Let's talk about s*x

ldoo · August 2012

OK, everyone with multiple children. How on earth do you balance your kids, work, the house and keeping your husband happy?

jlw2505 · August 2012

You make time for what is important and what can wait. Sometimes DH needs to settle for less often when our schedules just can't fit another thing in, someone is sick, etc. And I don't look at it as making DH happy - I look at it as keeping us both happy and connected. The same way we need to sit down and talk and just hang out, we also need some alone time. We have a planned Wed night date night and also one on Sat night. They don't always happen and they often don't include the bedroom but we make it a point to aim for at least meeting in the bedroom a few times a month. If I looked at it as just keeping DH happy, it would fall lower on the scale but I look at it as keeping both of us happy and making our marriage a priorty. Makes it easier on those nights when I want nothing more than my bed, a glass of wine and a book/TV - knowing that spending time with the two us will make us stronger makes me shift my own personal needs to meet both of our needs/wants. Housework can always wait - my house always looks neat but it might not be clean all the time.

Sunidaze · August 2012

Keeping husband happy? I've threatened to find a boytoy because DH being on third shift is just totally killing our sex life!

gimmietimmies · August 2012

Bump burp

gimmietimmies · August 2012

I don't know, we just do? We have most things in a routine, some most things get done most of the time, kwim? As for us having alone time, it happens, sometimes more, sometimes less. It depends on so many things, but we usually make time for things to happen, or they wouldn't . Plus our bedroom door locks.

robynlesley · August 2012

ldoo:
OK, everyone with multiple children. How on earth do you balance your kids, work, the house and keeping your husband happy?

<---- not replying since I have an only child. Wink Stick out tongue

LoCarb · August 2012

It's tough but we manage. We hired a cleaning lady to help w/ the house and I must say w/ less stress on me I'm in the mood more. Adult time is after the kids are in bed (on days I'm not too tired) or for a quickie in the walk-in closet. Sexxxx isn't as often as H would like (daily even multiple times daily at that) but it's weekly and existent.

stever · August 2012

I'll respond once I'm 6 weeks PP. As it is, we're fine with kisses and cuddles.

Echowysp · August 2012

I find it hard to balance, I will admit. With work, the kids, the house and being woken up multiple times a night for the last 4 years, I'm bone-tired. By the end of the day, I'm done servicing needs and need time/space to myself. That doesn't leave much for dh.

I've found us finding time early morning on the weekends when the kids are watching a show or other daytime moments work better for me. I have more energy and less resentment about sex. I've been pregnant or nursing our entire marriage, so my sex drive has been rock bottom since ds was born. I'm praying it will be better once dd is weaned.

Carol*Brady2 · August 2012

I have 3 & one on the way. I only work part-time which helps

) I am not a great housekeeper at all. It's picked up & tidy but deep cleaning gets done when guests come over--lol. My DH does the laundry & helps with stuff in the evening. The kids are all in school this year (well #3 is doing 5 mornings a week preschool). I love sex so I am game in that department. We squeeze it in after the kids are asleep, before they wake up or if we are feeling daring, we'll lock the bedroom & go for it in mid-afternoon on the weekend if the kids are occupied. I do have free babysitters (my sister, my BILs & my MIL) in town now which is nice because we do get date nights every once in a while too.

CobaltBlue2 · August 2012

I'm amazed that all of you are doing as well as you are! I know nobody feels that their balance is ideal, but kudos for getting this far!

We only have one so far--almost1 year old!--but we rarely make time for nookie, and it doesn't seem to happen naturally very often. We're starting-to-start to try for #2, so we've had a few "let's do this!" tries, but we are nowhere near the way we were before baby.

Part of it is probably that he's 52...anybody else with a significantly older guy? So he's not as fired up you might think. Also, our nighttime routine after the baby goes to bed is all about catching up, or just goofing off, and it doesn't seem to lead itself to sex, more like drinking a little wine and then toddling off to bed to get some sleep before the 3am wake-up call.