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March 2013 Moms
sarahm7310
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sad day yesterday
sarahm7310
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I think that momma's know when something isn't right. I shared yesterday in a post that I was sick as a dog with my son and this one - my symptoms have been very minimal. My family told me "it's a girl - that's why you don't have a lot of symptoms...be happy about that". Well, I tried to believe that - but you know, sometimes you just know. My H was even telling me to trust that things were ok. I mean, gosh, I had been taking pregnancy tests like every week since I found out on June 26th and they were all positive.
I went in for my appointment yesterday - first was the confirmation appointment (urine test) and it came back positive (no surprise there) and then I went in for the ultrasound (they made my H stay out until they did the measurements and then he could come in....um, hate that! I will always demand from now on that he comes with me). Well, I just had this feeling....and I was right.
As she started the u/s (abdominal - I was 12w5d) - she didn't see anything. She then switched to the transvaginal one and she looked around for like 10 mins and I finally had to say something - I didn't know when she was going to break it to me. I just said "there's nothing there, right?" and she said "I don't see anything."
For some reason - I didn't even cry. I just went into this mode of "figure out what to do next". She is sending me to another OBGYN for a higher level of ultrasound (she thought she might have seen a little something - but said I need a next level up -I've never heard of this??) and to do beta levels, etc. She did give me paperwork on symptoms of miscarriage as I was leaving. Ugh.
My next appointment is this Friday at 1 with this new OB. I wish it was today. She kept asking me if I had any cramping or spotting and I said none at all - she said my uterus was measuring around 7 weeks - which means this happened almost 6 weeks ago. She said that you could still test positive on a pregnancy test too this long - although she said she's only seen it up to 6 weeks (which is what I'm coming up on this weekend) post when the baby stopped growing.
Anyways, I'm sad, hurting, confused....and yet, I haven't really felt it yet. Does that make sense? I'm still in this "figure everything out mode" and then maybe I can cry. Anyone else been there?
On top of this, we are prepping for our move to Kenya soon and I feel overwhelmed.
Thanks for reading this - I'll update too after our appointment on Friday. Thank you, ladies, for being a source of encouragement here. It's very lovely.
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Re: sad day yesterday
Starting Metformin 5/2012
BFP 6/25/2012!! EDD 3/7/2013!! IT'S A BOY!!
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BFP#1 3/8/12; diagnosed w/ Anencephaly at 12w6d; D&C 5/9/12
BFP#2 7/18/12; A/S 10/26/12 It's a Girl! EDD 3/29/13
Phoebe Jordan Born 3/20/13
I am so, so sorry you are dealing with this. I had the same thing happen last year - I was so sick with DD#1 and with the next pregnancy, I felt great. I just knew there was something wrong. When we went for the ultrasound and there was nothing there, I wasn't surprised. It took a while for it to sink in - I don't think it really hit me until a few weeks later when the miscarriage actually started.
Big hugs.
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It's a girl!
I'm so very sorry for what you are going through. Being in limbo is the worst. I hope you get some definitive answers soon.
(((hugs))) to you
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BFP #1 09/02/11 M/C 09/12/11 8w6days
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I'm so sorry you have to go through this. Not sure if you saw my post a couple of weeks ago, but my situation was very much the same as yours. I've still been lurking on March 2013 because I miss the camaraderie. If you need to talk with someone who experienced the same thing you're going through, I'll be here for you. Private message me anytime!
Stay well, keep calm.
BFP #2 - 7/1/12 - Met my lucky charm Alexandra on 3-16-13!!!
First of all, I am so, so sorry that you are going through this. It sucks.
Secondly, I firmly believe in that gut feeling. I had a blighted ovum between my son and daughter. I hardly had any symptoms and just "felt" that something wasn't right. I wasn't shocked when all they saw at my 10 week appointment was an empty sac. Like you, I had no cramping or bleeding prior to the appointment, just a bad feeling.
I really hope you get some peace on Friday either way. I know I was eager to get it all over with and move on.
Big hugs to you!