OMG- WWIFV do?? DE question

Mrs.McIrish · August 2012

Umm, they will let me split the cycle with the donor I wanted since she hasn't started her pre-testing. She is not a proven donor so obviously we don't know how many eggs she will get. The first recipient gets the first 5-7 mature eggs and then I'd get them. If there aren't enough mature eggs, I'd be cancelled and refunded. The ER would be in October.

Should I go for it? It's a little risky but maybe that is better than picking someone I don't want? Can't reach DH for an opinion.

NMscubagirl · August 2012

Is it also split cost? If so, I say DO IT! She was the donor you loved, who looked like you with similar heritage. I think it would be hard to pass that up. How old is she? I think that might factor in too. the younger girls seem to get the bumper crops.

Mrs.McIrish · August 2012

She's 21. A baby.. The cost is the same whether it is split or not because they are only guaranteeing you 5-7 mature eggs. If they don't have them, I get refunded. My meds and monitoring are covered by my insurance so that part is fine even if I get cancelled. I would only lose time and time to find a new donor afterwards.

jcath · August 2012

Call them now and say YES. That's fantastic!

Mrs.McIrish · August 2012

jcath:
Call them now and say YES. That's fantastic!

Thanks JCath!! They close at 3 today so I have to wait til Monday.

NMscubagirl · August 2012

at 21, I say go for it. I have seen proven donors that usually get 20 or more eggs have an off cycle and only get 7 to 10 because she is younger there is a better chance for her to really produce.

Edited because 710 eggs would probably kill her, and we don't want that!

rockpaperlove · August 2012

Wow! I say - the stars are aligning! I don't know the right questions to ask pertaining to DE, but I do know how much you wanted this donor and it sure sounds to me like this may be your lucky day and quite possibly the beginning of your happy ending. Good luck with your decision - and congrats on the good news!

AmCheri · August 2012

I say dooze it!! Like I said, you never know when opportunity will knock. So excited for you! Weeeeeeee!

MBfromBMC · August 2012

I would probably go for it just because I think it is really important to get the donor that you wanted. It might delay your ET further if she can't get enough eggs, but you may regret not trying with your ideal donor.

(((huge hugs))) I hope everything works out!

mtlaurel · August 2012

Go for it - she's the one you wanted, and you're guaranteed a reasonable # of mature eggs. Even if you get cancelled, you'll still have 10 weeks to squeeze in another cycle before the end of the year - not ideal, but doable. Yay for you!

genmalone · August 2012

I say go for it! So excited for you!

vanessagorc · August 2012

I have never heard of that spilt...I have heard she gets 1, 3, 5,..u get 2, 4, 6 etc

But u do love this donor, could be ideal.

Mrkyrain · August 2012

MBfromBMC:
I would probably go for it just because I think it is really important to get the donor that you wanted. It might delay your ET further if she can't get enough eggs, but you may regret not trying with your ideal donor.

(((huge hugs))) I hope everything works out!

This is what I think too. If there is no other donor that measures up then you would probably feel regret if you didn't try. I think the only thing to consider is how emotionally beat up you would feel if for some reason she didn't produce 14 total eggs. Would you be okay pushing the process back a couple of months? When do you have to be done for your insurance to still cover? Best of luck, Sweets. We are all pulling for you.

Edwina.McDunnough · August 2012

I would do it too. But what would happen to the remaining mature eggs should you be cancelled because of low quantity? Good luck !!

may2806 · August 2012

I agree that you should go for it!

Mrs.McIrish · August 2012

Edwina.McDunnough:

I would do it too. But what would happen to the remaining mature eggs should you be cancelled because of low quantity? Good luck !!

They would put them in their frozen egg bank. Which is a waste since they don't know how to properly thaw them yet but I digress...

Mrs.McIrish · August 2012

Mrkyrain:
MBfromBMC:

I would probably go for it just because I think it is really important to get the donor that you wanted. It might delay your ET further if she can't get enough eggs, but you may regret not trying with your ideal donor.

(((huge hugs))) I hope everything works out!

This is what I think too. If there is no other donor that measures up then you would probably feel regret if you didn't try. I think the only thing to consider is how emotionally beat up you would feel if for some reason she didn't produce 14 total eggs. Would you be okay pushing the process back a couple of months? When do you have to be done for your insurance to still cover? Best of luck, Sweets. We are all pulling for you.

I "should" have this insurance for the first 12 weeks in 2013. So I should be able to get a 2nd cycle in if I get cancelled. Obviously it isn't ideal to be cancelled and I will be screaming bloody murder if it happens but if I am just sitting here anyway waiting for someone I want, I guess it sort of the same thing. There's no way to know if someone I want will come along really soon or not.

Thanks ladies for your input. I reached DH and he said let's roll the dice!

reb259 · August 2012

Yes, yes yes, yes, yes!!!! I know people rely on proven vs not proven but honestly I am not sold on it. Our first donor was proven not KU and our last donor was not and I am still not KU'ed.

Go for it!! I am so excited for you!!

Roxie5739 · August 2012

mtlaurel:
Go for it - she's the one you wanted, and you're guaranteed a reasonable # of mature eggs. Even if you get cancelled, you'll still have 10 weeks to squeeze in another cycle before the end of the year - not ideal, but doable. Yay for you!

This, go for it! GL

Gregermis · August 2012

I'd say go for it, good luck lady!!

Bella2u07 · August 2012

Go for it!!!! How exciting!!!!

lynn0926 · August 2012

If you get your money back, then do it.

lynn0926 · August 2012

Odds are, she wont be cancelled, and theoretically, you should get decent quality eggs. Will they do testing on her prior like, FSH, AFC, etc? Soooo exciting!!!!

Mrs.McIrish · August 2012

lynn0926:
Odds are, she wont be cancelled, and theoretically, you should get decent quality eggs. Will they do testing on her prior like, FSH, AFC, etc? Soooo exciting!!!!

Yes, pre testing in September and then Oct cycle. They won't let her cycle if tests aren't good.

amethystgrrl · August 2012

Aww I'm just tickled pink for you! I'm pretty corny, but see this as meant to be! FWIW our donor was unproven, 24, and had awesome results. Good luck, I really feel so good about this!

rockpaperlove · August 2012

Mrs.McIrish:
Mrkyrain:
MBfromBMC:

...I reached DH and he said let's roll the dice!

I like it! Go get 'em!

Trippleb · August 2012

So excited for you!

jillychris · August 2012

Mrs.McIrish:
Mrkyrain:
MBfromBMC:

I would probably go for it just because I think it is really important to get the donor that you wanted. It might delay your ET further if she can't get enough eggs, but you may regret not trying with your ideal donor.

(((huge hugs))) I hope everything works out!

This is what I think too. If there is no other donor that measures up then you would probably feel regret if you didn't try. I think the only thing to consider is how emotionally beat up you would feel if for some reason she didn't produce 14 total eggs. Would you be okay pushing the process back a couple of months? When do you have to be done for your insurance to still cover? Best of luck, Sweets. We are all pulling for you.

I "should" have this insurance for the first 12 weeks in 2013. So I should be able to get a 2nd cycle in if I get cancelled. Obviously it isn't ideal to be cancelled and I will be screaming bloody murder if it happens but if I am just sitting here anyway waiting for someone I want, I guess it sort of the same thing. There's no way to know if someone I want will come along really soon or not.

Thanks ladies for your input. I reached DH and he said let's roll the dice!

WOO HOO!!! I know how bummed you were about losing this donor. So glad you are going to go for it! GOOD LUCK!!!

Bethany1026 · August 2012

Wow! Sounds like a good deal and its the person you Love! Yay!!

blueberries8 · August 2012

I would go for it - there doesn't seem to be much downside from a financial standpoint since you would be cancelled and refunded if there aren't enough mature eggs. The potential pitfall seems to be mostly emotional if you wind up not getting embryos to transfer but since this is the donor you were set on from the start, it seems worth the risk to me. GL!

STL34 · August 2012

Yay!! Best of luck!

Jlynn3 · August 2012

So excited for you! I know how much you wanted this donor

Wishing you the best of luck!

joules12 · August 2012

Oh wow, I'm so happy and excited to read this update! So glad that you and YH have decided to go for it -- keeping you in my thoughts and sending all kinds of good luck your way!

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