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October 2012 Moms
AmyP4383
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Circumcision???
AmyP4383
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For those of you who know you are having a boy, I am interested to know how many people are planning on circumcising their LO? Are you doing it in-hospital or during a ceremonial bris? Can you include where you live? DH and I are in a bit of a debate - I am a NY Jew and he is a Protestant Brit so it is really the one thing we don't agree on.
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Re: Circumcision???
we're in NY
undecided. I see both sides of argument.
We won't be doing it. DH isn't circumcised and has never had any issues (teasing in the locker room after football practice, hygiene, or otherwise). I was raised Catholic in OH and DH was raised Presbyterian in OH (we live in NC now).
IMO, the reasons for doing it (aside from personal preference or religious reasons) aren't reason enough for us to do it. A little boy can be taught to clean his penis properly, when he's older he should be using condoms anyway to prevent STDs and when he's older/elderly, sure there's a chance it could get infected, but that's true with a lot of other body parts so in my mind, removing a body part that serves a distinct function to prevent an infection that may or may not happen isn't a good enough reason.
To each their own though - I certainly don't judge anyone for circumcising their child. I've never met or dated a guy who felt "violated" or who had emotional scars from having his foreskin removed.
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We are team green, but if it's a boy we wil have it done at the hospital.
Our son will be having his circumcision done in the hospital. We are both Catholic and in NJ. I left it up to DH and he wanted to go ahead and do it.
We are team green but will do it in the hospital if it's a boy. My husband is British but happens to be circumcised due to a medical issue (not the norm there). He was teased when he was younger in the locker rooms for being circumcised as most people weren't, so he wants our LO to be (I guess he assumes most people are here?) I've left it up to him but would probably have done it if it were up to me. I see both sides of the argument though.
Update - We are both Catholic, live in NJ
We will be having it done a couple of days after the hospital as it is not covered by insurace at all and is completely and out of pocket expense. My OB will do it at her office or we will have the pedi do it.
I had no idea that it wasn't covered (even after meeting my deductible) until my OB told me to check. I'm glad I did because it usually much more expensive to have it done in the hosptial.
Update: We live in MN.
We are choosing to not circumcise our son.
We didn't have DS circ'd - my DH is also a Brit and was horrified at the idea, I didn't mind either way so I left it up to him. (We're in MA)
In your case I can see why you would want to - if I were you and decided to do it I think I'd probably go for the bris so I could argue that it's tradition/culture - after all it's about more than just the circumcision to do a bris. That's the only tie-breaking argument I can give, though, sorry!
I will say that if you don't do it, care for an uncirc'd penis is a breeze. Despite what some well-meaning folks say, you DON'T pull back the foreskin for cleaning - it needs to stay in place when they're younger and will naturally loosen when he hits about age 4 or so, at which point he'll pull it back himself for toileting, bathing, etc. When they're younger you just give them a quick wipe during diapering + bathing, same as a circ'd penis. My son (now 6) and all of our nephews haven't have a problem, health or otherwise. So far my son hasn't encountered any teasing - maybe 1/3-1/2 of the boys I've seen haven't been circ'd either.
Good luck with your decision!
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Haha. That'll be short lived.
I mean this in a light hearted way. Just struck me as funny.
Circ in the hospital.
I live in the southwest. High Hispanic and Native American populations. Most white boys have it done, some Hispanic boys do, and most Native Americans where I live do not have it done.
This sums up my feelings about it despite the fact that we're having both boys circ'd.
We are in NJ and are Catholic. DH is uncircumcised, but feels strongly that DS should be circumcised. I am having a hard time with this, as it is not medically necessary. I am trying to respect DH's feelings, as he grew up with an uncircumcised penis and I did not. DH has supported me on things whole-heartily that weren't necessarily what he would choose (like nursing our daughter till she was almost 3 and keeping a family bed.) So while I am not very happy with the decisions, we will be getting DS circumcised. My midwives don't do it, but they are associated with an OB who will. It will be done in the hospital before we leave and I just called my insurance today to see if it is covered and it is (I was hoping it wasn't, so I had more ammo for the fight against.)
FWIW: My midwife said she had the same argument with her husband and ended circumcising her son, even though she didn't want to as well.
Freshie Girl 9.29.12
We are both white Christians from NJ and will not be circumcising our son.
It actually infuriates me when parents chose to do it just for hygiene reasons. If you can teach a girl to clean her vagina, why can't you teach a boy to clean his penis?