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December 2010 Moms
GrayGhost13
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FFFC
GrayGhost13
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Re: FFFC
Personally I don't find this flameful at all!
We have a lot of friends with babies Oliver's age-and we do try to make 1 activity every weekend about him, but in general we are a lot like you. I still listen to the same music, watch the same TV shows (although not when O is awake) and we will routinely bring him out to dinner with us.
I think kids adapt to whatever lifestyle they are raised in-maybe he will just have very sophisticated taste for a toddler!
I have a FB who is like this. Their son is an only child. They always post pictures out at nice restaurants or breweries. They are always off somewhere doing something fun. Their little guy (who is a few months older than my DD), seems like one of the happiest kids I know. He also behaves way better in "grown up" situations than I think most kids his age do. I bet your DS is just as happy. He gets to be doted on constantly by adults. That's like a kid's dream come true!
My FFFC... DH got called away on a fire for a few days, and I am happy to have the house and kids to myself. DH has just been driving me crazy. DS is getting over a double ear infection and is a teething monster. It is supposed to be cool this weekend, so I am looking forward to playing with the kids, cleaning only when I want and cooking whatever the heck I want to for dinner... even if it's popcorn and cookies. I am thrilled to be able to go to bed when I want without having to pretend to be asleep to avoid sexy time. haha I should mention that DH loves fire assignments and was like a kid heading out to the North Pole this morning. I'm sure he's just as happy to get away from his ridiculously moody wife.
I don't think you should feel bad about this! You don't have to change everything you do to fit your kid. He's part of the family and should do stuff the family does. You can certainly do some easy things though to maybe give him a bit more kid-centered time. What about making a playground trip once per weekend? He can get great exercise and you might meet some some new friends too. Also, we do listen to mostly kids music in the car b/c C is soooo much more well-behaved then for so reason. Can I recommend the Putamayo Kids series? It's like grown-up kids music, ha ha!
Maybe more of an UO, but I actually really love my MIL and I wish she and my mom would come live with me for a month after the baby is born. On my BMB there are just a lot of posts about hating MILs and not wanting in-laws to visit for 3-4 weeks after the baby is born. I don't judge them for feeling that way, because not everyone has a nice MIL, but I just find it hard to relate! I mean, she still agreed to come stay with Alexander last night while my H and I had a date night despite the fact that he was having a crap explosion all day. Not everyone would do that, haha!
Anyway, my other FFC is that I have not even started to think about what I am doing in school when I get back in 2 weeks. And I don't want to! My focus is not on school at all and I plan on doing the bare minimum until I leave in october. But I am scared that I will be so unprepared. I really should think more.
I love my MIL too! She watches DS1 one day a week and always cleans my kitchen, makes dinner and walks the dog when she is here.
I hope that one day I get to be an awesome MIL and that they boys future wives don't hate me just because I'm their MIL and not thier mom.
Thanks, ladies! Glad to hear I'm not too flameful.
I like the playground idea...maybe we will give it a try sometime soon.
@ jilly & TMNT - I agree about the MILs. I'm not as super-close to MIL since she lives in another state, but she's a cool lady, plus she'll always be my husband's mom, so you know, she deserves respect. I hope my future DILs don't hate me either.
OMG, me too! I worry about that all the time, because sometimes I see from the posts on here (not on this board) that these women have absolutely no patience with their MILs and get all offended over nothing. There are a lot of posts like, "My MIL wants to see come see the baby in the hospital! How do I tell her no?" I mean, really? You aren't going to let a grandmother see the baby after it's born? Come on. I hope my future DIL isn't like that!
I'm happy you guys have such great MILs! I love mine a lot too and she's very nice and helpful with C. She definitely tries to "mother" him more though in my presence that I prefer and think she should leave that to me. Last week she asked him if he wanted a spoon so he could more easily eat the sauce for his chicken nuggets he was poking his fingers in too! It's always been that he needs socks, a jacket, different shoes, wipe his face, etc. My kid must just be cruddy and need new clothes, lol!
MIL wanted to come stay with us for 2 weeks after DD was born. When DH told me, I burst into tears. But this is the same lady that asked me when I was going to start dieting for the wedding, caused a huge scene at my wedding, called me huge when I was only like 18 weeks pregnant and warned DH that I would stay fat and get bigger every time we had a baby. So we obviously don't have a very loving relationship. haha
I also love my MIL. She is always willing to help out but doesn't overstep any boundaries. So nice to have a great relationship with my ILs.
Good for you for calling them out. I can definitely relate to your situation except we are the super busy ones yet our "BFFs" have no time for us now that she's pregnant.
Speaking of: my FFFC is that I went off on her yesterday. At the dr office. Our appointments just so happened to be near the same time. I was sitting in the waiting room after seeing the dr waiting in a sonogram to find out why I'm still bleeding. She came out to leave because her appointment was over and her mom came to see how my apt went while she was checking out. I broke down on her mom and told her I wasn't ok I just wanted my baby and all these women start staring at my. BFF came over to sit with us and I got my act together and asked her how her appointment went. Her baby was in the perfect spot for them to see what she was having even though she's 12 weeks and she had the nerve to tell me how disappointed she is that it's a boy and not a girl! I told her she needed to suck it up because at least her baby is healthy and alive and that was all that mattered. It made me so mad that she would tell me about her disappointment in the sex if her baby when I just lost mine. I know I should get over it or whatever but geez, show some respect to your friend.
And I love my MIL too. My ILs are great!
Regardless, I'm sorry she was so crappy to you on an already rough day. Hang in there!
No she's wasn't like this before we got pregnant. After I she found out she was pregnant (before she told me) she started acting like this. Throughout my roller coaster she's been completely checked out of our friendship
love my MIL too. I have a lot of friends that are jealous of the relationship I have with my MIL. I stayed with her for 2 weeks after I had Lo. She babysits him,she also cooks for me at least once a week.The list would go on with all the things she does for us.
All I know is that I am very lucky I have her in my life.Even my own family comments on how good she is to me.
I also love my MIL, or soon to be MIL in 22 days, she is wonderful. She doesn't over step her bounds and loves Lily, along with her other 6 grand kids. She is helping out so much for our wedding also. We are having the ceremony at their family farm, she altered my dress, made my veil, altered Lily's dress, helped with centerpieces, and so much more. I have no idea what to get her as a thank you for the all the help she has given us. Maybe another grand baby soon