Should I go?

greenteabee · August 2012

The parents of my babies invited me to their house Friday for a movie night, and I'm not sure if I should accept or not? I've been really curious about seeing their house in person, but the caseworker told us to have as much contact as you plan on after the babies get here, and I'm not sure if this kind of thing would be regular or not? Is it okay to ask them if they want me to come every movie night, or does that sound either clingy or bad? Or should I just go and wait and see if they invite me again? I'm really not sure how much contact they want with me.

arbutusbride · August 2012

I think you should go so you can get to know them better. I wouldn't ask if you can come every movie night, that may be a bit weird. They are probably trying to figure you out too.

kacelle · August 2012

My guess is that they want you to come and see their home and want to get to know you better at this stage, not that they want an extreme amount of contact after the baby is born. But you could always ask! If you've wanted to see their home and you're comfortable with it, I think the movie night will be a great way of casually getting to know each other.

reenie83 · August 2012

I agree with the other girls. If you feel comfortable, then I think it's a great opportunity for you to see their house and spend some more time getting to know them. Have you all discussed the type of contact you'd like to have after the babies are born?

Ginny0211 · August 2012

I would say go. You wanted to see the house and get to know them better and this is a perfect opportunity.

If you are afraid they are planning on a different amount of contact than you are, then this would be a good time to talk to them and see what they are thinking.

srmmm09 · August 2012

Go! This is the "getting to know you" phase, not the "this is the way it will be forever" phase. It's exciting that they're inviting you to their house!

Blsd4given · August 2012

arbutusbride:

I think you should go so you can get to know them better. I wouldn't ask if you can come every movie night, that may be a bit weird. They are probably trying to figure you out too.

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Also, I get the impression that you are hoping for a lot of contact with them... If that's the case, make sure that's very clear. Be honest about how much contact you are expecting. If you're looking to see them weekly/monthly/quarterly/whatever, let them know upfront. And, they should be honest with you as well.

Good luck! Enjoy movie night!

DaisyZH · August 2012

If I remember correctly you had been interested in seeing their home, so I say definately go for it! It's a great opportunity to also see them comfortable in their home so you might get to know them even more. Good luck Smile