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And we're going to adopt.

maryoosamaryoosa member
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So we were on the fertility roller coaster- not just dealing with being queer and trying to get pregnant with AI, but being infertile and trying the same thing. And I'm done with it. The fertility drugs make me feel like *** and given my age and PCOS history the chances of conception without IVF actually working were slim. So we're going to try adoption.

 

Marisa

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Re: And we're going to adopt.

  • JoySeattleJoySeattle member
    How are you planning to adopt? Domestic or international? Private? Foster-to-adopt?
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  • KershnicKershnic member
    Good luck with your new plan.  I'm sure it's really difficult to switch gears in your family building planning, but there are so many amazing adoption stories (and of course infertility treatment sucks).  Stick around and keep us updated on your adoption journey!
    TTC with PCOS since July 2011.
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  • thiswillbethiswillbe
    Glad you've found a new plan that feels right to you. Best wishes!
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  • LolaBelle515LolaBelle515 member
    Sending you comfort as you transition a new plan, and sending you hope and joy for growing your family through adoption! 
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  • tdmklmtdmklm member
    Hugs, and, love, and best wishes.
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  • ctbride08ctbride08 member
    Best thing we ever did was to put an end to the IF/TTC craziness and pour our hearts into adopting our babies!!  We havent regretted it for a millisecond!

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  • JGYJGY member

    Good luck with the new plan!  I know we all hope you stick around and keep us updated.

     

    Married to my amazing wife 6/12/10 
    TTC since 6/11
    Unmedicated IUI #1 - 6/28/11 - BFN
    Unmedicated IUI #2 - 7/25/11 - BFN
    Robotic Myomectomy (Fibroid Surgery) - 11/15/11
    Unmedicated IUI #3 - 4/24/12 - BFN 
    Progesterone Supported Leuteal Phase IUI #4 - 6/21/12 - BFP!!
    Baby Boy G Born 3/24/13

    On to #2, are we crazy?
    IUI #1 - 11/28/14 - BFP!  Beta #1 (11DPO) 34, Beta #2 (13DPO) 101, Beta #3 (20DPO) 3043
    Ultrasound at 6w4d shows a single, fluttering heartbeat.  Say hello to Sticky Ricki!

     

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  • maryoosamaryoosa member

    JoySeattle,

     

    We will be doing domestic infant adoption through an agency. While I'm pro-foster-to-adopt my partner, and my extended family, feel that the heartbreak options are too great to invest in that (not that they are necessarily less so with adoption, but they are different),  and with most international adoption adopting as a queer couple is impossible. At least in NYC, since we are legally married, we can adopt as a married couple, which is important for us.

     To whoever said it was the best decision you made-- seriously? Can I say how much carrying around fertility issue *** was making me miserable? I feel nearly joyous now. A much better scenario for creating love for a wee one. 

     Thanks for the hearty welcome y'all. 

     

    Marisa 

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  • JoySeattleJoySeattle member
    Congrats on the decision and best wishes on this path to parenthood!
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