Godparents question

Bride92010 · August 2012

So...I wanted to know those of you who are deciding who your LO's godparents may be- are you picking a couple or two separate people??

I have two separate people. My cousin I know has two separate because my mom is his godmother. DH though has a couple...

At first we thought we'd stick to a couple- BUT now we have two people that mean the world to us- one is my best friend and his best friend who were super important to us and at our wedding- we consider them our brother and sister.

So now I'm leaning to different people- what are you all doing for those who are having godparents???

angelacarmen · August 2012

Godparents will likely be two separate people, guardians will be a couple. We used to think we had to pick the same people to be Godparents and guardians, but we've learned that this is not the case. We'll likely choose our siblings (my sister, DH's brother) to be Godparents, and friends of ours who we're very close with to be guardians.

DHelenL9 · August 2012

For this baby, we haven't 100% decided, but I think we are having a couple (my brother and sis-in-law) though with DD1, we picked 2 separate people (my sister and my husband's best friend.)

Good luck with your decision.

143BabyCakes · August 2012

My choice was easy. My sister is my best friend so I am going to ask her. I told my BF he could choose the Godfather. He will be choosing his best friend which is my brother

(Bet you can't guess how we met!) lol. I didn't think about guardians though. Help! Advice is welcome!!!

Kadyra · August 2012

DS's godparents are a couple. Just worked out that way. I only had one godparent-- my great aunt, her husband died before I was born. DS2's godparents will likely be the same couple as DS1.

We do not use godparents in the traditional religious sense. They are just special people to us who, God forbid if we die, will take care of our children. We were turned off to the religious aspect of it when SIL asked us to be godparents, but only if we'd join her church. That would have involved me changing my religion so.... no.

ironmom5 · August 2012

Ours are not a couple. I picked the godmother, and SO picked the godfather, so it is my sister and his best friend. We did pick a couple to ask to be the guardians if something ever happened to us, because I don't know how the logistics would work if it wasn't a couple or even just one person (which is an option as well). Obviously, even if we live to be 100 (which I hope is the case!), that couple will still be a part of our children's lives as well as their godparents.

QuintonsMummah · August 2012

We have two separate people for DS(SIL and my Brother) and for this one we selected a couple my cousin and his wife.

FloridaLady · August 2012

I plan to have a different couple for each of our kids but that's just me. DH is one of SIL's sponsors (our church doesn't use the term godparent) and I'm not since she was born almost four years before I came into the picture; her other two are their brother and their mama's best friend, whose husband is not a sponsor as far as I know. I could see us choosing individuals for our last child if for some reason my best friend isn't married by the time #3 comes around. I figure it'll be her and her future husband but if he hasn't come into play yet then it'll be just her and another individual that we feel would uphold godparent/sponsor responsibilities if we fail to do our part in baby's spiritual life Smile

knjzacher · August 2012

I have no friggen clue. DH has two really great guy friends, one is engaged and one is single. We kinda want both of them. I am Godmother to a close girlfriends daughter, and as much as I'd like to do 'swapsies' or whatever, and ask her, I can't stand her deadbeat alcoholic drug-dealing boyfriend. I have another girlfriend who is a single mom, and she is basically the best mom I know. I want her but I feel like that would be imposing on her since she has a lot on her plate already.

DH and I have tried talking about it but we never come to any conclusions. When we think about Godparents, we won't be shipping our LO off to them if anything happens to us. My stepmom and dad would take her.

That being said, to answer the overall question, we are chosing individuals, because we do not have mutual friends or close family members who are actual couples that we trust. If we did, for example if DH's single guy friend and my single mom friend were together, we'd chose them. We are just going with people we trust most basically.

Happy choosing!

tobysnuggles · August 2012

It will be my brother and sister, so not a couple. My husbands family is not Catholic (even though I know a lot of people still pick godparents, but in my family being Catholic goes along with being a godparent). I don't think it matters if they are a couple or not, it's not like they are the two people who would have to take care of the kid if something happened to you.

shanflan02 · August 2012

We're doing two separate people also. A lot of people do couples but you don't have to...

jennygirlmt · August 2012

My brother is the only one married, and he and his wife are part of a religion that doesn't believe in Baptism (my fam is Catholic and he left to join my SIL's church). So that didn't make sense, we also need at least one Catholic godparent to be Baptized in that church. Thus we chose individuals, but we chose my brother and sister so that they are a unified front. DD2 will have DHs sister and one of his brothers, again so that they are a unified front.

My brother and DH bother have individuals, a sibling on each parent's side. And both have only one active godparent (though DHs Godfather goes above and beyond any godfather relationship I've ever seen, he is an incredible support to DH and all of us now).

We do not make Godparents be the automatic guardians as that would mean the children would be split up. We chose my sister (DD1s godmother) as the guardian of all of the children we have.

JulieN0704 · August 2012

They will not be a couple. GM is my best friend, GF is BIL.

KristaNbHam · August 2012

Godparents will not be married to one another, but both are family members. DH and I converted to Catholicism on our own, and most of our family members are Southern Baptist. It was a good thing for us that we have two other Catholics in the family or we would be out of luck! Godparents are typically only used for spiritual guidance in case something happens to the parents. If DH and I were killed, they would be responsible for ensuring that our children grow up in our faith.

Guardians will be my mom and her husband.

CarynGunter · August 2012

I'm Anglican and you typically have 2-3 godparents...they can be be couples but it didn't work out that way in the end for us for DD. For DD it is my sister, SIL, and DH's uncle. We have NO clue who to pick this time around for DS.

If you are a girl, you typically have 2 female and 1 male godparent

If you are a boy, you typically have 2 male and 1 female godparent

Bear021 · August 2012

With my DD we had my sister and my best friend for God Mothers. Her God Father was my ex husbands best friend. For this LO (Whitlee) I do know my daughter will be her God Mother (my daughter is a very religious teen, and I know she will guide Whitlee in the correct direction). We haven't talked much about a God Father, but I have a feeling DH will ask his cousin. The church we are having her baptized in doesn't recognize God Parents, so it isn't that big of a deal to have someone cut and dry. But I am hoping that my Step Dad can be the one baptizing her, as he is an elder in the church, but his appointment ends the end of December...so not sure with the Christmas Excitement in the Church, if we will have a chance to baptize her before his term is up.

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