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Rdautenhahn
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Vent? Advice? I'm at my wits end...
Rdautenhahn
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Ok so my son was always a wonderful sleeper, but recently it's been absolutely awful. Up screaming every 30 minutes, and I get so annoyed that I feel like I don't want to be around him or have him in my bed.
More info : he gets chronic ear infections and is getting tubes on Monday, he is infection free for the time being but still has heavy fluid in his ears. Also drooling like crazy and learning how to stand. So yeah he has a lot of factors making it hard for him to sleep. I have never made him cry it out and we bed share. I'm just really losing it. I can't help how aggravated I get in the middle of the night, but my husband works nights and I have no help and I'm feeling like the worst mom in the world. When my husband got home at 4 I made him take the baby to the rocking chair because I just wanted away from him. Am I terrible really? I mean I know a lot of things are going on with him but its so hard to find acceptance with this.
I know I sound terrible, please don't flame me. I almost posted this as an AE because I want to be respected on this board.
Im hoping that his surgery Monday will completely turn things around. Thanks if you read, this is so hard. I'm just tired, exhausted, and please have some understanding with me.
Air Force Wife and proud SAHM to baby E, TTC #2 while BFing
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Re: Vent? Advice? I'm at my wits end...
BFP#1 "Watermelon" born 3/2011
BFP#2 "Pumpkin" 7/14/12 ~ EDD 3/23/13 ~ Natural M/C 8/3/12 @ 7 weeks
BFP#3 "Pineapple" born 4/2013
BFP#4 "Grapefruit" EDD 3/29/16
BFP#1 "Watermelon" born 3/2011
BFP#2 "Pumpkin" 7/14/12 ~ EDD 3/23/13 ~ Natural M/C 8/3/12 @ 7 weeks
BFP#3 "Pineapple" born 4/2013
BFP#4 "Grapefruit" EDD 3/29/16
My son became a decent sleeper around 10-12 months old. Then he got molars. EVERY 30 MINUTES all night long. he would pass out and wake up screaming bloody murder. Have you checked for any teeth?
you are NOT a bad mom. I had a kid who NEVER slept, literally. He has medical issues and he did not sleep for 8 months and screamed all day and night. Sleep exhaustion is a form of torture. give yourself a break. see if someone can come watch him so you can take a good nap.
Thanks. I just about lost it yesterday. I felt like the only thing I did all day was try to get him to sleep or nap, but instead he just screamed bloody murder. Today is a bit better of a day, but has still spent half his waking hours mad.
If you have anyone that can take him for a few hours (friends, family, kennel), get away from him for a while and sleep.
Waking that often is torture. Literally. It's okay to be frustrated. It's okay to put him down and take a break when you're about to lose it.
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I know exactly how you feel! I went through that exact stuff with my daughter. It was a miracle after her ear tubes!! 7 months of screaming and late night car rides. We even when to Wal-Mart at 1am to buy a swing because it was the only way to calm her. She slept in the swing for weeks. literally. No you are not a bad or horrible mom!! Its totally normal to feel that way! I remember feeling useless because I could not help her. A few times I left her in her crib to cry so I could go cry. I knew she was safe in her crib and I had the monitor on low. Sometimes mommies need a time out. Even at 2am...
I hope it works for you too!
Good luck!
My son used to get terrible ear infections. I took him to the chiropracter and told them and after visiting the chriopracter a few times he didn't have another one for a year. I urge you to try that out!
It's hard and sounds like you need some support and help. Do you have family that could come over and give you some breaks?
Holy heck, that would bring even the best mother to their knees. You're not a bad mom at all. Lack of sleep and a baby that is hard to console certainly makes for someone having a tough time being cheery and wanting to be with the baby. I know I feel that way at times with fewer problems.
Hugs. No real advice, but hoping things get better once the surgery happens and your baby gets some relief. Try to get breaks when dh gets home and don't feel guilty about it. I would take my LOs for a walk when things got bad. They tended to not cry on walks and I felt a little bit like I was having a break since they were facing forward and forgot I was there.
Charlotte Ella 07.16.10
Emmeline Grace 03.27.13
Thank yOu so much ladies. This morning I am so tired, I'm nauseated. I'm really hoping things look up soon. And to answer a few questions, I don't really have a support system, I'm a SAHM and the air force moved us to this city. My closest family is 3 hours away. I try to go to play groups and such to meet others, but I guess I'm not that assertive. My husband is a great help when he is home, but it's just during the night. Naps have gotten better during the day because honestly for these past few days I'm just letting him exhaust himself, instead of trying to get him down at the first sign of tired. It's too disheartening to sit and rock, nurse, wear him and nothing works and he just cries.
Thanks for the replies, I can't tell you how much I appreciate it.