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3rd Trimester
SLWoody
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OMG You're ONLY 34 weeks along??
SLWoody
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I am SO tired of hearing how unbelievably HUGE I am for 34 weeks. Prepregnancy I am not super skinny (5'5" and 130lbs) - but all of the 33lbs (so far) have seemingly been put on in my mid-section, so truthfully I do look a little big. From the back you can't even tell I'm pregnant but it's pretty large from the front. I have a mirror. I can also look down so I am quite aware of how large I look. I am so tired of hearing it. From people I know well to complete strangers. I absolutely cannot stand it when people feign disbelief at my due date. It's not about the weight either - I am fine with however much weight I gain right now. I just don't understand why people think it is appropriate to keep talking about it.
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Re: OMG You're ONLY 34 weeks along??
DS born 9/25/12
DS #2 due 6/13/16
I am sorry people are so insensitive. Take a little comfort in knowing that you are not the only one who hears constant comments like that. I will never understand why people feel that it is their duty to tell you things about your body when you are pregnant. Would you say that to me if I wasn't pregnant? If the answer is no, then you probably shouldn't say it at all. I was told by my MIL that I looked "miserable" the other day...keep in mind I am 38W 5D pregnant, I am not dilated, not anything and ready to be done AND i was at a house party with 15+ drunk people. I think she is misinterpreted my pissed off look for miserable.
PS- I bet you look wonderful!
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The grass is always greener.
I'm a week ahead of you and I'm tired of the "OMG you are carrying so small" comments. People think I'm due in December instead of next month........
I do carry small but people are making me feel so paranoid that I'm too tiny. And I am NOT a small girl. I'm 5'-6" and average weight, but I've only put on 9lbs total this PG (i've been working with a trainer).............
Hang in there!!!! And wear ear plugs! LOL!
ugh I had a second person at work ask me if I was sure it wasn't twins!!!!
Why is it ok to constantly comment on a pregnant person's weight?
I never thought of it from the other side! I'm sure that's annoying too. I guess I just don't understand why people think they HAVE to comment on the way a pregnant woman looks, is carrying, is gaining weight, etc. 5weeks left for you - good luck! I am starting to get so nervous/scared.excited.
UGH this is the worst! The next time someone says "are you sure there's not two of them in there" I might just walk away. Seriously.
People just say stuff. Most times, it's not to intentionally hurt you or make you feel bad. Theyr'e just not using their brain filter.........LOL!
It never stops - you'll get parenting advice, napping/feeding/sleeping/discipline advice, etc. UGH!
Best wishes!
When I was around 5 months pregnant I had a couple people that wouldn't stop telling me how big I was and I just wanted to smack 'em. I have actually had people as me flat out how much weight I've gained through-out the pregnancy. I have actually started taking the approach that if you have the nerve to ask the stupid question then you will get my "Excuse me? That's not an appropriate question to ask anyone" response. I don't really care if they are embarrassed anymore. I know I'm big.. I feel huge all the time, I'm uncomfortable and if you want to ask the stupid question or make the stupid comment that's not my problem.
Agreed. I am constantly being told how "tiny" I am...but I don't feel tiny...I am really not that far along, but I guess people assume I should be huge because I am in my 3rd trimester. I know it's only a matter of time before I start to get the opposite comments...
I get this too! I am due in 3 weeks, and people always ask me if I'm sure there is a baby in there. Yes I'm sure. Thanks for the comment. I was slightly overweight to begin with, so maybe they expect me to be bigger? I don't know. It's annoying as well. People just need to learn to keep their mouths shut!
I am fairly lucky and usually hear "you really have popped" or last month you could tell you were pregnant but now there is no mistake.
This weekend...I was close to tears. We visited Ikea (DH, DS and MIL) and afterwards, I was super tired and uncomfortable. As I got into the drivers seat, my MIL says "are you sure you do not have twins in there". I was close to tears.
How do woman not understand that we do not want to hear opinions on our size...what woman does??!!
How can people say ONLY 34 weeks... you're almost full term. People are idiots. How does anyone benefit from them saying that?
This! Someone at work told me "With all the weight you've gained, you should get tested for diabetes." WTF?! The doctor says I'm measuring right on track. People are out of control.
OMG that is sooo out of control! People are disgusting.
I'm a teacher and since school got back in, EVERY parent thinks they need to put in their two cents...either "but you have a long time to go right?" (Umm, no, October is like, next month...) or "wow, you are so big. Why aren't you at home resting?" Either I'm so big I need to be on bed rest or so small I have FOREVER to go...figure it out people!
I am getting those comments now.........but at 28 weeks!!! They are shocked when I tell them I have another 3 months, and no twins. Really? I am within the weight that is ok. I asked my Dr yesterday:) Then I get the "it must be a hefty baby" comment. - "Well, stranger, my first 2 were 7lb-ers so, nope, I just get big. "
I hate the "Oh, I'm sooooooo sorry" when they find out it is my 3rd boy. Very rude!
I am right there with you girl! I had a coworker, who just so happens to be the mother of 2 young children, tell me that I needed to stop feeding my baby/eating because I was never going to make it through the last month of my pregnancy. I also had a neighbor who I had never spoken to before say she couldn't believe I wasn't due until October since my belly was so huge. I told both of these people that my Dr. has us both measuring perfectly on time and that I LOVE MY BELLY! For goodness sake, I'm only 5'1", there is no where else for this baby to go but out!
People are crazy and I'm glad to hear that I am not alone!
I am right there with you! Some of my coworkers keep saying "OMG I'm telling you, you're having twins", "That belly is REALLY popping". OK, hello I am aware that I am large. And then today one of them says "Oh so and so is 36 weeks pregnant, and youre only 31 and MUCH bigger than her, you must be having twins". Well I have had numerous ultrasounds, including a 3D/4D and it is clear I am only having one so thanks for making me feel like crap.
I don't care how much weight I gain either as long as the baby is healthy. But I have gained what seems to be a ton of weight, plus I already started out as a thicker girl to begin with and the comments do not help with my self esteem!! Luckily one nice comment I hear is that it doesn't look like I have gained anything but baby weight, my face is still slimmer and the only thing that looks bigger is my belly.
Thanks for the vent
This is so true. I live in Africa where women typically wear baggy dresses during pregnancy, so I get LOTS of stares and comments about my size when I go out in my form fitting Gap t-shirts. And I haven't gained much weight at all.
And I know that before I was pregnant, I had NO idea of how big people are at different stages of pregnancy. But at least I had enough sense to tell all pregnant women they "look great!"
My personal favorite is when middle age men have an opinion on how big you should/ shouldn't be. That is bizarre to me.