuff. If you cared you really should have bought gender neutral things to begin with.

FWIW, we had a boy and are now having a girl. Our big ticket items are mostly gender neutral, or maybe leaning towards boyish, but you'd better believe DD will be using boy stuff hand-me-downs too! Who cares if she's in a onesie with a truck on it instead of some stupid girly thing? I happen to be quite the girly girl and still wore truck shirts and played with cars and stuff because it was just something my sister and I liked in addition to "girl" stuff. :shrug: