well im asking cause i live in alaska and my family in in new mexico, i havent seen them for quite some time. Im planing on going down when i find out what im having, so my question is when can you know for sure what your having. this is my first baby and imm also quite excited to know

I am 14 weeks
Re: the earliest you found out sex?
A very skilled tech with a very cooperative baby can make guesses around 12 weeks (angle of the dangle - both sexes have a "nub" at that point - a girl's will be parallel to the spine, a boy's will have a 30 degree angle or more away from the spinal direction - see https://www.baby2see.com/gender/external_genitals.html)
We got our positive ID of two boys yesterday at 15w2d - both boys are have very obvious, prominent, and defined penises at this point LOL so there was no question about it. With a good tech and baby in the right position, I think you can probably find out any time now.
Right ovary removed 09.04.2012 via vertical laparotomy
Essure implant placed on remaining tube 06.13.2013; successful followup scan 09.30.2013
BFP#1 -3/18/12- M/C 3/31/12,
BFP#2 -4/25/12, Beta#1 17dpo= 800, Beta#2 20dpo= 3800, Ethan James born 1-5-13
BFP#3- February 2015- natural miscarriage
BFP#4- June 2015- Ruptured ectopic, severe hemorrhage and loss of left tube on 7/10/2015
BFP#5- 12/18/15
Twins born too early at 23 weeks due to incompetent cervix
FET #1, IUI #1, 2, 3, 4 - all BFN
IVF #3 BFP!!! IT'S A BOY! Born July 16th, 2011
FET #2 BFP! Due February 15, 2013
I found out at 16.5 weeks and was very confident with what they told me (it's since been confirmed at our 20 week).
With my first, the tech offered to guess when I was 11w6d and said it was a boy. She turned out to be right, but from a lot of things others have said since, it sounds like she may have just been lucky. It did look fairly obvious to me at the time, though.
DD (5 years old) from IUI in 2012
TTC 3rd and final!: IUI #1 in progress!
14 weeks via elective 3d/4d u/s.
Born via emergency c-section - 8lb, 19.75 in, 100% stubborn BFP Chart
8 cycles of unmedicated trying = BFP!! - EDD 1/10/18
*Waiting for Baby Eags 2.0*;