Rediculous.

Phil413 · August 2012

A friend of mine just had a son, maybe 3 months ago, and she also has a 2 year old daughter. She mentions on fb that they are letting the 2 year old CIO and she has been crying for an hour but finally fell asleep. Various other parents wrote in to support her for sticking with it; one non-parent, who had a conversation with a parent friend of hers, BLASTS her for letting a child CIO. At 2??? Then she posts a blog entry for everyone to read:

https://www.phdinparenting.com/2008/07/05/no-cry-it-out/#.UCjk36MS59R

What do you think?

I can understand the 3 month old crying, and he absolutely needs his needs met. But a 2 year old? Come on, it's a tantrum at that point, and needs to be ignored.

Jennikd3 · August 2012

I agree. Everything on that blog is about a BABY. And even then I think they only apply if you're trying CIO before LO is ready/too young. CIO is not for all families/babies, and if it's not your family, you don't get a say.

I think a 2 year old, without a legitimate need, is just crying to cry, or testing boundaries.

JaysonandKristin · August 2012

I looked for some credentials on the blog author, other than her "PhD in Parenting," I didn't find anything about Early Childhood Development.

Furthermore, the TITLE of the blog post says it all "... Why CIO is not for US"

This is one of the reasons that I hate the interwebz. People can pass on their interpretation of "scientific data" as matter-of-fact. The best kind of argument (IMHO) addresses the opposition.

And, even more so, this blogger likens letting your child CIO with abandonment. Wrong... So incredibly wrong.

Any study that you're going to read about CIO and its effects is going to show you correlation, not causation. There is no way of absolutely knowing that CIO is what leads to X, Y or Z.

But, with ABSOLUTE certainty, I can tell you what happens physiologically when mom, dad and children are sleep deprived.

THIS WOMAN and her GARBAGE are the reason that I feel so strongly about my parenting philosophy of, "do what's best for you and your family in the moment."

melissa0726 · August 2012

LindsRockies:
Jennikd3:
I agree. Everything on that blog is about a BABY. And even then I think they only apply if you're trying CIO before LO is ready/too young. CIO is not for all families/babies, and if it's not your family, you don't get a say.

I think a 2 year old, without a legitimate need, is just crying to cry, or testing boundaries.

This.

#10 on her post was gag-inducing. IMHO, there is nothing wrong with doing CIO with a 2 year old.

Seriously. Give me a break! We have chose not to use CIO, mostly because of our read on our baby in that we think she wouldn't respond to the method. That doesn't mean I won't try it at some point with her in the future, though, if necessary. At 2 years old, a toddler is having a tantrum and testing boundaries. Totally ridiculous to compare that to using CIO on an infant.

eatmorecupcakes · August 2012

I am totally against CIO and if you told me you were going to do it with your 8 month old, I could think of plenty of arguments against why I wouldn't do it. I personally don't think I would do CIO with my 2 year old based upon what i already know about his personality and endurance level, but I don't think I could come up with an argument as to why someone else shouldn't do it.

That being said, I would never share those "arguments" with a friend. It's just not my place. Not my baby, not my business. The only thing I could even think that would come close is if that friend asked for advice I might share some alternate solutions. (as if I have any, I wish!! ) People never cease to amaze me.

Duffgurl · August 2012

I am sorry but CIO is not for us. To each their own.

Roselis · August 2012

CIO has worked for us. And Alex certainly knows he isn't abandoned. For him, he has learned how to put himself back to sleep at night since I started doing it. But, it is not for everyone.

Just like when it comes to spanking. I am for it. There are plenty against it. It depends on the child.

Phil413 · August 2012

We have been doing CIO for many moons and it is has been awesome for us, but I'm not going to judge what other people do in other homes. In no way is DD neglected or abandoned. The only time it ever concerned me was not too long ago, when she started crying in the middle of the night, but not any more than usual when she kind of half wakes up. It turns out she threw up all over her crib. What grinds my gears the most is that this woman doesn't even have kids and then decides to push her views on someone else.

jessicaclare · August 2012

I am annoyed that anyone would say they have a PHD in parenting. Seriously. I'm on kid #3 and I'm not sure I've even made it out of elementary school yet.

As for CIO, to each their own. I've employed it with 2 kids and not with the middle.

Everyone is the perfect parent before the have kids!

JonathansMommi2010 · August 2012

I am going to say this when my son was in a crib he never slept with me. well when he went into the toddler bed he would not stay in his bed so i thought it was easier to just lay down with him. well usually the result would be Oh I am going to put him in his bed when he falls asleep well that ended in mommy falling asleep with him. well now we are not cio anymore he lays down on his own without a problem back when he was a baby i would say i did not agree with it. in away i still do not agree with it but we all have different ways of trying to put little one down it works out better for others to cio.

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