Put on pelvic rest from having sex?

flairdecor · August 2012

I went to see my doc today about some light spotting I was experiencing. She said it was from sex, which I suspected, but what thru me for a loop was that she told me to try not to have sex till I'm in my third trimester. Which by the way is 6weeks and 3 days away! From what Ive read light brown spotting after sex is normal and certainly not a reason to be put on pelvic rest. Has anyone had their doc tell them not to have sex bc of spotting after sex? I think its rediculous bc I'm not a high risk or have any complications.

RissKay · August 2012

Well, I've heard of SEVERAL women, actually. Your doctor won't put you on pelvic rest without having a reason for it. Seems like a long time, but in the long run, it honestly isn't.

BellieGirl · August 2012

Do you have a low lying placenta or placenta previa? I am on pelvic rest until my 28 week appointment (about 6 weeks from now) because of this.

flairdecor · August 2012

Nope, just a little spotting after sex. I could understand if I had a low lying placenta, or some complication. But that isn't the case with me. I think I should get a second opinion on this, atleast so I could figure out why. From what I've read it doesn't make sense to be put on pelvic rest just for having spotting after sex.

LadyNikon · August 2012

why not give her a call and ask her why? She may be able to explain her reasoning. I just wouldn't have sex until you got an answer. She have be waiting for some results or something and don't want you to hurt yourself or the LO until then.

littlemaybaby · August 2012

You know after you have the baby you can't have for 6 weeks, right? It's not that big of a deal. Either call her back and ask for clarification, or get a second opinion. But I wouldn't assume she told you no sex just to torture you.

ThePolishHammer · August 2012

Ladynikon:
why not give her a call and ask her why? She may be able to explain her reasoning. I just wouldn't have sex until you got an answer. She have be waiting for some results or something and don't want you to hurt yourself or the LO until then.

This.

I was out on pelvic rest after spotting.... Then when the doc saw the US later it confirmed her suspicions of placenta previa.

I would rather be safe than sorry until you have more answers.

ilenegrace · August 2012

Having lost a baby after bleeding after sex... I completely understand being put on pelvic rest from sex. This is the third pregnancy I was put on pelvic rest with. Even though I am off pelvic rest now, if I have any bleeding spotting again I will go back on. Personally not worth the risk. Good luck.

chicky1231 · August 2012

No it isn't crazy...a Dr wouldn't tell you pelvic rest just because. I was on pelvic rest for most of myast pregnancy. Yeah it sucks but oh well, like PP said, in the overall picture it isn't that horrible.

In the end it is about what is best for you and the baby so you have to just wait it out. I would never go against Dr's orders with something like this. Pelvic rest isn't nearly as bad as being put on bedrest...believe me I know

javagrl · August 2012

I've been on complete pelvic rest from the day I got my BFP and will be with this pregnancy until at least 36 weeks, if I make it that far. I don't really get why you'd be questioning something like that if it's the best thing for the baby. It sucks for both me and my husband, though at least he can still have orgasms which I cannot, but we lost our daughter due to issues with my cervix opening early and we won't take a change of doing damage to it this time. I can tell you that the pain of losing a baby is far worse than missing out on a few months of sex.

MangomamaFL · August 2012

littlemaybaby:
You know after you have the baby you can't have for 6 weeks, right? It's not that big of a deal. Either call her back and ask for clarification, or get a second opinion. But I wouldn't assume she told you no sex just to torture you.

I never wait the full six weeks after birth to resume sex. Stick out tongue

flairdecor · August 2012

flairdecor:
I went to see my doc today about some light spotting I was experiencing. She said it was from sex, which I suspected, but what thru me for a loop was that she told me to try not to have sex till I'm in my third trimester. Which by the way is 6weeks and 3 days away! From what Ive read light brown spotting after sex is normal and certainly not a reason to be put on pelvic rest. Has anyone had their doc tell them not to have sex bc of spotting after sex? I think its rediculous bc I'm not a high risk or have any complications.

Perhaps I should have clarified, I would never do anything that would jeopardize my pregnancy. However, my doc ran no tests, she looked at my cervix, asked if I had sex recently, and told me she would recommend no having sex till my third trimester. No tests were run, there was no concern it was anything other than from having sex. And from what I've read the only reason to be put on pelvic rest is for a possible complication. This is not the case here, there is no complication causing the spotting. I had a hunch it's a bladder infection which would cause all the symptoms I'm experiencing, so I went in and made them test me for a UTI and low and behold I have one. So I guess the moral of the story is you know your body better than your doctor and sometimes they can be wrong. But thank you to all the women who critized me for thinking my doctor's original diagnosis was wrong.

blueeyedgirl27 · August 2012

flairdecor:
flairdecor:
I went to see my doc today about some light spotting I was experiencing. She said it was from sex, which I suspected, but what thru me for a loop was that she told me to try not to have sex till I'm in my third trimester. Which by the way is 6weeks and 3 days away! From what Ive read light brown spotting after sex is normal and certainly not a reason to be put on pelvic rest. Has anyone had their doc tell them not to have sex bc of spotting after sex? I think its rediculous bc I'm not a high risk or have any complications.
Perhaps I should have clarified, I would never do anything that would jeopardize my pregnancy. However, my doc ran no tests, she looked at my cervix, asked if I had sex recently, and told me she would recommend no having sex till my third trimester. No tests were run, there was no concern it was anything other than from having sex. And from what I've read the only reason to be put on pelvic rest is for a possible complication. This is not the case here, there is no complication causing the spotting. I had a hunch it's a bladder infection which would cause all the symptoms I'm experiencing, so I went in and made them test me for a UTI and low and behold I have one. So I guess the moral of the story is you know your body better than your doctor and sometimes they can be wrong. But thank you to all the women who critized me for thinking my doctor's original diagnosis was wrong.

Why are you getting so defensive? I read all the PP's answers, and not one of them criticized you. If no tests were run, then you can't be sure that there isn't an underlying complication. You don't have a PG ticker so we don't know how far along you are, whether you had an A/S which showed position of placenta, etc.

When I had some first tri/early 2nd tri bleeding issues, my OB also told me it was probably a friable cervix and to abstain from sex until bleeding was gone for more than a week. She ran no tests either, and it turns out I had a subchorionic hematoma that wasn't discovered until my NT scan at 12 weeks. I was then placed on pelvic rest until my A/S proved the hematoma was gone. I have since switched practices (for many reasons, not just that) since I felt she didn't take my problem seriously. So certainly get a 2nd opinion or ask her to run tests if you feel her decision is unfounded.

But assuming it is indeed just a tender cervix that is irritated by sex, even reputable sources like the American Pregnancy Association (www.americanpregnancy.org) recommends not to have sex until you get your doctor's opinion (and to follow the doc's instructions thereafter). There are sexual positions that prevent deep penetration, but find out her reasoning about pelvic rest first. Also I'm not sure why you believe having a UTI makes your doctor wrong, since a UTI has nothing to do with vaginal bleeding of any kind. UTIs are super common during pregnancy though. But GL to you!

Treschic81 · August 2012

flairdecor:
flairdecor:
I went to see my doc today about some light spotting I was experiencing. She said it was from sex, which I suspected, but what thru me for a loop was that she told me to try not to have sex till I'm in my third trimester. Which by the way is 6weeks and 3 days away! From what Ive read light brown spotting after sex is normal and certainly not a reason to be put on pelvic rest. Has anyone had their doc tell them not to have sex bc of spotting after sex? I think its rediculous bc I'm not a high risk or have any complications.

Perhaps I should have clarified, I would never do anything that would jeopardize my pregnancy. However, my doc ran no tests, she looked at my cervix, asked if I had sex recently, and told me she would recommend no having sex till my third trimester. No tests were run, there was no concern it was anything other than from having sex. And from what I've read the only reason to be put on pelvic rest is for a possible complication. This is not the case here, there is no complication causing the spotting. I had a hunch it's a bladder infection which would cause all the symptoms I'm experiencing, so I went in and made them test me for a UTI and low and behold I have one. So I guess the moral of the story is you know your body better than your doctor and sometimes they can be wrong. But thank you to all the women who critized me for thinking my doctor's original diagnosis was wrong.

I'm with you. To be honest, i wouldnt bother posting questions on this board. You will get much more judgement and criticism than advice. You can certainly know your body better than your dr and plenty of docs will be overly cautious because frankly, malpractice insurance for an OB is UNBELIEVEABLY high. They're not going to risk a suit over something like that. I understand what everyone was saying, and losing out on some freaky time is def not a big deal in the big picture but you have to do what you feel comfortable with. To someone who's lost a baby after sex related bleeding even tho they obviously had other complications...sex alone does not cause miscarriage it would seem crazy to ignore the docs advice. But it's your decision to make.
I had bleeding after sex in 1st Tri and then a huge gush of blood in 2nd Tri. In 1st Tri my doc didn't even ask me to come in. She said its completely normal and only call if it doesn't stop after a few hours. When I had the huge gush at 18 weeks they had me come to ld and after checking everything put me on pelvic rest for a week.

Ask for specific reasons why they want you to abstain for so long and then decide for yourself what you want to do.

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