Lo slapping me

Fweetie · August 2012

I can't seem to get Logan to stop slapping me in the face. He isn't doing it out of rage, he is doing it beccause he thinks it's funny. I don't even think he knows he is slapping me...they way it does it is the same way he 'pets the puppies' (Our poor dogs... lol)

Anyway, after he "pets" me, I have told him "NO!" very firmly... that just makes him laugh.

I have stopped his hand as he is doing it and I have said "no no!" ... that just makes him laugh.

I have no expression what so ever and tried to ignore the behavor... that just makes him laugh too.

and lastly I have now started getting up and walking away... that just makes him laugh and chase me. He is pretty persistant, he won't stop until he "pets" my face.

Earlier he had his hair brush and wanted to "pet" my face with it. That hurt like a mother &^%$er! I don't want him doing this to others! How do I get him to stop this behavior?

TIA!

kellydw · August 2012

i had a similar issue, i would try to get her hand before she connected and slow her down and tell her gentle and if she connected i would still hold her hand and show her gentle. after a week and a half she got it and now nicely touchs my face.

Fweetie · August 2012

Thanks! I think my problem was inconsistancy. I wasn't sticking to one thing and he probably thought it was a game. I'm going to def try what you suggested! Thanks!

StefandTodd · August 2012

OMG, we are having the exact same issue (down to even that I am certain it's not malicious and it's how he pets the dog (and our very patient cats) also. The only thing that makes our situation a little worse at this point is that he has started doing it to all the kids at daycare, and I am pretty mortified. His teachers say it's just a normal part of becoming a toddler...it's excitement and he's obviously saying hello excitedly, with his hands. The babies don't cry, but it looks terrible, like he's seriously trying to hit/harm/hurt them. Basically they just encourage consistency with grabbing his hand and showing him gentle/soft touches instead. For my son, setting him down and walking away does get a negative reaction (confused, screaming crying and reaching for me), so I still try to do that too so he knows that we're done playing when he smacks me. It sucks though...my H and I talked so much about it yesterday, and then I was reading your post to him last night and hoping for more advice, but I honestly think you're doing (as am I) pretty much all you can do at this age. I hope they both start to "get it" soon. GL!

bundymommy · August 2012

Have you tried putting him somewhere safe where he can't chase you and then walking away, like a PnP or his crib? I wouldn't do it long, no more than a minute or two, so it's kind of like a little time-out.

Although with the crib, you probably don't want those negative memories associated with it...so maybe not...I guess I don't have very good advice. Good luck!

Fweetie · August 2012

StefandTodd:
OMG, we are having the exact same issue (down to even that I am certain it's not malicious and it's how he pets the dog (and our very patient cats) also. The only thing that makes our situation a little worse at this point is that he has started doing it to all the kids at daycare, and I am pretty mortified. His teachers say it's just a normal part of becoming a toddler...it's excitement and he's obviously saying hello excitedly, with his hands. The babies don't cry, but it looks terrible, like he's seriously trying to hit/harm/hurt them. Basically they just encourage consistency with grabbing his hand and showing him gentle/soft touches instead. For my son, setting him down and walking away does get a negative reaction (confused, screaming crying and reaching for me), so I still try to do that too so he knows that we're done playing when he smacks me. It sucks though...my H and I talked so much about it yesterday, and then I was reading your post to him last night and hoping for more advice, but I honestly think you're doing (as am I) pretty much all you can do at this age. I hope they both start to "get it" soon. GL!

LOL... glad to know it's not only my kid! The side of my face is bruised today actually. I decided to post that yesterday after he had a hair brush in his hands and wanted to "pet" me with it. It hurt so bad I decided enough was enough... I needed answers. Well, today I woke up with a bruise.

Hope your LO stops "petting" the other kids in daycare! I'm going to keep at the saying 'gentle' approach and see how that works. GL!!

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