My Blood Is Boiling-Need to Vent- NBR

Sage4200 · August 2012

So my BIL and SIL are visiting MIL this weekend for the holiday weekend. They live about 5 hours away and we live 10 minutes. I just got an email from MIL letting me know that she has plans Sunday night with friends and that if she buys groceries would I come over and cook dinner for SIL and BIL. Really??????

MomiJerz · August 2012

Hell no!!! Im sorry that would be my response.

CarlySara · August 2012

Are they not capable of making (or buying) their own dinner?

cmiller0623 · August 2012

oh yeah being 38 weeks pregnant thats all you wanna do!

JennH28 · August 2012

Uh. Was she serious?

drubie · August 2012

Can't she buy groceries and have them cook for themselves? Or, you know, go OUT to dinner? So bizarre!

mrs.kapow · August 2012

They need to be entertained? They're adults, I assume. Your MIL is crazycakes.

Sage4200 · August 2012

LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Are you known among your family for being an incredible cook?

God, no..my SIL does NOT cook and MIL believes that men should be waited on hand and foot and since she will not be available to "entertain" her guests, she expects me too.

Sage4200 · August 2012

mrs.kapow:
They need to be entertained? They're adults, I assume. Your MIL is crazycakes.

I have no words for how insane this woman is...this is the same MIL who wants to make a sign to pin on my son over the holidays so no one holds him

EGMphoto · August 2012

What the flip?

BostonDble · August 2012

If my MIL said she had something to do one of the nights that we were there, DH and I would just go out to dinner or cook something ourselves. I would NEVER expect my SIL to come over and cook for me especially when she is 38 weeks pregnant. I am an adult I do not need to be baby sat.

JennH28 · August 2012

Sage4200:
mrs.kapow:
They need to be entertained?  They're adults, I assume. Your MIL is crazycakes.

I have no words for how insane this woman is...this is the same MIL who wants to make a sign to pin on my son over the holidays so no one holds him

Hahaha what?!?

Krista123105 · August 2012

Wow, words fail me.

thebanich · August 2012

Pretty sure I would have laughed in her face.

Shazzie116 · August 2012

MarisaKathleen · August 2012

Sage4200:

LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Are you known among your family for being an incredible cook?

God, no..my SIL does NOT cook and MIL believes that men should be waited on hand and foot and since she will not be available to "entertain" her guests, she expects me too.

This actually made me LOL. Hysterically.

That being said, if you're up to it, why don't you guys all go out and get something to eat at a restaurant. If you guys have a good relationship, it'll probably be good to see them before the LO gets here!

mommy510 · August 2012

Tell her you have plans too. Maybe those plans are to get some last minute things down before baby comes, or maybe you just want to sit on the couch and rest, or a nice soak in a warm tub could be nice too. Let them fend for themselves.

CarlySara · August 2012

Sage4200:
mrs.kapow:
They need to be entertained? They're adults, I assume. Your MIL is crazycakes.

I have no words for how insane this woman is...this is the same MIL who wants to make a sign to pin on my son over the holidays so no one holds him

Excuse me? WHAT?!?!

melody921 · August 2012

BostonDble:
If my MIL said she had something to do one of the nights that we were there, DH and I would just go out to dinner or cook something ourselves. I would NEVER expect my SIL to come over and cook for me especially when she is 38 weeks pregnant. I am an adult I do not need to be baby sat.

Yeah, I hope you told her to forget it.

redneckmomma25 · August 2012

At least she asked. I'm not sure why you are so upset. She asked you can say no.

If I had family close by or in town I would gladly cook for them. Maybe that's just me. I just don't see what the big deal is. She didn't tell you to cook. She didn't ask if you could cook for them at your house. I don't know. I don't understand what the big deal is.

msm261 · August 2012

Sage4200:
LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Are you known among your family for being an incredible cook?

God, no..my SIL does NOT cook and MIL believes that men should be waited on hand and foot and since she will not be available to "entertain" her guests, she expects me too.

So wait, if your SIL doesn't cook what do they do? Eat out all the time or does her DH cook?

cmiller0623 · August 2012

Bethevans85:
At least she asked. I'm not sure why you are so upset. She asked you can say no. If I had family close by or in town I would gladly cook for them. Maybe that's just me. I just don't see what the big deal is. She didn't tell you to cook. She didn't ask if you could cook for them at your house. I don't know. I don't understand what the big deal is.

i think its more that they arent even staying with her, yet her MIL wants her to come to MIL's house and cook for grown adults. Idk to me thats kinda like, why would I want to do that at 38 weeks pregnant? and for people that arent even staying with me? I can see cooking for them if they were staying with you but if they're staying with someone else thats kind of an odd request IMO.

Sage4200 · August 2012

JennH28:
Sage4200:

mrs.kapow:
They need to be entertained? They're adults, I assume. Your MIL is crazycakes.

I have no words for how insane this woman is...this is the same MIL who wants to make a sign to pin on my son over the holidays so no one holds him

Hahaha what?!?

They have a huge Christmas Eve party and she doesnt want people touching him because of germs and told me whe was planning to make a sign to put on him. I told her it was not necessary and I would manage it.

Sage4200 · August 2012

msm261:
Sage4200:

LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Are you known among your family for being an incredible cook?

God, no..my SIL does NOT cook and MIL believes that men should be waited on hand and foot and since she will not be available to "entertain" her guests, she expects me too.

So wait, if your SIL doesn't cook what do they do? Eat out all the time or does her DH cook?

Her husband cooks, but MIL considers it a sin for a man to do anything for himself.

Sage4200 · August 2012

MarisaKathleen:
Sage4200:

LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Are you known among your family for being an incredible cook?

God, no..my SIL does NOT cook and MIL believes that men should be waited on hand and foot and since she will not be available to "entertain" her guests, she expects me too.

This actually made me LOL. Hysterically.

That being said, if you're up to it, why don't you guys all go out and get something to eat at a restaurant. If you guys have a good relationship, it'll probably be good to see them before the LO gets here!

That was our plan, but MIL was not aware of it. We didnt think we needed to run it by her.

mrs.kapow · August 2012

While I'd be annoyed, if you've already got a plan, I'd just tell her. She is in a whole other world by herself and it's not worth your stress level.

Or just tell her that's the day you're having the baby, so they'll have to fend for themselves. I want to hear that story.

Sage4200 · August 2012

Bethevans85:
At least she asked. I'm not sure why you are so upset. She asked you can say no. If I had family close by or in town I would gladly cook for them. Maybe that's just me. I just don't see what the big deal is. She didn't tell you to cook. She didn't ask if you could cook for them at your house. I don't know. I don't understand what the big deal is.

I personally think its rude to even ask me given that Im very pregnant. She has 3 SIL's and a Sister that live within a 5 mile radius. Cooking and cleaning up after 4 people is the last thing I want to do right now.

PercyMama · August 2012

Hell NO!

Sage4200 · August 2012

mrs.kapow:

While I'd be annoyed, if you've already got a plan, I'd just tell her. She is in a whole other world by herself and it's not worth your stress level.

Or just tell her that's the day you're having the baby, so they'll have to fend for themselves. I want to hear that story.

I replied back to her that we already had plans to go out to dinner with them and she replied back that she was hoping I could cook because they are tight on money. At this point Im not even going to respond, we are going out for Pizza and if they couldnt afford it, they would have passed when we asked them.

Shazzie116 · August 2012

Sage4200:
mrs.kapow:

While I'd be annoyed, if you've already got a plan, I'd just tell her. She is in a whole other world by herself and it's not worth your stress level.

Or just tell her that's the day you're having the baby, so they'll have to fend for themselves. I want to hear that story.

I replied back to her that we already had plans to go out to dinner with them and she replied back that she was hoping I could cook because they are tight on money. At this point Im not even going to respond, we are going out for Pizza and if they couldnt afford it, they would have passed when we asked them.

Why can't she just take the money she was going to spend on groceries (that you would be cooking - ha!) and give it to them to put towards dinner?

Your MIL is all sorts of crazy.

Pizza sounds wonderful.

redneckmomma25 · August 2012

Sage4200:
Bethevans85:
At least she asked. I'm not sure why you are so upset. She asked you can say no. If I had family close by or in town I would gladly cook for them. Maybe that's just me. I just don't see what the big deal is. She didn't tell you to cook. She didn't ask if you could cook for them at your house. I don't know. I don't understand what the big deal is.

I personally think its rude to even ask me given that Im very pregnant.  She has 3 SIL's and a Sister that live within a 5 mile radius.  Cooking and cleaning up after 4 people is the last thing I want to do right now. 

I really don't see how it is rude to be asked. I am 38 w pregnant too. I'm not dead.

If she demanded. Yes rude. She asked you. Not rude.

mrs.kapow · August 2012

Shazzie116:
Sage4200:
mrs.kapow:

While I'd be annoyed, if you've already got a plan, I'd just tell her. She is in a whole other world by herself and it's not worth your stress level.

Or just tell her that's the day you're having the baby, so they'll have to fend for themselves. I want to hear that story.

I replied back to her that we already had plans to go out to dinner with them and she replied back that she was hoping I could cook because they are tight on money. At this point Im not even going to respond, we are going out for Pizza and if they couldnt afford it, they would have passed when we asked them.
Why can't she just take the money she was going to spend on groceries (that you would be cooking - ha!) and give it to them to put towards dinner?
Your MIL is all sorts of crazy.
Pizza sounds wonderful.

She just gets better and better. I agree with Shaz! And now I know what I'm having for lunch...

Kris2011RN · August 2012

Sage4200:
mrs.kapow:

While I'd be annoyed, if you've already got a plan, I'd just tell her. She is in a whole other world by herself and it's not worth your stress level.

Or just tell her that's the day you're having the baby, so they'll have to fend for themselves. I want to hear that story.

I replied back to her that we already had plans to go out to dinner with them and she replied back that she was hoping I could cook because they are tight on money. At this point Im not even going to respond, we are going out for Pizza and if they couldnt afford it, they would have passed when we asked them.

Pizza is an inexpensive night out!

I feel bad because now that I have started my maternity, I have barely made DH dinner. There is no way that I would want to make dinner for my in-laws, unless I got a frozen lasagna!

Flamingemu · August 2012

HaHaHa - No!

tinyhumantoe · August 2012

Bethevans85:
At least she asked. I'm not sure why you are so upset. She asked you can say no.

If I had family close by or in town I would gladly cook for them. Maybe that's just me. I just don't see what the big deal is. She didn't tell you to cook. She didn't ask if you could cook for them at your house. I don't know. I don't understand what the big deal is.

I think it's a big deal. And F no to her. My mom could get away with asking this of me with a small eyeroll, but my head would spontaneously explode if MIL asked. How rude.

Lc102310 · August 2012

I know I am a little late to this one......but here is what went through my head.

"Are your SIL and BIL 12 years old?"

"They can't go out for dinner?"

"Wow your MIL has some stones to email you and ask you to make them dinner"

Sorry you are dealing with this......

monica92603 · August 2012

Sage4200:

LoveLossHopeRepeat:
Are you known among your family for being an incredible cook?

God, no..my SIL does NOT cook and MIL believes that men should be waited on hand and foot and since she will not be available to "entertain" her guests, she expects me too.

I was going to ask you the same thing.....if you were an exec chef somewhere. LOL. Simple answer would be OH NO I FVKING CAN NOT! Please oh please do not do this now @ 38w pg or any other time. Once you give in, it's hard to go back. I'm pissed for you.

rarazz · August 2012

Bethevans85:
Sage4200:
Bethevans85:
At least she asked. I'm not sure why you are so upset. She asked you can say no. If I had family close by or in town I would gladly cook for them. Maybe that's just me. I just don't see what the big deal is. She didn't tell you to cook. She didn't ask if you could cook for them at your house. I don't know. I don't understand what the big deal is.

I personally think its rude to even ask me given that Im very pregnant. She has 3 SIL's and a Sister that live within a 5 mile radius. Cooking and cleaning up after 4 people is the last thing I want to do right now.
I really don't see how it is rude to be asked. I am 38 w pregnant too. I'm not dead. If she demanded. Yes rude. She asked you. Not rude.

Yay you, you don't think it's rude and would bend over backwards at 38 weeks pregnant. Do you want a cookie?

I personally find it rude that she is asking OP to change plans and cook for them. If she was truly concerned she would make them food that they could pop in the oven or offer to leave money for them to go out or order pizza at home. OP your mil sounds like a gem.

diskogurl · August 2012

Shazzie116:

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