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Vacation co-sleeping stress
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At home, we have a king sized bed that DH and DD1 sleep in, right next to a twin bed that I sleep in, right next to a sidecarred crib. DD2 (now 2 months old) either sleeps with me, or I put her into the crib when she is asleep. This worked well enough. I felt aware of DD2 and she was far enough away from DD1. We all were getting pretty decent sleep and I felt like the set-up was safe for DD2.
Now, I'm three weeks into a month long trip, visiting friends and family and staying in several different places. Our current sleeping situation is that DD1 and I are sleeping on a futon. There is a small, wooden cradle next to the futon, and DD2 has been sleeping in that or on the futon with me and DD2. DH is sleeping on the floor.
It hasn't been as comfortable for me because I just haven't felt like it is as safe for DD2. I don't feel as aware of her and I worry about her falling off the futon. If that happened, she would simply roll into the cradle, and land about eight inches below the futon mattress. Although that would be a bummer, she would be okay. However, I'm really worrying because my sleeping and waking has been a bit off. About a week ago, I woke up really disoriented and panicked because I couldn't find DD2 anywhere. I frantically searched the cradle, the floor, and the edge of the bed, and then found her between me and DD1. I don't remember rolling her to that side of me. Then, last night, I woke up and found DD2 in between me and DD1 again. She was totally fine, but I was really uncomfortable with having her between me and DD1 and it took a while to remember rolling her to that side of me.
In the three years of sleeping with DD1, I don't think I ever "lost" her in bed or moved her without being fully aware of it. I really don't know what to do. I am intentionally starting DD2 in the cradle, but some nights it seems like I am bringing her into bed to nurse without fully waking up...which is kind of the point of bedsharing, but I don't like that I've been moving her between me and DD1 without being aware of that.
Has anyone experienced anything similar? Does anyone have any suggestions for how to keep DD2 safe during the next week? Is my normal awareness of DD going to return when I am back in our familiar bed?
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Re: Vacation co-sleeping stress
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We tried to get DD1 to sleep away from me, but it was such a challenge that we gave up. It just occurred to me that we could move her after she falls asleep and then just deal with it if she wakes up. Duh!
I wish we could move the futon mattress, but the room we are in is just too small. DD will end up at the foot of the bed, right in front of the door.
Luckilly, it is only a few more days...Last night went well. Everytime DD2 fussed or stirred, I was able to remind myself to keep her on my left side and then did so...