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Sex and name of the child
Did most of you know the sex of the child you were adopting? If you did, did you tell everyone? Just wondering. We recently found out and I have told those that have asked, although I think the name we will keep a secret because I told my mom the names we were thinking about and she didn't like one of them and I think that might be the name.
Failed Matches - December 2012, May 2013, December 2013
Moved on to gestational surrogacy with a family friend who is our angel and due 7/23/15
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Re: Sex and name of the child
We only knew about our son a week before he arrived. But, previously, we talked about our names with peeps. My MIL hates the girl name we have picked out and my DH is fine with that. Once your LO is on the scene, your mom will probably not care and perhaps have a special nickname for him or her. (BTW, MIL doesn't have much worry anymore about the girl name now that she's experienced being a granny.)
TTC June 2009-May 2011
We decided to adopt in June 2011!
HDQ born February 21, 2012
Placed on February 24, 2012
Hoping to finalize September 2012
With DD1, we did not know her gender but we also didn't have much warning.... five days.
With DD2, we found out her gender at about 25 weeks. We did share... not sure why... but we did.
DH wanted to name a daughter after his late mother.... and we shared it. It's not a popular name and we received some very strong criticism. (mary jane) But we stuck by it... so glad we did.
With DD2 we did narrowed the names down to four and we did share four. My sister hated one.... which was rough. But we stuck with it. In the end, we used the hated name for a middle name so it was all okay. (Name is elizabeth josphine but we call her Betsy)
Our names are not popular, they are old fashioned. People either love or hate them.... and that's okay
Love the name Elizabeth Josphine! I like the old fashioned names too.
We didn't get The Call until DD was already born, so this wasn't an issue for us.
It's up to you what you want to do with names. I never had a problem sharing our names. I didn't give a rat's a$$ if people didn't like it. Some of my relatives have unusual names, and my family is of the opinion that they don't get a vote unless they're the parents.
FWIW, DD has a very unusual name, but people love it when they hear it. It's just hard to spell.
That is hilarious!!! LOL
We didn't know the sex ahead of time. We had 4 names we could both agree on -- Zoe, Charlotte, Alexander, and Jack.
We kept them a secret (except from dd's birthmom) because we didn't want anyone telling us that they didn't like them. Plus we wanted it to be a surprise.
We didn't tell anyone except my sister the names of our kids (while pregnant or adopting) because we like "different" names which tend to get extra comments. I felt like everyone wanted to name our babies, and I didn't like it. When we adopted, we ended up throwing all the names we had previously considered out the window and went with a new name, but it didn't come to us until he was home for a whole day! (He was a surprise placement, we got a call and 18 hours we had him home). The agency said that "never" happens for people to not name the baby right away, but we didn't just want to pick "a" name we wanted it to be "his" name, thus we needed a little time.
I'd just keep your names under wraps and go with what you feel is "the name"! No one will care once the baby is born (unless its something awful like Hitler!)
That's funny, because I stopped DH the other day and said "Check out this Bumpie's kids' names! Aren't they great?" (referencing your signature)
BFP #1 9/7/10, EDD 5/14/11, Violet born 5/27/11.
BFP #2 4/9/12, EDD 12/16/12, M/C Rory 4/24/12.
BFP #3 10/6/12, EDD 6/16/12., Matilda born 6/17/13.
our attny blurted out the sex of the child, before i could even say if i wanted to know. we only told our families the gender of the child.
regarding names..... we only shared the name when the baby was born. i think that's the best way. it's the parent's choice and i really don't care about anyone's opinion on the name.
good luck going forward!