Late Term and Child Loss
Mrs Nice
member
Options
***Loss Check-In***
Mrs Nice
member
Hello Ladies,Welcome to our Thursday Check-In!I am sorry to have to welcome new loss moms this week but am so glad that you have found us. I hope we can bring each other some much needed comfort and support. Please feel free to join in when you are ready and share as much or as little as you wish. Also, if you have any questions you would like answered, just ask! Any lurkers out there please don't be shy, we would like to be able to support you too.Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?QOTW: What do you do when you can't sleep at night?Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?GTKY: Do you have any pets?
This discussion has been closed.
Re: ***Loss Check-In***
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Getting rid of this uti!! I gotta speak up with the doc.
QOTW: What do you do when you can't sleep at night (or during the day
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?Brianna, always. And...UTI and how much I hate it!
GTKY: Do you have any pets?5 guinea pigs, 2 bunnies, 1 hamster, 2 leopard geckos, a freshwater and saltwater fish tanks.
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I made an appointment with a counselor for tomorrow. I feel like I shouldn't need this, but I do. I've also been journaling and talking about it, which helps.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? I will see my OB next week for a post-pregnancy appointment. I know it is early, but I'm going to talk to her about when we can TTC again. I'm not ready now, but I had to go to an RE to get pregnant, and I'm hoping to get an appointment in the books for January-ish.
QOTW: What do you do when you can't sleep at night? I have no problem sleeping at night. I always talk to my little boy before I go to bed, and it helps. I take comfort in telling him that I love him, and I hope he can hear me.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? This is all so new, so I'm still processing the loss. Everything is on my mind.
GTKY: Do you have any pets? I have a dog.
Baby Boy born sleeping at 20 weeks.
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
Not really, just continuing our therapy sessions.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
To lose some weight before our January IVF cycle. The plan is to start exercising with my husband, first I need to get rid of this nasty summer cold.
QOTW: What do you do when you can't sleep at night?
I go into the nursery and open their memory box from the hospital. I look at the sole picture we have of them, and the card with their footprints. I journal/blog. Sometimes I fall asleep in what was supposed to be my nursing chair.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
Self blame for the loss of our boys. The what ifs are back big time. What if I didn't shower and stayed on bed rest while in the hospital, what if I didn't work that last week, what if I wasn't so stressed those last two days of work.
GTKY: Do you have any pets?
Yup! We have an 4year old 80lb Boxer named Logan. He stayed by my side during my first IVF cycle, slept with his head on my stomach while I was pregnant and attempted to lick my tears while I cried in bed all day after our losses. Now he's confused when I leave and come home hours later from work. After being home every day for 6 weeks he got a little used to me not leaving.
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
Some small steps. I saw some friends over the weekend. I also have not been breaking down as much. Last week was the four month anniversary, and it came and went without me even really noticing it. I'm doing ok.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
Again, I haven't really set goals.
QOTW: What do you do when you can't sleep at night?
I usually don't have this problem, I sleep like a rock.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
TTC as usual, and just trying to get healthy, and my body back in shape a little.
GTKY: Do you have any pets?
We have one cat named
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?I am taking things day by day. No goals on the horizon.
QOTW: What do you do when you can't sleep at night?If I can't sleep, it's usually because I'm crying. So I keep crying until I exhaust myself enough and fall asleep.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?I am hoping DH and I don't separate. I am so angry that this happened to us. Everything is messy and I wish we could go back to how things were before.
GTKY: Do you have any pets?I got a smooth fox terrier in 7th grade who stayed with my parents when I went to college and still lives there. She is 15 in people years, pretty deaf, and mostly blind. It would be cruel to take her to a new place now. When my parents go on vacations, DH and I move into their house to take care of her! She is so spoiled!!
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week?
I went to a grief counselor/therapist yesterday. It helps to talk about my feelings. And I feel like I'm pushing my fiance away and thought it would be good to talk about that too.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?
I hope to make it through today - my fiance's first day back at work. I hate being away from him and am just hoping I don't regress today. My plan is to finish reading a book and get out of the house for at least an hour.
QOTW: What do you do when you can't sleep at night?
I can sleep just fine as long as I'm snuggled with my fiance.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?
My baby girl.
GTKY: Do you have any pets?
3 dogs.
My Blog www.jdsrainbow.blogspot.com
Have you taken any new steps towards healing this week? I had someone at work tell me the whole "God wanted him back home" deal, and I didn't have the urge to throat punch her.
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal? Nothing really...I just want to be able to continue to talk and think about Eliott and feel somewhat happy instead of sad.
QOTW: What do you do when you can't sleep at night? This has been a problem recently. I just lie there and think, so I'm going to be reading through others' suggestions.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week? Not much...just thinking about how I should have a 2 year old.
GTKY: Do you have any pets? 1 cat and 1 dog...we had another sweet kitty that we had to put down in June.
BFP #2 - EDD 2/26/12 M/C 6/28/11 @ 5w2d
BFP #3 - EDD 4/7/12 M/C 8/2/11 @ 4w2d
Too beautiful for this earth
BFP #4 - EDD 12/09/12, Lucille arrived 11/26/12
What is the next goal you have set for yourself? Do you have a plan to help achieve that goal?I signed up for a 200 mile running relay race for January. Training for it began this week. It is something positive for me to focus on and help me get back in shape.
QOTW: What do you do when you can't sleep at night?Recently it seems to be that I lie there and get mad at myself for not being able to sleep. Then I try to relax my mind by reciting the alphabet over and over and over. The repetition seems to help.
Open Topic. What is on your mind this week?How incredibly stressful my work has been and how there are all these deadlines that I need to make and how there aren't enough people or time to be able to make the deadlines all while knowing that City Council is against my department and wants to cut my staffing. Fun easy stuff. Not.
GTKY: Do you have any pets?Yep and they're all here with me as we speak. Two large black doggies - one lab, one rottie mix and two kitties - a little white one who is currently on my lap and a tuxedo kitty who is always hungry. They make me happy.
BFP #2 - Sylvie V. Q. born and died on 10.28.11 at 21w.
BFP #3 - Evie V. Q. Fetal demise @ 16w. DC 7.8.12
BFP #4 - Beatrix V. Q. Born 6.2.13 at 23w6d.
My blog My chart