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Going back to work/LO with Nanny :(

clarks415clarks415 member
in March 2012 Moms

Hi! So it's been a while but I am in need of support.

I am getting ready to go back to work (I am a teacher), I've been out since Feb, Nolan arrived early March. I have been home very long, and know I am so blessed to be able to have done so. But I am very scared of leaving him. We are trying a part-time nanny as opposed to a home daycare (which we did with DS1). She is very capable, graduated with a nursing degree, CPR certified, First aid.. the whole 9 yards. We love her. But I am feeling so conflicted this time around. Am I a bad mother for leaving him? Financially I need to work. I just have this sick feeling in my stomach that I am worried something will happen to him if I leave him. Is this normal? I didn't have this with DS#1 - but I was younger and dumber then.. lol

TIA 

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Re: Going back to work/LO with Nanny :(

  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
    Of course you're not a bad mother for leaving him! He'll probably enjoy interacting with another adult and learn a lot from her. He'll be fine. And you'll miss him a ton, but you'll be fine too.
    Have you checked out the Working Moms board? It's a great resource.
    Good luck!
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  • kmhunt11kmhunt11 member
    I went back today, and just try not to think about it too much. I try to think of all the kids I will be reaching this year and the good I will do in the classroom.  My brother is taking care of DD, and he has absolutely  no experience with babies, but he'll figure it out.  I know she'll be fine and he'll be fine and I'll be fine.  I missed her terribly today, but its nice to be something other than just mommy.  Hm.  That sounds weird, and i don't know how to explain it better.  I've always wanted to be a teacher, and for the past year and a half I haven't been able to teach.  It's really bothered me that my only identity was 'mommy'.  I love being a mommy more than anything, but I want to be other things, too.  It breaks my heart that I'll miss things with DD2, but I think I will feel much more fulfilled, and be a better mommy in the time I get to spend with my girls.  I certainly enjoyed my 4 year old more this afternoon after a nice break filled with working in my classroom and actually earning some money for a change.   
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  • krispy83krispy83 member

    I know how you feel!  I am a teacher as well and went back last week after 5 1/2 months home with DS.  We found a great home day care and absolutely love the lady who watches him, but it's still hard.  You are NOT a bad mother for working.  It is hard, but I have found that every day gets a tiny bit easier. 

    The fact that you have a nanny is awesome - your DS will get so much attention and care.  It always makes me feel a little better to call during my lunch period and check to see how DS' morning was, etc.  The fact that he's doing okay makes it easier to get through the afternoon.  Since you have a nanny you can probably get updates throughout the day, especially in the beginning, which will help you feel a little better.

    It's really hard though, I know.  Hang in there, mama!

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