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December 2010 Moms
keags5496
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I need some advice (long and NBR)....
keags5496
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First some background. My mother is an identical twin and both her and her twin were stay at home mom's growing up. Because of this, my and my siblings grew up super close to my cousins (we went to school together and spent 5 of 7 days out of a week together in some way). My cousin K had a bit of a rough go of things when she was 18 (had a baby, scraped college plans, etc.), but has done really great for herself and now has two beautiful LOs and a great guy. K and her younger sister A have always had a bit of a tough relationship. They'd go from best friends to enemies quickly, but they have still always been in each other's lives.
Fast forward to today. My cousin A is getting married in less than a month and asked K to be her maid of honor over a year ago. Apparently, A EMAILED K the other day that not only was she not in her wedding, she was not allowed to go. After talking to neutral parties the other day this apparently completely unprovoked. Yesterday we were all at a baby shower and I did not know that this was going down between K and A and I ended up spending most of the time with A (she was more or less attached to my hip). I found out when I left what had happened and called K to apologize and let her know that I was there if she needed me. Come to find out that A had texted K after the shower to say that "obviously the family would choose to spend time with her." Ugh!
So the problem. I don't even feel like going to the wedding now, let alone giving them a gift, but I'm also being put in the middle of this. I want to confront A, but I also don't want to make the situation worse. What would you do?
And if you've read this far, you deserve a HUGE glass of wine and some cake 
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Re: I need some advice (long and NBR)....
I think the text was really nice that you sent and I hope K takes you up on your offer to talk. But I think you still have to go to the wedding. You really don't know the whole story, so I think it's important that you remain impartial for now, while still making yourself available as a sympathetic ear to anyone who needs it. I would go, see your family and not talk about the situation while you are there.
There's got to be more to this story than what the sisters are revealing to you. Since they're both very close to you, I'd probably continue to be a friend to K as you have without burning bridges with A. There's a good chance, as sisters, that they'll make up someday, so you wouldn't want it to be awkward if they do.
Is this a sudden behavior change in A or has she always been a little difficult to get along with? If it's very sudden, I might wonder if there are some underlying issues that she needs some help with.
Hopefully they would both be understanding and respect your wishes