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Should I ask for my maternity clothes back?

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I loaned most of my stash to moms-to-be due in August, October, and December. I already got the August loaners back and think I can manage waiting until the October baby arrives before getting those back. I will definitely need the rest of my stash before December though. Should I gently ask the Dec mom to give them back at some point, or suck it up and buy new clothes? TIA!
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Re: Should I ask for my maternity clothes back?

  • CloudBeeCloudBee member

    Honestly, I think it would be rude at this point.  You shouldn't have loaned them out if you were TTC.  I think it would be incredibly awkward to ask for them back.

    There's a good chance that if they are close enough friends that you let them borrow the clothes - a light bulb may go off in their head and they will offer the clothing back once they see your growing belly.

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  • mommajewels87mommajewels87 member
    I *personally* wouldn't feel comfortable asking for them back.. although I also don't see any harm in you doing so, if you choose to. And from the perspective of the person you lent them to, I also wouldn't see any harm in it. I would probably say, "hey... if your by chance not using the clothes I lent you, I could definitely use them now!" or something like that. Just to gently hint along and surely if they don't truely need them, they will give them back with no issues
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  • lkm2006lkm2006 member
    I also wouldn't feel right asking for clothes back that you already loaned out. Maybe it will run across her mind and she will offer them back but otherwise, I would suck it up. It does suck though!

     

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  • markhamgurlmarkhamgurl member

    That was nice of you to loan them out to so many people already!  Maybe you could ask the Dec. mom if she wouldn't mind handing-back anything she thinks she won't wear (perhaps there are some things that aren't her style or she knows won't fit) since..  SURPRISE! .. you're now expecting, too?

    That way it comes across as more of a polite but considerate request instead of a demand (which is probably how I'd end-up making it sound, I'd be so desperate to get my stuff back!). 

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  • KristyVitKristyVit
    Depends on your relationship with the person and how much she has belong to you. I think if the person knows you are pregnant then they should clue in that you will need them back. Or you could always just say you need them back in a nice way... Like "at the rate I am growing I think I am going to need those clothes I lent to you back pretty soon". It might be a little rude but nice maternity clothes is hard to come by... If it is just a few pieces I would just ask for it back in December though.
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  • ~pennstatebride~~pennstatebride~
    Yeah it's a touchy subject, that's why I figured I'd poll for some advice! FWIW we were not TTC when I loaned out the clothing. 
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  • krisztina33krisztina33
    I think it would be rude at this point as well...
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  • Anne MommyAnne Mommy member
    It depends on how you lent them out. I got some hand me down clothes and it was stated that she really didn't want them back. If they knew you were TTC, then I might mention it in a light and friendly way. I liked the pp about growing so much you are going to need maternity clothes sooner than you thought.
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  • CloudBeeCloudBee member

    image~pennstatebride~:
    Yeah it's a touchy subject, that's why I figured I'd poll for some advice! FWIW we were not TTC when I loaned out the clothing. 

    Then if you're super close, I might confide in her early that I'm pregnant, and hopefully she will naturally give some or all of it back.

    I bet it's a tough spot.  Sorry!  It was nice of you to lend the stuff out.

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  • PinkRoses53PinkRoses53 member
    Once the mom has the baby then I definitely see no problem with asking for them back. I do think it is kind of rude to ask for them back during the friend's pregnancy.

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  • ArtzichickArtzichick
    If it was a close friend I would have no problem asking for the clothes back that she is not using since you are surprise....expecting.  That is if you "lent" them to her to begin with instead of "giving" them to her.
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  • ~pennstatebride~~pennstatebride~
    After reading everyone's advice I think I will do the following: wait until I truly need them (hopefully not for another month or so), and then ask for any pieces back that she isn't using. We are close enough that I feel comfortable doing that. The rest of it, it's her prerogative. These were indeed "loaners" so the expectation is that I (eventually) get all the pieces returned. Thanks again everyone!
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  • Upper West SideUpper West Side member

    image~pennstatebride~:
    After reading everyone's advice I think I will do the following: wait until I truly need them (hopefully not for another month or so), and then ask for any pieces back that she isn't using. We are close enough that I feel comfortable doing that. The rest of it, it's her prerogative. These were indeed "loaners" so the expectation is that I (eventually) get all the pieces returned. Thanks again everyone!

    That sounds like a good plan.  It might not even come to you having to ask.  If I found out that a friend who loaned me maternity clothes was now pregnant, I would insist that she take back the clothes that I borrowed. 


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    imageCloudBee:

    Honestly, I think it would be rude at this point.  You shouldn't have loaned them out if you were TTC.  I think it would be incredibly awkward to ask for them back.

    There's a good chance that if they are close enough friends that you let them borrow the clothes - a light bulb may go off in their head and they will offer the clothing back once they see your growing belly.

    This.  

    Maybe you can ask the Dec girl if you could have any of the stuff she might have outgrown, belly wise.   

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