should i side-eye this? (post from 3rd tri)

ifwisheswerefishes · August 2012

https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/68332861.aspx

found this post during some 3rd tri stalking...maybe it just rubbed me the wrong way, but why would you even ask this question?

i side-eyed a little bit...would anyone else, or am i just overly judgy-grumpy-pregnant chick today?

krissers2012 · August 2012

I also side-eye but I suppose she could have worded it wrongly. I know many times I've wanted to know the same thing, just so I knew she would be okay if anything happened. Although it doesn't sound like that is what she meant :

Flamingemu · August 2012

krissers2012:
I also side-eye but I suppose she could have worded it wrongly. I know many times I've wanted to know the same thing, just so I knew she would be okay if anything happened. Although it doesn't sound like that is what she meant :

I am totally with you in being curious, wanting to make sure nothing would go wrong, but I don't think that is what she meant. I really hope she doesn't turn into one of those women that starts begging for an induction because she can't wait anymore.

blindvictory · August 2012

I side-eye a little bit, but then I realize I'm a total freaking hypocrite because I've secretly wondered the same thing. Logically, I know my little guy needs to keep baking, but there's part of me that is so uncomfortable that I kind of have wondered, "He'd be ok if he came out a little early, right? I mean, 37 weeks IS full term, riiiiight?"

ETA: I would never, NEVER ask for an induction for my own comfort's sake. But I wouldn't be upset if he spontaneously came on his own at 39 weeks or something.

mamaHippo23 · August 2012

It looks like that was her first time posting on these boards, so she was probably just thinking out loud, without really thinking first. Obviously everyone's just going to tell her to shut up and suck it up.

wannabigfam · August 2012

I never understand people wanting to be done w/ pregnancy, because it's such a SHORT period of one's life and you only get to be pregnant so many times. I love it! But the question doesn't bother me. I know I asked my midwife at what point they would stop my labor - just so I could know at what point I am safe to labor at home as long as I want (and not worry about needing to head to the hospital for them to intervene). At our hospital it is 34 weeks. I am sure some people would side-eye someone laboring at home as long at possible at 34 weeks, but my dr. is cool with it.

blindvictory · August 2012

wannabigfam:
I never understand people wanting to be done w/ pregnancy, because it's such a SHORT period of one's life and you only get to be pregnant so many times.

Because some of us are incredibly uncomfortable, in constant pain for the last month or more, and the only way for that pain to go away is for a baby to come out. I'm thrilled to bits that I'm going to have a baby to love and raise, but I'm not even going to try to pretend that I'm not ready for it to be over. It's not magical fluffy fun time for everyone.

misspunky · August 2012

blindvictory:
I side-eye a little bit, but then I realize I'm a total freaking hypocrite because I've secretly wondered the same thing. Logically, I know my little guy needs to keep baking, but there's part of me that is so uncomfortable that I kind of have wondered, "He'd be ok if he came out a little early, right? I mean, 37 weeks IS full term, riiiiight?"
ETA: I would never, NEVER ask for an induction for my own comfort's sake. But I wouldn't be upset if he spontaneously came on his own at 39 weeks or something.

Yes, all of this! I also think the OP may have merely been curious. I've wondered the same thing, but more in the sense that if I would go into labor, would my baby be okay? Not as in I'm going to get an induction because I'm uncomfortable.

mystrana · August 2012

blindvictory:
wannabigfam:
I never understand people wanting to be done w/ pregnancy, because it's such a SHORT period of one's life and you only get to be pregnant so many times.
Because some of us are incredibly uncomfortable, in constant pain for the last month or more, and the only way for that pain to go away is for a baby to come out. I'm thrilled to bits that I'm going to have a baby to love and raise, but I'm not even going to try to pretend that I'm not ready for it to be over. It's not magical fluffy fun time for everyone.

Very much this. I had been sailing along with only minor complaints and as the last week has passed by, I've found out just how annoying and painful pregnancy can be. Yeah, knowing there's a baby at the end makes it worth it, but that doesn't make the fact that it hurts now any different.

And yes, I'll admit to having a small amount of hope that somehow my baby is ready to be born before my due date, but I just can't justify doing anything more than wondering.

mandawest · August 2012

blindvictory:
It's not magical fluffy fun time for everyone.

THIS. I will not miss it one bit.

jlh2716 · August 2012

wannabigfam:
I never understand people wanting to be done w/ pregnancy, because it's such a SHORT period of one's life and you only get to be pregnant so many times. I love it! But the question doesn't bother me. I know I asked my midwife at what point they would stop my labor - just so I could know at what point I am safe to labor at home as long as I want (and not worry about needing to head to the hospital for them to intervene). At our hospital it is 34 weeks. I am sure some people would side-eye someone laboring at home as long at possible at 34 weeks, but my dr. is cool with it.

Good for you. A lot of us don't. I hate being pregnant. I know it's worth it in the end, but pregnancy is pretty darn uncomfortable, and very painful for some. Having said that, I don't want DD coming before she's ready. It just wouldn't hurt my feelings in the slightest if she decided to be ready sometime tonight...

mrs.kapow · August 2012

SharkFarts:
No it's totally side-eye worthy. It's a totally ridiculous question. Which is especially funny considering her "I went natural" badge. It's irrationally frustrating to me, haha.

That always bothers me. Mainly because it's those women who make this huge deal of going "natural" and put way too much pressure on themselves. Who knows what will happen? Cart before horse much?

weddingnewbie2011 · August 2012

blindvictory:
It's not magical fluffy fun time for everyone.

I just have to +1 this. Don't get me wrong, I feel incredibly blessed and grateful to be pregnant especially seeing some of my friends struggle. However, I can't wait to meet my baby in person. I know it's selfish to say this but I'm in constant pain, exhaustion and my hands & feet are so swollen I can't get anything accomplished these days (typing this out makes me weep a little). I want my LO to bake as long as she desires but if she decides to announce her arrival at 37 weeks 0 day (which my midwife told me is when she'll be safe to come out), I wouldn't argue with her

HKearl · August 2012

jlh2716:
wannabigfam:
I never understand people wanting to be done w/ pregnancy, because it's such a SHORT period of one's life and you only get to be pregnant so many times. I love it! But the question doesn't bother me. I know I asked my midwife at what point they would stop my labor - just so I could know at what point I am safe to labor at home as long as I want (and not worry about needing to head to the hospital for them to intervene). At our hospital it is 34 weeks. I am sure some people would side-eye someone laboring at home as long at possible at 34 weeks, but my dr. is cool with it.
Good for you. A lot of us don't. I hate being pregnant. I know it's worth it in the end, but pregnancy is pretty darn uncomfortable, and very painful for some. Having said that, I don't want DD coming before she's ready. It just wouldn't hurt my feelings in the slightest if she decided to be ready sometime tonight...

Oh how I love this. And agreed, 100% It's amazing and all that jazz but the 'not comfortable' level is pretty darn high right now.

Stasi · August 2012

I would side eye this post only because there is no way to tell if a baby is going to need NICU time or not...she should have been able to piece that together.

That being said, I did ask what the minimum age was for a baby not be automatically taken to the NICU ony hospital tour. They told me 35 weeks anything earlier they would probably take her for 24 hrs. for observation. I just asked out of curiosity and that's specific to my hospital.

INmommy871278 · August 2012

SharkFarts:
blindvictory:

I side-eye a little bit, but then I realize I'm a total freaking hypocrite because I've secretly wondered the same thing. Logically, I know my little guy needs to keep baking, but there's part of me that is so uncomfortable that I kind of have wondered, "He'd be ok if he came out a little early, right? I mean, 37 weeks IS full term, riiiiight?"

ETA: I would never, NEVER ask for an induction for my own comfort's sake. But I wouldn't be upset if he spontaneously came on his own at 39 weeks or something.

Yeah, but she's not even due until October. At the least, she has over a month left. It's too early. I agree with being curious about how baby would do if they were born early, but the tone of her post sounds like she's just ready to be done. Maybe I'm being sensitive.

The last sentence of her post says: "I'm willing to wait as long as she is, but I was really just curious" I think she was just wanting to know for reassurance purposes, but worded it completely wrong making it sound like she was ready to start begging for an induction.

ilovehouses · August 2012

wannabigfam:
I never understand people wanting to be done w/ pregnancy, because it's such a SHORT period of one's life and you only get to be pregnant so many times. I love it! But the question doesn't bother me. I know I asked my midwife at what point they would stop my labor - just so I could know at what point I am safe to labor at home as long as I want (and not worry about needing to head to the hospital for them to intervene). At our hospital it is 34 weeks. I am sure some people would side-eye someone laboring at home as long at possible at 34 weeks, but my dr. is cool with it.

See, the thing is you are loving your pregnancy. Me personally, I cannot stand it at this point. I am completely and utterly miserable. Everything hurts. I want to cry just getting out of bed in the middle of the night because of the pain. I'm so unbelievably tired. I can stand it a little more now that I'm on bed rest and not having to go to work with all the pain and the sleepiness, but really, it's still just a miserable experience. If I was told I had to live this way for the rest of my life because of some mystery disease, I think suicide and depression would be in my future. It's not just a little uncomfortableness at this point.

Still, i want my baby to be healthy and wouldn't take an offer to be induced if given that option (for non medical reasons). I still cried at my doctor's suggestion that I may have to be induced for pre-e, but I GET it.

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