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how am I going to do this . . .
Having just found out we are expecting twins, my thoughts have been focused on how we are going to make a good life for three kids. I look at my DD (2.5( and think how much time and attention she gets. Will we be cheating her? Will the twins know the love she does? How will we give these kids all of the opportunities I was given as a child?
DH and I make about the same salary and we can't afford to lose mine. How will we both work full time? Should we move somewhere with a lower cost of living?
I'm so lost. I think I may need to tell my parents. I need someone to talk to about this. Thanks for listening. I'm so glad I found this board!
DH and I make about the same salary and we can't afford to lose mine. How will we both work full time? Should we move somewhere with a lower cost of living?
I'm so lost. I think I may need to tell my parents. I need someone to talk to about this. Thanks for listening. I'm so glad I found this board!
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Re: how am I going to do this . . .
It's a lot to take in.
We're a two-working-parent home, too. I'm in a very good position to have such an amazing employer... they are going to allow me to pool all of this year's vacation, next year's vacation, and the following year's vacation into my maternity leave - that will give me a full six weeks of paid leave, if I choose to use it all. Without that, I can't imagine where I'd begin... right now my big concern is what I'm going to do with childcare costs once I do go back.
Where are you living, right now? There are a lot of options, and the last thing you want to do is move from an area where you have solid employment and then try to find something that will pay you enough in a lower cost area... too many people out there already out of work competing for employment.
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To be honest, your fears are very valid. My twins simply don't get the same kind of undivided attention that DD did. But, that's not a bad thing. I take comfort in the fact that they all have the gift of siblings. When you stop to think about it, you know your siblings longer than you'll know anyone else in your lifetime. Even a spouse isn't a part of your life for as long. It's a special bond.
My twins might not get as much of my time as DD did, but they have an amazing big sister who loves them so much. She is always playing with them and giving them attention. Plus they have each other and are really starting to interact now. It's fun to see.
As for your financial situation, that's something you'll need to examine carefully. Only you can determine what you're willing to live with, or without. I stay at home (cost of childcare is too much for me to work anyways). We did sell our house because it was so expensive. But we still manage in an extremely high cost of living area because DH's job is here. It is possible.
Relax, it will work out! Let yourself feel exited!
Breathe!
It's going to be okay. Most of us have had or are having these same thoughts. It is a lot to digest at once. Breakdown each item and discuss it. Come up with a plan that works for you & hubby. Just remember to be fluid because life is always changing.
I don't have all the answers to your questions, but I can tell you I do have some of the same questions.
Hang in there! It will work itself out. Just don't stress...not good for you or babies!