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July 2011 Moms
Timshel17
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Longest you've been away from LO?
Timshel17
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What's the longest amount of time you've been away from your LO?
For me, it has only been about 10-12 hours when H and I have gone out shopping for the day. Next month, we're going to a conference that only lasts 2 days, so originally, I didn't think it'd be that big of a deal until I realized, because of logistics, we're going to be leaving her with the ILs for 5-6 days (Long story; we planned this a long time ago and asked ILs if she could stay with them, and they lived 30 minutes away but have since moved 4 hours away, in the opposite direction of where the conference is if that makes any sense...).
I know everything will be fine. She's down to one nursing session before bed, loves ILs, and she'll have a blast, I'm sure. I also trust them to keep her more than I trust anyone else (other than my husband, of course!). I'm just a litttttle bit nervous. I have an irrational fear that she will forget me, but I know that's just silly! I keep trying to remind myself to enjoy the break, because I could definitely use it.
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Re: Longest you've been away from LO?
I have only been away from her twice since she was born.
Once in October/November last year when I had a business trip to Finland. I flew to my parents for a layover a couple day layover, left her with my parents and then flew on to Finland for 4 days. Longest 4 days of my life so far.
Then in March I had to go to Denver for business but it was a 48 hour trip so it wasn't a big deal.
I actually have another business trip next week I'll be gone for 48 hours I am not stressing about that trip at all because it is so short. Then my longest time yet will be the first week of October I have to go away for a whole week. I am dreading that trip already.
I had the same fears but do not worry, our LOs will always know and love their mommies. You have nothing to fear except crying when you see her happy face light up when she sees you again.
A handful of hours while she was with my SIL and H and I went out to dinner and drinks.
We don't really travel much so the opportunity to be away from DD longer hasn't come up.
For us it was a weekend trip (flew down to CO to finish moving) and we were back on sunday (left friday).
My only fear is that she'll cry because no one understands her
I know her quirks etc and I worry other's wouldn't know how to be "there" for her. (if that makes any sense)
She stayed with my mom (daycare teacher for 20 yrs) so I know she was in the best and safest care.
11 hours, every weekday. I leave at 5am, get home at 4pm. We both survive, but I think about her something fierce.
I wouldn't leave her for longer b/c I'm still nursing and I don't respond to the pump so well (I get by though). Even though I was pumping 4-5x per day, I still felt "full" in the afternoons.
Next month I'm starting shooting weddings again so I'll be away for most of the day, and into the evening. I still nurse her before bed so we'll see how that goes. I also won't pump while working a wedding so....we'll see how that goes, too! :-)
4 days for a wedding. It was great in all honesty. I needed the break and my Mom loved having her.
As for my work schedule, depends on the day. Sometimes it's 3 hours sometimes 14. Those days sucks.
I will say though my LO loves anyone that plays with her and adores daycare so that makes me feel better. She needs the interaction. The smile on her face is also priceless when she sees me.
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Good point. I said 11 hours b/c that is how long I am physically far away from her...but she is sleeping when I leave. So TECHNICALLY I don't see her from around 8pm till around 4pm the following day. Eek. I don't like to think about it that way!
I think this is why I go to her as soon as I hear a little peep from her at night. Am I creating a monster? Maybe. But she's MY monster. :-)
~10 hrs, but that's Monday-Friday every week so I think it's one reason why I'm less interested in leaving him overnight. And he still nurses at least once overnight, and pumping is a PITA so I have zero interest in dealing with all that. While it would be nice to sleep in, right now I don't mind waking up to his goofy smiles. And H will get up with him most Sundays so I get to sleep in 1x a week.
We've been out on date nights, or one of us has stayed home while the other goes out with friends. So it's not as though we're not enjoying adult time too. We just haven't had anything come up where we've needed to leave LO someplace for longer so we haven't. Not sure when we'll feel it's time to send him to Grandma's just because, maybe when he's 3? I dunno.
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This. This. This. This. I feel like a freak of nature because I cannot fathom someone else knowing all her little quirks and how to respond. Other than her being at daycare during the week while I'm at work, I have only left her with DH for a couple hours here and there. We have had one date since she was born and that was only because we took off work while she was at daycare. I know that I will have to be away when this baby is born and the thought makes me sick to my stomach. I purposely try never to think about it. I probably need therapy.
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I'm with you. I actually don't think I've been away from him for more than an hour and a half ever. But this winter, DH and I will be leaving him with the grandparents for a weekend while we go to a friend's wedding. And we're attempting to plan a few date nights before that, so I'm working on it.
Few hours.. not sure exactly how many but long enough to go to a concert an hour and a half away, or for dinner and a movie. This momma is not ready for overnights yet!
We have a wedding coming up where we will drop him off with his grandparents from around 2ish - midnight or so ...so that'll be the longest.
It is nervewracking every time I leave him (don't do it much!) but I trust them completely and he is very comfortable with them so I try to focus on that and have a good time while I am away!
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I've never been away overnight. I wish that I trusted my inlaws but frankly they have shown in a few smaller situations that he needs to "suit" their expectations and not who he is. That type of expectation is okay when he is older but right now when he cannot express what he needs and one needs to PAY ATTENTION to his signals, I just don't feel comfortable. In addition, even when I communicate clearly with them, they ignore my instructions/directions/requests.
The last time I did leave his alone with them, he was shrieking even before I left the house because they shoved him into his high chair although I told them three times not to and that he had already eaten. But since THEY were eating, HE needed to sit. The result was that he was a mess for a day, avoided his chair for almost a week (thanks a lot for that) and I messed up an important meeting at work because I KNEW he wasn't doing well at home.
Frankly, I'd like to have a night away but with that option...only makes me feel stressed while I am gone and is even worse when I get home.