September 2012 Moms

What part of L&D are you afraid of?

I have never with any of my pregnancies had an issue watching Baby Story etc. But I've been thinking alot about L&D the past couple days and am current watching Baby Story. I realize that I am terrified of a c-section. I can manage vag delivery, I've already done it twice. But the thought of an emergency c-section terrifies me. So I'm curious what are you most concerned/afraid of for L&D?
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  • I am so scared of pushing again!  I pushed for an hour and 45 minutes last time and really pray I do no more than 30 minutes this time.  I'm also scared of tearing since I didn't have that really last time.  I'm also scared of a C-Section, I think it would suck to have #1 vaginally and then a C-section for #2.  Praying I can just push it out in 30 minutes or less with no tearing!!
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  • The idea of a c-section terrifies me. But, assuming nothing goes wrong to necessitate that, I think the scariest part for me is crowning. How a head that big comes out a place that small...
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    Can I pick option C?  Recovery.  I'm terrified of it.
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    The idea of a c-section terrifies me. But, assuming nothing goes wrong to necessitate that, I think the scariest part for me is crowning. How a head that big comes out a place that small...

    All of this exactly.

  • I'm not scared of labor / delivery / any aspect of it. I'm actually looking forward to the birthing experience all around.

    If I for any reason had to have a c-section, though, I'd be terrified.

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  • I'm mostly just scared of making sure that baby and I stay healthy through the whole thing. 

    Also, I keep thinking "Can I really do this labor thing?  Do I have the muscles that it takes?  Can I handle the pain?  I have no choice, this is happening." 

    Man, it was so much more fun putting baby in than it will be to get baby out.

  • I'm also terrified of having a c-sections, the thought of surgery just scares the crap out of me and I hope to avoid it unless it's absolutly necessary my by me or my baby's safety!  I'm also scared of tearing again with this delivery, I had a stage 4 tear with my son and let me tell you it's the most painful thing EVER!  I wasn't able to walk comfortably for weeks and therefor I felt like I couldn't take care of my son myself.  No thank you!
  • Pushing, crowning, the pain of contractions, pretty much all of it. I think the biggest thing, however, is that I'm terrified of getting the epi.  I'm being induced with Pitocin, so I'm pretty sure I'll get one because I've heard that a pit labor can be hell, but the idea of a needle going into my spine inspires much fear.  I had a transabdominal CVS at 14 weeks, which sucked, but that was only through my stomach.  I get jittery when ever I think about the epidural. :-/

    ETA: Oh yeah.  The idea of ending up with a c-section is also scary.  

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  • Mine is dumb, but I am afraid of an emergency c-section and I am also afraid that my family is going to show up before I am ready to see anyone. I want to be moved into my recovery room where I will be until we are sent home. I also want to take a shower and clean up all that before they start coming to the hospital. I know silly but this is really important to me. 
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  • I am a little nervous for some reason of needing a c/s but only because I don't "know" what to expect.  I was induced and delivered vaginally last time so I'm also a little afraid of going into labor without medicine - again, because I don't "know" what to expect. 

    Then of course the small voice I try to shove away that drives me crazy whispering "What if something MAJORLY goes wrong?"  I try not to dwell on that thought but I have gone there for a few seconds.

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    I'm mostly just scared of making sure that baby and I stay healthy through the whole thing. 

    Also, I keep thinking "Can I really do this labor thing?  Do I have the muscles that it takes?  Can I handle the pain?  I have no choice, this is happening." 

    Man, it was so much more fun putting baby in than it will be to get baby out.

    All of this...I have been second guessing myself a lot and secretly wondering if the doctor is thinking "there is no way this chick can do this" (she has not said anything to lead me to believe this....I'm just weird)....I just keep telling myself far less prepared people do this all the time (like those idiots who "didn't know they were pregnant until a baby drops out") I'll be fine

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  • thats not dumb. one thing I love about the hospital I will be delivering at is for an hour after birth no one besides the two support people are allowed in and once I'm in my room its up to me who is allowed in. DH and I had the conversation about who will be first to meet little one and we agreed it will be DS and DD then whoever brought them. I wouldn't be able handle having people in right afterwards but I do want most of my visitors while I'm in the hospital so when i go home there will be some quite.
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  • Obviously biggest worry is delivering a healthy baby and staying healthy myself, but I also worry all the time about if I had to have a c-section this time. 

    I wouldn't have changed a thing about my labor and vaginal delivery with DS (well, besides tearing, stitches, and the awful recovery of that) and feel like I can't possibly get so lucky again. I only pushed for 15-20 minutes.

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  • Yep, super scared of needing a c-section as well. I think I'm more "irrationally" afraid of it because my bff had a horrible experience with hers and I was there for the whole thing. I know that's not the norm, but still freaks me out.
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    The 30 min from when I ask for the epi and I actually get it. 

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  • imageBostonDble:
    Mine is dumb, but I am afraid of an emergency c-section and I am also afraid that my family is going to show up before I am ready to see anyone. I want to be moved into my recovery room where I will be until we are sent home. I also want to take a shower and clean up all that before they start coming to the hospital. I know silly but this is really important to me. 

    I'm afraid of this too which is so stupid! Sad

    I'm afraid of the not knowing. Not knowing what the pain will actually feel like or what will happen. I don't like being unprepared, ever...

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  • Having a c-section. When I was pregnant the first time, my mom always told me to avoid having one at all costs if it was possible because the recovery is terrible (she had 3).

    Horrible tearing. Creeps me out just to think about it.

    Dealing with the pain of contractions. I really don't want to use any pain medication (although I'm not completely against it). I'm afraid I just won't handle the pain very well.

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  • I'm absolutely terrified of needing a c-section and having to have general anesthesia. It makes me sweat just thinking about it. I'm also terrified of having to push for another 3 hours. Please come out fast baby! 

  • I'm scared of spontaneous labor since I was induced last time. I had like 12 hrs of waiting around in the hospital to start to get used to the idea of everything and then another 5 or so hours of sleep before I woke up in labor.

    Even MH asked if we could do it that way again.

    I'm sort of just scared this time will be so vastly different that I won't be able to handle it and I'll be comparing it the whole time. I don't think that's logically fair to myself.

    Major differences I'm afraid of: back labor, needing an epi and tearing. 

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  • Oh, I'm afraid of a lot of it. I have a ridiculously low pain tolerance (probably as a result of being that kid/adult who really never had medical issues/pain) so I'm nervous about handling it. I'm also afraid of needles. And I don't do wonderfully with blood either. And once I had an IV put in and then I couldn't move my arm and the fact that I couldn't use my arm freaked me out. 

    Essentially, I'm a really big wimp. 

    I suppose my biggest fear is that I'll labor long and hard and end up with a c-section anyway and hemorrhaging. I have a blood antibody (it's mysterious because the doctors don't know how I got it) so the idea of needing a transfusion of any sort worries me.


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  • Just not knowing what to expect is kind of freaky! I know what's going to happen I just can't picture what it's really like. I am scared of crowning as BV said that terrifies me and I am afraid that I will bleed too much! Typical ftm things.
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  • I do t want a c/s, to rip or be cut. Other than that, I hope I don't deliver on the side of the freeway. The hospital is 45 mins always with no traffic. 
  • I'm afraid of tearing. My baby has a big melon.
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    I am petrified of going so far past my due date, or having some medical issue that requires me to be induced. I feel like if I go into labor on my own, my mind won't have time to dwell on all of the 'what ifs'. Even I end up laboring for a long time, I feel like I'll jut be in the zone at that point. Scheduling a time to go in and have the baby, petrifies me for some reason.

    Oh, and a c-section, definitely c-section. 

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  • I have to have a c/s and I'm afraid of having a reaction to the Spinal. I can't take pain meds stronger than Ibuprofen, so I'm VERY afraid that I will be in too much pain to enjoy our first day with her and just recovery in general without the good drugs.
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  • I am afraid of DD being transverse & needing a c-section.

    OB thinks DD is now head down,  but I am waiting for my growth u/s next week to confirm it! FX! 

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  • Tearing and the possibility of an emergency c-section.

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  • Pushing.  it was the worst part of me with my DS.  I pushed for almost 4 hours (he was sunny side up and crowned for almost all of that time, but stuck on my tailbone).  He had a cone head and came out like a rocket when he finally came out.  It made me feel so frustrated/mad at myself/less able/capable.

    I just dread it again!!  Everything else (even transition with no pain meds) paled in comparrison to pushing for me and it was the emotional strain it put on me (not physical).

  • Something happening to my baby before I get to that point... and the IV. Yes, the IV/epidural/anything with a needle!


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  • I don't guess I'm really scared of any of it. I have no bad associations/experiences with labor/delivery, so it's just something big and new to me. I'm excited and jittery about it, of course! lol

    I'm more nervous about raising the baby. You know, making sure I'm doing things right, second-guessing myself, that sort of thing. Just knowing that I'll be responsible for such a 100% helpless, dependent, and defenseless being is equal parts humbling and terrifying in some ways.

  • Pushing..the contractions I can handle because I am pro epidural but pushing is scary. It is very emotional and pbysically tiring. I pushed for almost 2hrs with #1 and only 18 mins with #2. I hope #3 kinda slips out lol. It's scary when the nurses first tell you "okay it's time to push!"
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  • My fears regarding labor and delivery are not making it to the hospital in time and bleeding too much after delivery.

    I have a history of fast labors and am terrified that my water will break (which for me in the past has meant that I have less than an hour before baby arrives) and I will have this baby at home or in the car. I am scared because I am already so far dilated and with this being baby number three for me, when things get going they are going to go fast :/

     

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    I am also afraid that my family is going to show up before I am ready to see anyone. I want to be moved into my recovery room where I will be until we are sent home. I also want to take a shower and clean up all that before they start coming to the hospital. I know silly but this is really important to me. 

     

    This!  I imagine I won't be looking so hot after labor, so it would be amazing to get to freshen up before the crowds start coming! 

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  • I'm scared that baby won't come on his own and I'll have to do another c/s.  They have one scheduled for the 12th and I'm hoping and praying that he does his own thing.  I had to have one with DS #1 since he was breech and since they won't induce me this time, they're giving me an end date to when I can no longer try and wait for a VBAC and have to have a section.
  • I'm really scared of my ECV next week. Also not looking forward to a potential Csection if the ECV is unsuccessful, but I'm surprised to see how many are terrified of it. Maybe I'm not as much because I know it's just my reality?
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    The idea of a c-section terrifies me. But, assuming nothing goes wrong to necessitate that, I think the scariest part for me is crowning. How a head that big comes out a place that small...

    I currently have a baby with a head in the 89th percentile and body in the 54th. So besides being worried about having a bobble head not a baby the thought of crowning terrifies me.  

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