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Ladies with multiples: Did you tell your boss about multiples right away?

solarflaresolarflare member
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Hey ladies,

If all comes back okay this week with my test results, I am going to be telling my boss on Weds. during my yearly review that I am pregnant and will be taking maternity leave early next year.

So, my question is, did you tell them that you were expecting multiples when you told them?

I just don't know if I should say "I'm pregnant" or "I'm pregnant with twins." The first sounds better to me right now since I am not so far along, but the second is more straightforward and I won't have to be skirting the issue when people say "a" baby. Also, if I didn't say the "twins" part, then I would basically have to do a second announcement when I feel comfortable.  My boss and I get along really well, but I am just wondering what is more standard.

Details, details I know...  

ttc since 2/2010 ~
me (36): Hypothyroid (on Levothroid), low vit. d, borderline/high fsh (day 3: between 7-10) (day 10: 13 during CCCT), AFC: 14
dh (31): awesome (minus one sample with agglutination)
Diagnosis:possible DOR and/or unexplained + elevated NK cells + MTHFR (C677T - one copy)

MAY 2011 - FEB 2012 - 3 injectable IUI's with numerous cancellations due to high TSH levels
MAY 2012 - onto IVF/ICSI (Antagonist Protocol) on BCP and Folgard (3 week delay - cyst - boooo) 5/21 start stims 5/30 ER 11R 8M 3F 6/2 3DT of 3 6/12 Beta #1 83 | 6/14 Beta #2 196 | 6/21 Beta #3 3818 | 6/28 Beta #4 22,213 | 7/2 1st U/S - 2 on board! 8/24 CVS reveals that we have a boy AND a girl on board!

Healthy baby boy and girl born in February, 2013 at 38 weeks and 2 days!


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Re: Ladies with multiples: Did you tell your boss about multiples right away?

  • Soon2beMrs.SivertSoon2beMrs.Sivert
    I did. There is no point beating around the bush IMO. I wanted them to know up front, I was about 12 weeks. Considering you could go on bedrest at any point it is a valuable piece of information. I know my employers were prepared for it. 
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  • tombomb84tombomb84
    I told my boss that I was pregnant and having twins at the same time.  I think it is just easier that way and honestly, I don't think it made any difference to him at all. Do whatever you are comfortable with....though I can honestly say that thanks to IF it is hard to ever really be comfortable with things and not worried!
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    TX: IUI #1-4 = BFN + 1 c/p
    IUI #5: Clomid 100mg + Bravelle + Trigger + B2B IUIs + 800mg Progesterone = BFP!
    Beta #1 (14dpiui): 460 Beta #2 (16dpiui): 998 Beta #3 (23dpiui): 21,832 Beta #4 (29dpiui): 129,771

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  • CGoldman96CGoldman96 member
    I told them about it being twins at the same time I announced the pregnancy.  I believe I waited til around 14 weeks.
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  • Ruthie04Ruthie04 member
    I think I said, "I'm pregnant" and after the excitement and congrats came, I said, "There's something else. It's twins." I think it is so important that you are upfront with the twin news, as I found my bosses to be much more understanding about my not feeling well or any complications that kept me at home.
    TTC in 2009, Dx: Unexplained IF
    Three TI cycles (BFP...miscarriage), five IUI attempts and 2.5 IVF cycles later...BFP!!
    12dp5dt: 765; 15dp5dt: 1979; 17dp5dt: 3379...TWINS!!!!!
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  • amethystgrrlamethystgrrl member
    I gave him the whole story in the interest of fulldisclosure. Good luck!
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  • solarflaresolarflare member

    Thank you so much for all of your awesome advice as usual. As long as our testing comes back a-ok, I will be announcing the twins news along with the general pregnancy news. 

    Hopefully at some point I will not be overthinking every single little thing about this pregnancy, but you guys are incredibly helpful and kind every step of the way.

    ttc since 2/2010 ~
    me (36): Hypothyroid (on Levothroid), low vit. d, borderline/high fsh (day 3: between 7-10) (day 10: 13 during CCCT), AFC: 14
    dh (31): awesome (minus one sample with agglutination)
    Diagnosis:possible DOR and/or unexplained + elevated NK cells + MTHFR (C677T - one copy)

    MAY 2011 - FEB 2012 - 3 injectable IUI's with numerous cancellations due to high TSH levels
    MAY 2012 - onto IVF/ICSI (Antagonist Protocol) on BCP and Folgard (3 week delay - cyst - boooo) 5/21 start stims 5/30 ER 11R 8M 3F 6/2 3DT of 3 6/12 Beta #1 83 | 6/14 Beta #2 196 | 6/21 Beta #3 3818 | 6/28 Beta #4 22,213 | 7/2 1st U/S - 2 on board! 8/24 CVS reveals that we have a boy AND a girl on board!

    Healthy baby boy and girl born in February, 2013 at 38 weeks and 2 days!


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  • LuvWIfootballLuvWIfootball member

    I ended up telling my boss last week, at 8wks.  What I said was, "I'm pregnant (pause for response)... with triplets".  Then the freak out on her end began :)  

    I'm very much a planner and am the manager of my office, so I felt it was necessary to tell my boss now because not only are these babies expected in only 6 months, but the odds of bedrest are pretty high.  I needed to make sure we started planning sooner rather than later.  Another reason for mentioning multiples is due to the extra MD appts that I'll be having.

    Good luck!

     

                          

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    DS1 born July 2002 (previous marriage).

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    MFI due to retrograde ejaculation/azoospermia.
    5/2 IVF #1 cancelled due to large follie.
    6/14 start Lupron for IVF #1.2. 6/22 start stims.
    7/4 ER and Biopsy.
    7/9 Transferred 2 (1-4BB and 1-3BB) embryos.  4 frosties.
    7/15 +HPT 6dp5dt. 7/18 Beta #1: 193. 7/20 Beta #2: 415.
    8/10 1st u/s - It's triplets!

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