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(XP 2u2) 2nd baby milestones

EMOmammaEMOmamma member
in December 2010 Moms

I feel like I'm kind of failing my DD. My DS was rolling both ways at 3.5 months and she just turned 3 months and is not even close to rolling one way. She can push up and hold her head but really just has no interest. I know it could just be different babies but part of it feels like it's my fault. (and I know I shouldn't compare but like that's possible!)

With my son I was able to spend all of his awake time playing with him, doing tummy time, singing, but with this 2nd baby I only get quality 1on1 time with her when he is napping. So she only gets like 1 hour per day of mom time. Now that I'm back to work that only happens on the weekends too. Because DS is so rambunctious I can't just set her on the floor for tummy time if I'm not literally hovering over her.

I don't even know what I'm asking for, I guess this is just a vent. Maybe if someone could tell me that she won't always be behind in milestones.


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  • Serendipity117Serendipity117 member

    I understand how you feel. I mean, I knew things like this would/could be a bit of an issue because there are just so many hours in the day but I thought it would be better than it is sometimes. We try to make up for it on weekends when DH and I are both home. Like you said, every baby is different and I keep trying to remember that and since O and G couldn't be more different personality wise it makes it a little easier.

    Hang in there. If nothing else, this board is great for venting concerns and such. Even better now that there are a few of us that are going through the same age stages with #2 while we are also dealing with #1.

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  • JoJoMama730JoJoMama730 member
    She's not behind, she's just different than DS!  I don't think my DD was rolling or pushing up at all by 3 mos, and I was home with her for 8 weeks before returning to work.  My girl was also not walking at one year.  Each child is different (I know you know this), and I think the hard part for you is going to be trying to not compare them all the time (you know this too), and when you do, trying to not lay the blame on yourself when they aren't exactly the same (which you also know).  It's an internal struggle you are going to face a lot, and it's so easy to take on that mommy guilt.  You just might need some gentle reminders from us over time to cut yourself a break. Smile

     

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  • jillybean800jillybean800 member

    Ugh, I know it's going to be so hard not to compare! But I'm sure it will all be fine...she is still well within the realm of normal.  2nd babies also do other things faster: walk, because they see their older bros and sis's do it, give up bottles, pacis, etc. in the quest to be "big," etc.  So think of the easier time you will have with that!  Just try not to be so hard on yourself...I know, I know, easier said than done, but sometimes it may just take a conscious effort for you to do!

    BTW, we had one of these for tummy time...could this be a good choice for you since the sides might encourage DS to avoid that area?  He won't be able to just charge over this area the way he could a blanket on the floor...

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  • jnicolen1jnicolen1 member
    Hang in there! Oliver didn't roll over till 4 months. Duncan turns 4 months tomorrow and he can roll front to back and almost back to front. Like you... I spend less time with him than I did with Oliver so I really think its individual to each baby. As long as you give him some opportunity it's fine.
    Also Oliver jumps all over him too so I put the play may in the corner and sit in front of it. You could also put a baby corral thing around it if you are really worried.
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  • smithpaintsmithpaint member
    It is not your fault at all.  I have had 5 kids - they all crawled, rolled over, walked, etc. at different ages.  Each and every kid is different.  I definitely have felt guilty before because it's hard to spend individual time with each child the more kids you have. 

     

     

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  • TripMommaTripMomma member

    Jericho for sure got less floor time than the triplets did, since I had three 2 1/2 years olds running around I didn't always feel it was a safe place for him LOL. Jericho still has done everything quicker than the trio...granted they were 9 weeks premature at birth. Just having an older sib to watch and learn from does so much, Jericho has really blown us away. Every baby is different, but I bet she will come right along.

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  • janneann1127janneann1127 member

    I know I'm just repeating what everyone has already said, but it is not your fault!! Griffin seriously didn't roll over until he was almost 6 months old. He has hit every other milestone early, but that one just wasn't it for him. All kids are different. Try not to beat yourself up!

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  • bosha711bosha711 member
    awww, don't feel bad! DS didn't roll till 4-5 months & I also spent every waking moment playing with him, etc. Just like all the babies on this board are different, so too are siblings.

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  • EMOmammaEMOmamma member
    Thanks ladies. I know the rolling thing isn't that big of a deal but it was just the physical "proof" of what I was already feeling. I'm just stretched really thin these days so I feel like everyone, and everything, is getting shafted in some way.

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