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Nervous for C-Section

mack1737mack1737 member
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Hi!  So, i'll be 38 weeks on Monday and my baby boy is still breech.  I have tried many of the recommended natural ways to help him turn, but nothing is working.  My doctor is thinking of doing a c-section on the 21st.  I'm nervous because DD (vaginal delivery) is 16 months and i'm worried about the recovery time.  She is very attached to me lately. Any advice on how to help baby turn or deal with my clingy daughter during recover?  Thanks! 
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  • silkyhorsesilkyhorse

    I had this exact same situation.  My recommendation is to research any options to avoid having a c-section. 

    I was going to do a homebirth, but because of baby being breech, my midwife recommended a doctor who did breech deliveries.  That doctor happened to be out of town on the day I went into labor (she actually flew back into town about an hour before my baby was born, but it was too late).  It's a long story, but I ended up with a c-section.  

    All that to say, the c-section recovery was TERRIBLE!  I couldn't let me toddler even get close to me, because he wouldn't know how to be gentle around my very sore stomach.  I couldn't sleep in my bed for 3 weeks - I slept in a recliner in the living room.  I couldn't pick up my son for about 4 weeks and couldn't carry him around for 6 weeks.

    Have to tried a version?  It obviously didn't work for my baby, but it's worth a try.  Have you gone to a chiropractor?  Have you looked into doctors in your area who would do a breech delivery?  

    I know many people have c-sections and don't mind the recovery, but I hated mine and would do anything possible to avoid one. 

    Good luck!

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  • smerkasmerka member
    I was in the same situation and went with the planned csection.  I tried a version and couldn't even lay on the table because of my back.  I couldn't have been happier with my csection.  My recovery was significantly easier than my vaginal delivery.  I was back to normal so much faster.  DH stayed home for about two weeks and after that I had a babysitter come in to help for a couple of hours a day.  The babysitter was a present from my parents and it was the best gift ever.  We put my older son's Space Saver high chair on the floor so I didn't have to lift him.  Our downstairs is very well childproofed so I didn't have to worry about chasing him too much.  At probably two weeks out I could have carried him, but I didn't want to risk my recovery.  GL!
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  • lkm2006lkm2006 member

    My sister had a repeat c section 2 months ago and her son was 13 months old. 

    He is a big mommys boy so what worked best for her was using a pillow over her stomach (to act as a cushion) so he could still sit with her. Also, I know you totally aren't supposed too, but if someone lifted him up to her, she would hold him that way.

    Also, make sure to take the medicine! She felt like she didn't really need it with her first so that's what she was expecting this time as well, the medicine helped her a lot.  

     

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  • delg23delg23 member

    I can only speak from the POV of having had a c-section w/ 2u2. Mine was for reasons other than breech. 

    Have someone to help you w/ #1 for two weeks if you do have the c-section. You can't lift for 2 weeks. It was pretty rough not being able to pick up #1. He didn't understand and I felt really bad. I did a lot of sitting on the floor so he could sit in my lap. Have the person helping you do a lot of activities outside w/ out you. Have them help w/ the baby as much as possible so you can devote attention to your daughter. Talk to your daughter while you feed the baby. Buy new baby toys for #1 to give after you bring the baby home. You'll probably be in the hospital for 4 days. I recommend a new baby book as well to read before the baby is due. Good luck on avoiding the c-section though!  

    ETA: the above tip to be very baby proofed is a good one! Our whole living room was totally safe. 

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  • RA1109RA1109
    There is a HUGE difference between a planned c-section and an emergency c-section.  I had a planned c-section and my first LO is super clingy and my recovery was so easy, SO much easier than my vaginal birth.  I was still able to snuggle with my first and just took it easy.  We had no issues.  I highly recommend the maternity support panties from motherhood maternity though, they will "hold you in" and make everything significantly more comfortable.
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  • BriDailyBriDaily member

    Give it a little more time... a woman isn't truly considered overdue until 42 weeks, so there should be no real reason to schedule it before you have reached a full 40 weeks or even 41 weeks (sometimes due dates are off based on when you actually conceived vs. the guesstimated conception date, which can easily be a week off!). One mother I know told me about how her son was breech until the day she went into labor with him... she was in the shower and felt a huge flip! and she knew he was ready to come out. Now, he is training to be a fighter pilot in the Air Force. lol! Sooo, I would just wait it out as long as possible and see if your baby boy is destined to be a fighter pilot, too :)

    Also don't be afraid to check with a local CPM and see if they would be willing to do a breech birth, if necessary. CPMs normally have experience with them, as opposed to OB/GYNs who would rather perform a serious surgery than deal with a slightly longer labor in which they actually have to let a woman move around, get on her hands and knees to deliver, etc.

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