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Thoughts?
Hi all,
I thought I'd share this link to get some thoughts. The gist is that a transdad wanted to lead a LLL group and was denied. It's an interesting topic to me, just wondering what others think. Not sure if I made it clicky...sorry if not!
https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/story/2012/08/20/trevor-macdonald-breastfeed.html
I thought I'd share this link to get some thoughts. The gist is that a transdad wanted to lead a LLL group and was denied. It's an interesting topic to me, just wondering what others think. Not sure if I made it clicky...sorry if not!
https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/story/2012/08/20/trevor-macdonald-breastfeed.html
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Re: Thoughts?
Yikes. This is a tough one for sure. I hope i dont get bashed for my response because I am responding honestly and with our offending.
I am not TRANS myself but do have some trans issues. I am too afraid of the later effects of T to transition and have come to terms that I was just born this way. I try to remove myself from anything that feminized me but there are things that even T can not resolve " my laugh" and my smile which are more feminine that not. Again, this is just how i see it.
Perhaps because I have my own issues- i See the transition some what differently. I my mind no matter what process I take to get to be MALE- I will always know that no matter what I am not...I will not be able to impregnate my wife as a bio man does and I will not be able to produce sperm ( I am not saying that a man has to do these thing - but in my mind that is what it would mean for my process to be complete)
Anyhow, i feel that LLL has a right to not allow McDonald to be a Leader. I think in terms of breastfeeding which is something mothers do and tho Mcdonald is the Bio Mom ( if I am not mistaken ) He chose to remove that part of his life and become a Man ... I have several friends and acquaintance that have done the flip flopping back and forth and I have a issue with it ... my issue is that they so badly yearned and wanted to be seen as MEN in societies eyes and went through a grueling process some lost partners some lost family over their transition and once they transitioned they decided to go back ... like i said i have a hard time with this ... because 1 ) I think its great that they can choose and decide who and what they want to be and 2) its really hard for society to grasp that concept let alone grasp the back an forth which I find especially puzzling.
i say more power to him for wanting to do this ... but I also understand that the LLL has a guideline that they require their leaders to follow and McDond seems to want the best of both worlds ( and who can blame him ) but unfortunately society is not there yes .. and I i said before I am even puzzled by this ... some who know me will say its me just being jealous that I dont have the BALLS to transition ( that might possibly be right) but as i said I have just accepted who I am.
Just as My frustration with Thomas Beatie the pregnant "MAN" who it seemed tried to stay under the radar and be a Pregnant man .. when in fact HE was not a pregnant man but a pregnant Trans man and there fore in my eyes trying to pass as something he clearly was not.
Ok well I will end this here are I feel its starting to annoy me and I am not sure I am making my point clear... and I dont want to just ramble ...
our Blog -http://dosbabies.wordpress.com/
Our opinion may not be a popular opinion, either, but we totally support this group for standing their ground.
Like J, we can't understand why he would spend all that time, $$, and effort to become a man, which was SO important to him, only to turn around and try to breastfeed. Sorry, but men do not breastfeed. So, if you're a man, then you don't breastfeed.
The GLBT community is struggling a lot for equal rights and to be accepted by society. Issues like this just make it so much harder for everyone. It's hard enough for many people in society to wrap their heads around the idea of two moms, two dads, a mom and a trans dad, etc. etc. But, then we have a woman who needed to become a man, but then wants to breastfeed like a woman would?
Stories like this cause the public to stereotype the GLBT community, and that is irritating.