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2nd Baby Shower bc of Twins? (XP on 2nd Tri)

Annabelle7Annabelle7 member
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I have an almost 3 year old so I still have a lot of baby stuff.  But we are having twins so my mom is telling me to register and that she thinks there will be another shower.  I feel uncomfortable because I just had one 3 years ago, but at the same time a little help would be appreciated especially because we're going to have to buy a bigger car and add a car payment to our expenses because it's twins, etc.  We would definitely find a way manage by ourselves and I'm not asking for a shower.  But should I let someone throw one if they offer or insist?

Just wondering what your experiences have been, expecting multiples and baby showers?

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Re: 2nd Baby Shower bc of Twins? (XP on 2nd Tri)

  • neckrcx2neckrcx2

    I also have an almost 3 year old and my twins are now 5 months but when i was pregnant my mother-in-law gave me a diapers and wipes party. My family has never had a shower for the 2nd or 3rd child in any family so they didnt give me one but they were all invited to the one my mother in law gave me. i kinda felt bad because my sister or sister in law never had a shower of any kind for their 2nd child but this is the first set of twins in our family so .... people will understand that becuase you are having more than one child that you are obvioulsy going to need more things than you did with your fist so i would def let them if they offer!

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  • macchiattomacchiatto member
    As a guest, I would have no problem attending a baby shower for someone having twins after a singleton. It's definitely more expensive since compared to if you were having another singleton, you'll need a second of some of the expensive items like cribs, infant car seats, possibly a swing and/or bouncy seat and/or jumperoo, etc., plus more clothes and TONS of diapers and wipes. They could certainly at least do a diaper shower or freezer meals shower if you felt uncomfortable letting them do a full shower or sprinkle for you.
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  • brandonsarahbrandonsarah

    I had more of a girls night/sprinkle than a full blown baby shower. I registered for basic stuff (ie- more bottles, bottle nipples, crib sheets, diapers, etc) and received almost everything we need.

    I didn't want all the fuss of a full blown shower- I liked that mine was low key.

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  • Ourfamilyof5Ourfamilyof5 member
    Several of my friends are hosting a second shower for me and I was honestly very surprised and slightly uncomfortable with the idea of it when I found out. A few of the hostesses are pregnant with their second babies as well and none of them got second showers so I wasn't expecting to have one either. However, they are insisting due to the twin situation (and my DS won't even be 2 when they're born so we definitely have a lot of baby gear) and at this point, I'm actually feeling really grateful. The amount of things we need for having two babies at the same time is really adding up in cost and this shower is taking some of the financial load off of our shoulders. I don't know what I'll end up getting from everyone, but whatever it is will be a HUGE help! I think people understand the situation is different since you're having multiples and will be much more accepting of a second shower! That's the whole reason my friends are throwing me one in the first place! I think it's fine to accept a second shower (or at least a sprinkle, or diaper shower) if someone offers to throw you one :)
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  • BananaPancakeBananaPancake member

    A few of my friends are hosting a shower and they're treating it like my first. As we have three girls, all late-spring babies, welcoming two boys in the late fall will be a whole new thing for us. And we used the same gear through all three girls, so the carseat is expiring, stuff is falling apart, etc. 

    I was uncomfortable about it at first, but this is HUGE for us, and I really, really, really appreciate it when I look at my gigantic list of things to buy!  

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  • Bel4780Bel4780
    Some friends have "mentioned" having a "sprinkle" type get together, but nothing officially has been planned that I know about.  Everyone keeps telling me that "people will bring gifts when the babies are born" but that makes me nervous about depending on that, you know?!  I have a 2y DD and literally everything we own is PINK, so adding two boys to the mix means most stuff needs to be new.  I do kinda feel awkward about having another shower because we were so so so blessed at our first, but buying two of everything is adding up quickly, so I'll be very appreciative toward anything new or used friends/family would like to give us.
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