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December 2010 Moms
GrayGhost13
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Update on Speech Assessment & OB Appt. This Week
GrayGhost13
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Just wanted to say thanks to everyone for the T&Ps on my two appointments this week, and give an update.
We went Tuesday for DS' speech assessment. The good news is he's in the "normal" range. The bad news is he's at the very bottom of the "normal" range, so the woman who did our assessment says we do need to work with him (on our own) to help him catch up.
She told us to keep pushing him to use his words instead of just crying or gesturing for things, and she sent us home with some worksheets with suggested activities--some of which we already do, but oh well. DH seemed enthusiastic to work with DS when they're home together during the days, so I am hopeful we can make some progress. But of course anxious mom that I am, I'm a little scared that he'll fall further behind.
She also suggested that we find some type of activity, class or Mom's Day Out thing where we can drop off DS with another caregiver. (DS didn't finish some of the activities during the assessment because he didn't like having to sit still in a chair for so long, and he was more interested in doing his own thing than the specified activities). She seemed to think that being around other adults and children without parents around that he might get better about following directions and participating in activities. (He already goes to Gymboree with me or DH, but he only listens to the teacher a tiny fraction of the time and mostly does his own thing).
Does anyone have any suggestions on where we'd find a program like this? (We're not church-goers, and I know we can't afford a full-day preschool or daycare).
As for my OB appointment today, he said exactly what I expected he'd say... that I probably need to wean if I want to get pregnant now.
He said once I'd weaned completely to chart for three or four months. If my cycles go back to normal, we could try on our own for a normal period of time (another year, I guess). If my cycles stay weird, then I could come back and talk about what to do next. I guess it was a positive in that he said I shouldn't worry at all yet about my ability to get pregnant because BF-ing was almost certainly the issue.
Buuuut I'm a little sad about weaning. I've been thinking about it a lot lately and trying to make peace with it, but I can tell it will be a hard process for DS. I'm not one for pushing kids to do things before they're ready but between weaning and needing to work on his language issues and behavior, I guess he needs a little nudge. I hope it won't be too hard on him.
If you've made it this far, bless your heart and thanks for reading! 
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Re: Update on Speech Assessment & OB Appt. This Week
::Hugs:: Momma guilt can be a mean devil, no?
Weaning was hard on both Oliver and I. The night we had our last nursing session I cried for a couple of hours after I put him to bed. But then I remembered that nursing him for 13 months was the best I could do for him and that I needed my body back at that point. Sometimes when he's feeling really sick or needy he will lift up my shirt and try to nurse-at which point I get him a sippy of warm milk and call it even.
As far as the speech thing goes-we started O in daycare (I prefer to call it baby school-but W/E) three mornings (8-12:30) a week because I know he CAN talk but he doesn't HAVE to talk-so he doesn't. We found a SUPER affordable place close by my mom (she takes him and picks him up). It is a Christian Daycare run out of a church but doesn't require you to be a church member to send your child.
This is his second week and I have already seen his speech grow in leaps and bounds. Not to mention the fact that H dropped him off yesterday just to check in with the teachers and he didn't shed a tear-just went over and started playing cars with the kids on the mat. And perhaps the greatest perk of all is that he is sleeping like a champ now because he is so tired after school. He takes a great 2-3 hour nap in the afternoon and is asking to go to bed around 7:30.
Thanks, ladies!
@mamaholmes - Wow, it sounds like baby school is awesome for O! That's great! I would love to see those kinds of improvements in DS' speech and separation anxiety--not to mention more sleep! bonus!
We'll have to see what we can find an affordable program in our area. Guess it's time to let my little baby grow up a little bit more!
me for the summer and he's always pointing to the house and talking about Miss Sue's School. Good luck
It sounds like you actually got a lot of positive news!
hazel hangs out with me all day so I definitely understand the need for a bit of structure without the cost of DC. Its hard to find classes for this age that aren't parent-child classes, but I signed hazel up for a bunch of dance classes that are each a half hour-45 mins. You can check your local studios to see if they have little boy classes and what the minimum age is. At the studio I work at, as long as your kid wants to go, they're welcome, but some places require the kids to be potty trained.
Sorry that you might have to wean before you're ready. But hopefully that is the only thing keeping you from your BFP.
Have you looked into classes that your county offers? I've looked in my county, and I know they have a gymnastics class for LOs that I might enroll DS in. I'm not sure if you were looking for something like that or something more school-related. I think your DH is a SAHD, right? Does he have any SAHM/SAHD friends where they can switch off, so your DS goes to their house with their kids and vice versa? That's all I can think of.
@ rachel & lulu - So far, all the sports and dance classes I've found have been 3 years and up, but I plan to keep looking.
DH is an SAHD, but neither of us know any other parents with kids in this area. (We don't have much family in the area, and all our local friends are childfree and plan to stay that way.) I think, actually, playdates with other families was another thing the therapist mentioned, but we haven't been able to make that happen yet.
Thanks for all the ideas, ladies! Much appreciated!
I second the idea of at least looking into some daycare options. I was surprised how affordable it would be for A to go to daycare just two days a week (I started to research it recently). I think that 5 day a week, 8 hour a day daycare would be really expensive, but I bet you can find a daycare that will allow you to do a half day two times a week, or a full day once a week, just to give him that playtime exposure. That could be a really affordable option.
It's really good that he is still in the normal range...I bet doing those specific activities will really help!
I certainly understand about weaning. Neither G nor I were ready when we had to wean because of a medication I was taking. It broke my heart but G actually got over it pretty quickly. You will both be fine. You should be proud that you made it this long. Good for you!