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feeling discouraged..

I just read the previous post about 9 month olds not SSTN yet and I am feeling totally discouraged that there are so many MoMs out there that have similar stories. The boys are just shy of 3 months, and I kept telling myself things would get better soon when the boys would sleep. I feel myself getting snippy with my husband and resentful when he complains of being tired and needing to take naps...and I know it's because I am sleep deprived, too. My little guys aren't great nappers (I spend most of the day trying to get them to nap), so I am not hopeful that their nighttime sleep is going to come easy, either. Any words of advice or encouragement would be great!

Re: feeling discouraged..

  • The first year sucks. 

    Once we hit 9.5 months, it was A TON better.  They finally started STTN for a full 12 hours.  Now at 2 they are totally awesome.  Great sleepers with zero issues once they fell asleep.  :) 

    It's just a really, really hard first year that others cannot understand.

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  • No advice on the sleeping through the night, but you could try the rock n play sleeper and see if he sleeps better in there...
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  • My singleton started sttn at 8w! And was awesome always. Twins not so much! They sucked at napping and until we separated their rooms at 6m we never slept! Then they would sttn a little bit here or there and then at 9m up all night again teething. It is so hard girl. Hang in there. I know there has to be a light at the end of this tunnel!
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  • I think the reason you feel discouraged is because you want to compare to others who have "great" sleepers.  My DD didn't sleep through the night til well in to her first year and I can only expect the same with my boys when they arrive.  There is no set in stone time frame or expectation because every baby, singleton or multiple is different.  I know exactly how you feel though becasue I was the same way because I need my sleep too, but eventually it will get better...maybe not next week, next month, or 3 months from now, but it will.  Keep your head up! :)
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  • This week my girls started STTN 11 hours straight, I feel like a new person.

    It will happen some time or another. :) 

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  • I started following Babywise when the boys were 6 weeks old. Saved my life! They were STTN by 3 months.  Even if you are not into CIO, there are other tips you can get from there. Such as putting the babies on a schedule.  When they are that young they can't handle much waketime. Maybe an hour to an hour and a half. Bedtime should be a consistent routine and putting them down at the same time.  I swaddled the boys until they were 6 months and started rolling.  They hated it at first but then learned to love it and couldn't sleep without it. We have a nice dark room with white noise. Put the babies down drowsy so they learn to self soothe and fall asleep on their own.  If they wake up after 45 minutes after a nap, they were too over tired; try less waketime.

    These are all things that were life savers for me. I also did some modified CIO.  But that is no longer necessary. As the mamas we need our sleep too.  GL!

  • I'm sure you only hear about the people who have trouble with their babies sleeping but there are lots of people with twins who have good sleepers too! Don't be discouraged...it can happen! My boys had horrible colic till 3.5 months so I was worried they would never be good sleepers...well by 4 months after 2 weeks of mild sleep training they were sleeping through the night at we've never looked back....at almost 10 months they consistently sleep 7:30pm-7:30am and have for many months! Just stick to a night-time routine and make sure they get some good naps during the day....and once they sleep through the night with out eating don't look back! Babies are all about routine! Be encouraged it will get so much easier!!
  • Thanks! I will keep a positive outlook :)
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