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MonicaClaire13
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Registry disclaimer? Is there a way to do it right?
MonicaClaire13
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I have a TON of newborn baby girl clothes for my LO. I really don't need anymore, it's not even funny how much was given to us but LOs little cousins. However, there a ton of other things I need and want that I have on my registry and any clothing from 3 or so mos. on, we could use. I'm worried based off past baby showers I've attended that the newborn clothing gift will be overwhelming.
Would it be rude to put a disclaimer out on the registry website saying "Due to some adorable hand me downs, our little girl is already well stocked with clothing for her first months, but feel free to help us expand her closet to the later months." or something??
as always, we're grateful for anything given to us.
but I would hate to have to return a ton of gifts because we couldn't use them 
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Re: Registry disclaimer? Is there a way to do it right?
I am not sure there is a tactful way to include that in a registry or baby shower invite. Perhaps if you register for only the size clothing you would like, say 6-9month clothing it would help clue people in to what you need without you having to tell people?
I think I have one coat for a 3 month old that I registered for from some online website, but you're right I wouldn't really register for clothing.
There has to be something I can do to let people know though, even if it's outside of the registry?
Cause I don't even think we'll even be able to use all the hand-me-downs we've gotten, and I know I can return the stuff, but I feel like it would be more rude to do that
This. And, I got one newborn size outfit at my shower. All the other clothes I received were 6 months and higher so you may not get as many smaller sizes as you think you will.
This, exactly... Or some people REALLY love to buy clothes, so if they ask, you could say, "Well, LO is set on this size, but we don't have a lot of this size yet." My great-aunt sent me a TON of clothes up to 6 months, so when people asked what I wanted for my shower, I told them that she had generously supplied him with a lot of clothes up to 6 months. Those people bought bigger sizes, and I of course still got a ton of clothes at my shower from people who didn't ask (and no receipts), but hey... That's okay... Less laundry for me I figure.
This.
Baby Boy born sleeping at 20 weeks.
Yep. And a lot of guests may buy larger sizes, anyway. I never buy newborn clothes for a baby shower. I always try to pick something 3 mos. or larger. If you get too many newborn items, you can most likely exchange them for larger sizes. Just don't remove the tags until you've had a chance to really go through everything!
Exactly this. There is no appropriate way to put it in a registry or shower invite. It is okay to mention it if people ask about clothes though.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
I don't even think people I know really know how to use a gift receipt or to even ask for one, If they did, I wouldn't've even posted this
Just to let you know
There's no proper way to do it other than word of mouth.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
I don't think there's a tactful way to put it on your registry. If people are looking at your registry, hopefully they'll select items off of it. Other than that, you can just mention how many hand-me-downs you've received if people bring the subject up. A cute picture of your baby's well-stocked closet on facebook couldn't hurt, either. It is hard not to buy the cute girly clothes as a shower gift, though!
If it makes you feel any better, everybody mom-to-be has this exact same problem. We all receive way too many little tiny cutesy outfits and not enough bigger more practical clothes. Case in point: I have 3 0-3-month-sized bathing suits for my little guy due at the very end of summer (any day now, actually). How many times do you think we will go swimming in the next 3 months? See what I mean?
There are 2 kinds of babygift shoppers: Those that shop off the registry or try to come up with really useful items they know you need, and those that pick out stuff like miniaturized bathing suits because they can't resist them! If they were thinking rationally, clearly they would know that some nice 3-6-month-sized pajamas would be more practical, but they are indulging what you as a mother can't indulge. I would say, don't burst their bubble! If you want to return/exchange stuff for other sizes, go for it. But you just can't really expect all people to buy exactly what you need.
I didn't have this problem. I bought things as I saw them/found them during pregnancy and my registry was very minimal (things I hadn't already gotten on my own). When guests asked(myself, my mom or my hostesses) "What does she still need?", assuming they didn't know already about my shopping, they were told that "she has already a lot of clothes and other items, but the items on the registry were things she is still looking for/needs"
I got a lot of blankets, diapers and some random other things I still needed. I can't think of more than two or three pieces of clothes I received and they were all larger sizes. To note: I needed to go out and buy NB clothes once my son was born because I didn't buy enough.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
Every single thing I received, except for 1 homemade blanket, had a gift receipt. I wouldn't stress.
I use them for any gift especially if I'm having trouble deciding on what to get or what the person likes, so yes, I think it's strange that apparently hardly anyone I know uses them, but, there's not much I can do about it. I usually like what I get but, sometimes I get doubles of things and I have no way to exchange/return them.
I guess this depends on your circle..? Every baby shower I've been to/thrown has had a majority of the gifts be baby clothing. Sometimes the people get bigger sizes but there are a lot of people who tend to get carried away with how cute the tiniest stuff is.
I think that I will just casually mention it if people ask, and hopefully I'll get gift receipts for anything I can't use.
I don't know if it depends on the circle or the mom to be. When someone sees you literally have NOTHING (or next to it) purchased for your baby, they tend to go a little more crazy, thinking you need everything. There will always be Aunt Susie who likes to buy little dresses or outfits, but most of the people invited to my shower usually buy clothes for showers. I really think it had to do with the fact that I literally had already gotten most of everything I needed on my own.
He's the single greatest thing I've done in my life and reminds me daily of how fun (and funny) life can be. He's turned out pretty swell for having such a heartless and evil mother.
This. People are going to give you clothes no matter what. If the clothes aren't your style or are in a size you don't need, exchange them.
I'm having the same issue with my shower/registry. We have a full stocked closet thanks to hand me downs and grandma. I have clothes already up to 3T. I put a note on the registry that says "We have been blessed with an abundance of clothing, but we still need all the essentials." I don't feel its rude, although I know there are some people who post would disagree. I would hope people would rather get me things I need & can use versus "cute" clothing that will just sit in a drawer and never be worn. Hopefully, If they do give us clothes, i will be able to return them and get something useful.
for example, My husband's aunt asked us last week what we needed. I told her we definitely did not need clothes but still needed diapers, bottles, car seat, changing pads, etc...She said she wanted to get me something fun. I told her cloth diapers could be fun because they come in cute prints! That then turned into a big argument about why cloth diapers are stupid and how she also thinks I'm an idiot for registering on amazon.com. Anyways, hopefully whatever she gives us will come with a gift receipt. I know my attitude may not seem like the greatest right now, but I'm just tired of people like her who judge me no matter what.