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In denial

leneae10leneae10 member
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I have put ZERO effort into how this is going to work.  With previous pregnancies, by 12w I had figured everything out, started a list of what to buy, etc.  This time it's gone REALLY fast and friends are asking if we're moving DS's bedroom upstairs, are we getting a minivan, etc?  I haven't thought about anything nor do I care to.  I feel disconnected (even though I've had 4 sonos), dispassionate, numb, etc. 

Did anyone else feel this way?  I know this is my way of protecting myself but I wish I could be just a little excited, ya know? 
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Twin boys born too early at 17w4d and 18w2d in February 2010
Transabdominal cerclage placed September 2010
DS born at 35w1d in February 2011
Twin girls born at exactly 36w in February 2013
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Re: In denial

  • jessican08jessican08 member

    After what you've been through - don't feel bad AT ALL for feeling this way.

    We've had several scares this PG and I didn't even feel comfortable doing anything until I hit 23/24w and I'm still apprehensive. Do you what you feel comfortable with right now and if that's protecting yourself, then do that. ((HUGS))

    TTC 12/2009
    Me: 32 - Stage II Endo / DH: 36 - Low count and morphology (1%)
    IUIs 1-3 BFN, lap Dec. 2010, IUIs 4-6 BFN
    IVF w/ICSI #1 - ER 2/8: 24R 19M 9F ET 2/13 2-5 day blasts (no frosties) = BFP - b/g twins!
    E & C Born 10/19/2012
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  • RynleighRynleigh member

    I haven't bought a single thing. I started a registry just because family was pressuring me to. My MIL keeps soliciting friends and neighbors for clothing/toy/etc donations and she's stocking up on baby stuff to send us and I keep wanting to go off on her and tell her to stop because I don't even know if I'm going to make it through September without undergoing a surgery with a 20% chance of loss and it just stresses me out. While I'm still glad I told everyone about our pregnancy early on so that I have support during these struggles, like my potential surgery or the chance of preemies and whatnot, I am starting to finally get to that point where I wish I'd just not told anyone until the 3rd trimester just so people wouldn't be raising my anxiety levels. 

    Numbing yourself off is one of the most common reactions to elevated anxiety - and when you're going through the transition of coming to terms with the idea of multiple infants, I think that anxiety skyrockets for most of us, even the totally sane people ;) You've still got plenty of time, and other people will come along and start doing a lot of the thinking for you as things progress. Don't feel bad.  

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    Essure implant placed on remaining tube 06.13.2013; successful followup scan 09.30.2013


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  • leneae10leneae10 member
    Thanks ladies!  It's good to at least feel like I'm not alone. ((HUGS)) Rynleigh.
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    Twin boys born too early at 17w4d and 18w2d in February 2010
    Transabdominal cerclage placed September 2010
    DS born at 35w1d in February 2011
    Twin girls born at exactly 36w in February 2013
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