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August 2011 Moms
Someone tell me what i'm doing wrong!
I need some serious sleep help! DS has never sttn. A couple weeks ago we started putting him to sleep awake but sitting in the glider as he puts himself to sleep. This took about a week and now he is out within 5 min (while I sit in the room).
He still wakes up at midnight every night and will not go back down for an hour, sometimes 2. I've tried staying in the room with him, laying him down and patting, and rocking. The rocking works but as soon as a i lay him down he wakes up.
If he is waking up every night at the same time it can't be teething related, it has to be habit right? Do we stop staying in room with him and let him CIO??
Also, my Aunt watches him during the day and his last nap is from 2:30- 3:30. Do you think that is too late for an 8pm bedtime?
Thanks! I'm getting desperate!
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Re: Someone tell me what i'm doing wrong!
Our last nap is at the same time and bedtime is 7. There's no way DS can make it to 8 unless he naps later. Even then, it's really, really pushing it and usually ends in a very restless night. Have you tried moving his bedtime earlier?
He's waking at midnight because you'll come in and hang with him then. You have to stop. We've had the same issue and the solution was CIO. However, his magic wake up time was 4am. I do go in if he's inconsolable, but I do not pick him up. I leave him in the crib and sing to him, replace his paci and pat/rub his tummy and head. Then, I leave. I spend no more than 1-2 minutes in there. If I spend longer, he gets dependent on me coming in.
Our last nap is 2:30 - 4 and bedtime is around 8:30, so your 8PM bedtime doe snot seem too late to me.
At this point, I would probably give CIO a try. I know with DD2, she won't go back to sleep if we're in the room with her but she will if we leave. If we stay, she'll just cry for us to pick her up.
Good luck!
Our sleep schedule is changing, but DD still lays down around 4:30-5:30 for her evening nap, from there she will get up, eat dinner, and we interact with her until her bedtime, usually somewhere between 8:30-9:00. Have you tried Tylenol for teething?
E usually wakes up between 11:30-1:30 some nights, and needs to be put back to sleep, usually I can turn a soft light and some music and she will fall back asleep, sometimes she comes to bed with me for a half hour and then I put her back in her own bed.
Does he have a lovey or something in his crib that he can use to self sooth? We are a naughty house and have two crib toys (a frog that she can squeeze and chew on and a mirror) along with a lovey blanket, plush blanket, and a little giraffe that winds up and plays music. So if she wakes up bored, she can play until she goes back to sleep.
I'm sure you're not doing anything wrong, he's just a picky sleeper! We've got one too, I hope you feel better knowing that we have one too! Also, I had to cut out her 'nighttime' bath, even with the night time lotion and wash, she plays too much, so she gets wound up when she gets a bath, try switching up his whole routine, maybe getting him to stay up later would help?? Hope you find a solution soon!
1 year olds should be getting about 14 hours of sleep per day -- including naptimes and overnight sleep.
If LO isn't getting that much sleep it can create big problems.
Take a look at LO's sleep schedule and find out if you're lacking, oversleeping or right on.
If there's something amiss with the total number of hours, fix it with naps or moving bedtime earlier by 30 minutes at a time.
FWIW, DS2 wakes around 3:30pm and goes down for bed at 8:00. So, I don't think your naptime is too late in the day.
There are so many different things going on right now -- growth spurts, teething, mastering new skills, etc -- that will affect the quality of sleep for a little one. I think it's kind of hard to expect one to CIO in the MOTN. I would go in and soothe in a different manner -- paci and rock, rock without a paci, rock and sing, etc.
Good luck!! We are up at 4am every morning, and typically we are a CIO family, but he's been going through a lot lately, and I'm not willing to let him cry right now.
Michaela was doing this a while ago. What we found that worked was we cut out a nap. She has one nap a day (she sleeps as long as she wants about 2.5-3 hrs) and then she is in bed around 8 pm. She sleeps for 11-12 hours and has only woken up the past few nights because she has a bad cold.
GL and I hope you find something that works
My assumption is your child's reason for waking at midnight everynight is because that is all the sleep he feels he needs. Some babies sleep 12 hours a night, some 8, and some 4-6 with more naps throughout the day.
However-- I am fairly confident he will grow out of this soon, and start sleeping better. It will come with age. Usually around the 16 month mark, toddlers get into a more solid routine.
And as far as naps go, Lydia has one from 10a-noon, and then 2p-4p and goes to bed at 7. So no...that last nap is not too late.
Hang in there, and I am sorry you are dealing with this!
This is one of two things I took into account to finally get DD to start STTN as of this past month. She was actually getting too much daytime sleep on some days, and then she'd wake up at 2am or 4am to play. If she takes one nap, we limit to 3.5 hours, and if she takes two naps, we make sure they total no more than four hours by waking her from the second nap if necessary.
The other thing that helped is that we moved dinner later by about 30 to 45 minutes. Eating closer to 7pm (instead of 6pm) has made a huge difference since she doesn't take a bottle and only has a really brief BFing session before bed (8:30/9pm bedtime)
I will agree that it does sound like your LO is waking up out of habit, not teething pain, since it is at the same time each night. We have not done CIO, but in your situation, I might give it a try to break the habit.
Thank you so much for responding! It's nice to know i'm not alone and to get some great suggestions! I have been giving ibuprofen when he wakes up and sometimes it helps sometimes it doesn't. I try not to give it but some nights use it as a last resort in case he is in pain.
His naps are usually an hour so he gets 2 hours of sleep during the day. I will try moving up his bedtime and letting him cry for a while before i go to him. You girls are giving me some hope!
Do you all think i should not stay in the room with him when i put him down initially so when he wakes up he falls asleep under the same circumstances? That would entail a little crying also i guess.
Thanks so much!!
I put DD down and immediately exit her room. I hate this, but she still cries 95% of the time I place her in the crib....and if I stay in there with her, she gets SO ANGRY that I won't pick her back up, and it makes it WAY worse. I've learned that even if she cries out when I put her down, she usually stops within the minute it takes for me to make my way downstairs. I do think that this has helped for her to soothe herself back to sleep when she wakes up in the night and I am not there.
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