PCP/TTC/ATP Wednesday

hlke · August 2012

How's are things going?

PCP = preconception planning

TTC = trying to conceive

ATP = all things parenting

QOTD: What does your spouse/partner think of your involvement in an online community for other LGBT families?

Two*True · August 2012

hlke:
QOTD: What does your spouse/partner think of your involvement in an online community for other LGBT families?

My online involvement isn't restricted to LGBT families but K welcomes it. At first she thought I was crazy but she has met all of the local ladies now and has met all of the ladies on this board that I've met IRL. She has no issue with, it's just not her thing. And she trusts me and knows what sorts of boundaries I set for my online life.

Jazibel · August 2012

My parents are in town visiting until the end of the week (from Arizona). And my parents, especially my mom got sick. At first it was a cold but now it's developed into laryngitis.

I have been so careful to keep little K away, while still visiting with them. Meaning my parents haven't held him in days... I feel bad but I'm afraid he will get sick and at not quite 6 weeks old - that wouldn't be good. Not sure how to best parent here - I just found out about the laryngitis this morning... My mom offered to bring by lunch and to pick up things to make dinner at our house... K and I will be on our own the rest of the day.

I'm EBF so I think that helps with providing antibodies... Right now I'm Googling how to protect him... Then again maybe I'm totally blowing this out of proportion....

2moms2twins · August 2012

PCP = I am dealing with this heart thing and it just compounding my want to have a biological child even more now. I suppose the whole thought of my life flashing before me thing is kicking me real good- however, it has not change my thought of BIRTHING. Kinda odd eh !

TTC = i could rob a bank... thne we could go forward but I had a crazy dream where i asked a Male couple we know who want another baby as well and the plan went like this : we could harvest my eggs give them hald and M will surrogate for them - WIN WIN so now I am just obsessing over this !

ATP = OMG - these girls are KILLING US ... KILLING US .. so bad ok not so bad but the not knowing what they want and their gruntd and frusteration with lack of communication and baby signs are not working and the teeth HUGE HUGE TEETH these kids are growing is even making my head spin. M and I need a break the kids LOVE THEM but honest BEAST - ok maybe not that bad.. I always feel horrible when i say i think they are horrible .. does that go away -

QOTD: What does your spouse/partner think of your involvement in an online community for other LGBT families?

She I think secretly wishes she was more active and more extrovert-y. She loves that I do it - so i dont have to spaz out on her. i just update her on what i post but she checks and post occasionally.

leapgirl8 · August 2012

Still working on sleep issues - it is getting better, and now that we are letting them sleep for as long as they want after the 10pm feeding they seem to be happier in the morning, which is awesome. (They usually are back down between 10:30 and 10:45p and sleep until 2:45-3:15a.) Late afternoon/early evening is still grumpy time, we're going to try (again) to move their bedtime back. It didn't work last time but they are a little older now, so maybe. Still having fun watching them be engaged with books and really look at the pictures - that is great. I wish they could sit up on their own, they both want to sooooo badly and we spend a lot of time holding them upright in our laps since they love it.

QOTD: She likes the advice and funny stories I get from it. In general she's less concerned about online privacy than I am, so that isn't an issue.

Jazibel · August 2012

QOTD: I think EV first thought it was weird that I wanted to be involved online with "strangers". But since then I've shared insights, feedback and tips that I've learned here and I think she realizes what a value this board adds to my life (and hers). Plus it gives me an outlet and community to share our TTC, pregnancy and now parenting journey. Most of our friends always end up mutual whether or not they started that way. So it's nice to have my space :-)

2mommiesinoh · August 2012

Ky's arm was given the clear and she is being her crazy two year old self. It amazes me that I can actually carry on a conversation with her and it is legitimate not just one or two words or me prompting her. She has also started singing to herself randomly. It goes something like this, "twinkle twinkle little star now I know I know my a b c next time sing with me". She tells me everything is green which drives me crazy since we have been working on colors for months now lol. She did surprise me the other day by coming up, pointing to the print on my pj pants and telling me I had pretty stars on. Come on kid you cannot tell me circle or square but you have star down?

QOTD: My ex thought I was a little weird. She has no problems making friends and talking to people IRL though. I, however, am a terrible introvert but I am ok online talking to people...

JoySeattle · August 2012

C thought(/thinks?) it's a bit odd, but she knows I value community of tlal types and this is just one form for me. She knows that I've "known" many of you for about 6 years (!!!). Also, the fact that I we got a wedding gift from the group (back in the knot days) and that I've met up with folks makes it less weird.

PCP: The other night we talked about TTC timeline. I'll be 30 in 6 months, so I'd like to start before/on/around my birthday. This will depend on a few factors though. C wants/needs to increase to FT (right now she's doing PT work and freelance) and I'd like to have something a bit more stable (maybe PT work and no on-call). There's also a chance I may go back to DC for more clinical hours, in which case that would most likely be January, or late March-May, which would interfere with ttc those months. So still up in the air, but we have an idea of when might work and some goals between now and then.

pbl2011 · August 2012

TTC - first at home insem for me - rec'd confirmation that we failed this time around today. Decided to try again at home next cycle, and if we fail once again we'll explore other options.

ATP - i rec'd the ladybug rocker that i'd ordered for P's bday today - im in love with it, she seems quite fond a the tag that came on it

QOTD - D loves my involvement. we both look online for answers to questions, support etc. our lgbt community base here in boston is pretty much non existent so sources like these are much appreciated

2moms2b · August 2012

I'm not really sure where I fall in the PCP/TTC/ATP terms but right now we are just waiting until our next appointment on Sept 10th. I will be a little over 16 weeks so we may be able to find out what these little buggers are! We are almost done with our registries!

QOTD - I think M hates it. I make sure when she is home the computer is off and I also don't talk about the board much. She is an incredibly private person and very introverted. I really want to get involved with our local LGBT parenting group and so far that has been a no go as she won't know anyone. I know on some level she thinks of this board differently as we are such as small group and LGBT group. On the flip side I finally got her to be involved in one of my FB groups my bff invited me to that is parenting focused. I am hoping one day she will become involved here with me but until then she will be referred to as M and I will be very careful of the personal information I share about her.

mmy101 · August 2012

PCP: With our move, we are slowly saving money... and I mean sllloooowwwlllyy! Tomorrow is H's birthday so I set a little aside for that. I got her an angry birds cake (complete with sling shot) and a video game she's been begging for forever. Her last pool leagues is tomorrow night, so I took the night off to celebrate with her.

The little 8month old I watch yelled "MAMA!" at me today... cutest thing ever! She is pulling herself up on the furniture and crawls fastest than I've ever seen.

QOTD: H thinks a board like this is cool. Even though we are not TTC yet, it is nice to hear about people who are going through what we will be. I show H some of the posts on here and sometimes we both say "that's how we feel!" I'm so glad there are ladies that are so open about their journeys!

Mandababy007 · August 2012

PCP: We have our first RE appointment on Sept 5th, extremely nervous for some reason. Maybe just the idea of actually getting closer to the goal gives me butterflies. DH has been looking at baby stuff when we were shopping, kinda newish for him to look past the "getting a baby" to "having a baby".

QOTD: DH doesn't mind, because I've taken advice from the boards and it's gotten us to where we are. A few months ago when we decided sometimes this year we wanted to try I hit the boards, asked questions and prepared as much as I could. With the advice, I've gotten as far as I can without an RE so now were moving onto that step.

clairmeij · August 2012

TTC:- I took my last two Femara/Letrozole pills today. I have acupuncture on Friday, an ultrasound on Tuesday morning, and hopefully on Thursday or Friday next week we'll be doing our 4th IUI. Very exciting times

QOTD:- I think she likes that it means that I get my neuroses out somewhere else. She's not a talker and doesn't understand talking about things. This board is a great outlet for me in that sense. I am far more careful than she is with online privacy, so that isn't a concern for her. The only thing that irritates her is that I have a habit of showing her all the cute baby pictures - and her response is normally, 'Only our baby will be interesting to me'. She's a funny old fish

2brides · August 2012

ATP - it has been a good week in our house! The kids are wrapping up camp and we are ready to go on vacation before school starts. Everyone has generally had good behavior and things are just rolling along.

QOTD: L is fine with it. She's met a few people from various boards I am on (both LGBT and non-LGBT) and realized that normal people do go on boards to socialize. She would never do it, but I think it has more to do with her crazy busy schedule/lack of free time, her age, and that she is a total introvert.

Kershnic · August 2012

Cycle is chugging along. The RE we happened to hit on Monday wanted to delay IUI until follicles were bigger than usual. We're nervous about it, but going with it.

QOTD: You guys are not my first online friends, so it's no surprise to her. She reads here sometimes but doesn't post because it's "my thing," but she also has online communities she follows.

nmartin1108 · August 2012

Kershnic:
Cycle is chugging along.nbsp; The RE we happened to hit on Monday wanted to delay IUI until follicles were bigger than usual.nbsp; We're nervous about it, but going with it.nbsp; QOTD: You guys are not my first online friends, so it's no surprise to her.nbsp; She reads here sometimes but doesn't post because it's "my thing," but she also has online communities she follows.nbsp;

What size are they typically looking for? Our always told us that 16 is mature, I'm just curious what other RE's use.

Kershnic · August 2012

nmartin1108:
Kershnic:
Cycle is chugging along.nbsp; The RE we happened to hit on Monday wanted to delay IUI until follicles were bigger than usual.nbsp; We're nervous about it, but going with it.nbsp; QOTD: You guys are not my first online friends, so it's no surprise to her.nbsp; She reads here sometimes but doesn't post because it's "my thing," but she also has online communities she follows.nbsp;
What size are they typically looking for? Our always told us that 16 is mature, I'm just curious what other RE's use.

It makes a difference whether it's a natural cycle, oral med cycle, or injectible cycle. Most REs (from what I've read on the internet and several I've interacted with at our RE practice) will trigger after oral meds around 18-20mm or so. From what I've read women usually ovulate on a natural cycle in the lower 20's. Injectible cycles you're mature in the upper teens. (Keeping in mind of course that your follies keep growing between trigger and ovulation.) Clomid apparently is known to cause ovulation without trigger a bit larger than in natural cycles. The RE we saw this week felt we should wait until closer to what would be my natural LH surge post-Clomid - i.e. mid or even high 20's.

EratMama · August 2012

ATP: One week of Zucchini here full time and I cleaned for two hours after the kids went to bed, and then we fist-bumped. It feels pretty normal. Mood swings, (all three of them) but they are doing great.

Pumpkin has terrible allergies and his not-great sleep has been terrible. Feeds twice/night on a good night, then up a ton more. And he's been doing 2 or 3 half hour naps all day. That's it.

QOTD: She likes that I have somewhere else to go and have adult conversation, and after many years, views you all as "real people" now.

ctbride08 · August 2012

EratMama:

ATP: One week of Zucchini here full time and I cleaned for two hours after the kids went to bed, and then we fist-bumped. It feels pretty normal. Mood swings, (all three of them) but they are doing great.

fantastic!!

JGY · August 2012

clairmeij:

QOTD:- I think she likes that it means that I get my neuroses out somewhere else. She's not a talker and doesn't understand talking about things. This board is a great outlet for me in that sense.

This.

Also, she has her own on-line communities that she is a part of, so I think she gets the value.  I would anticipate that as we get farther down this road, and the actual human baby shows up and is in our house, she may reach out to a similar (or maybe the same) group as well.

Today I have a lime-sized being in my uterus.  I'm pretty stoked about that!

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