Sad after csection

justlld · August 2012

So the numbness in my belly is really really bothering me. It's not a huge area, maybe just an inch or two above my scar, but it freaks me out. It also makes me really angry to know that I'm probably never going to regain feeling. Also, this is tmi, but the first time we had sex was fine, but ever since then it's been really uncomfortable, and I'm afraid that's more nerve damage from the csection. I feel really stupid being upset because the babies were not going to come out any other way. Baby A's head was stuck and already starting to smush really high up. Does it ever get better? Please somebody tell me they have feeling and that sex gets better.

juliane2004 · August 2012

::lurking::

I can't comment on the sex, but the numbness is normal. I had numbness post c/s until about a year after the c/s. Like, it gradually got less numb overtime (the area that was numb got smaller). Now, of course, it's numb again since I just had a c/s again, but it'll likely go away eventually.

MelleTX · August 2012

I have not had my c-section yet, but I can totally tell you about numbness. I was on PIO injections for 60 days after IVF. Both butt cheeks were entirely numb after 2 weeks and by the end of my injections, I just felt like those muscles were shredded.

Here I am, almost three months after I stopped injections and I am slowly starting to get the feeling back in certain areas. It is a very weird feeling too. Periodically, as nerves come back to life, I will get this biting feeling in my butt or my lower back. It really feels like a spider or insect bite. I go to scratch or rub but nothing is there and there are no marks. I am still mostly numb, but I can finally feel is starting to heal.

And that was just from injections. I imagine after a c-section, your muscles and nerves are in shock. It may take them a while to heal, but none of my other c-section friends reported long-term damage. (I am concerned about this too).

Switzerland87 · August 2012

My numbness lessens all the time. And as for the sex, it will start to get better. For me, it hurts less every time, and is starting to actually become enjoyable again. Just use lots of lube, if you aren't already.

mysteriousmommy · August 2012

Judging from your ticker you are just barely past the point of being able to have sex again. Give your body time. A LOT more time. It will get better.

MrsJeffsWife2B · August 2012

MelleTX:
I have not had my c-section yet, but I can totally tell you about numbness. I was on PIO injections for 60 days after IVF. Both butt cheeks were entirely numb after 2 weeks and by the end of my injections, I just felt like those muscles were shredded.
Here I am, almost three months after I stopped injections and I am slowly starting to get the feeling back in certain areas. It is a very weird feeling too. Periodically, as nerves come back to life, I will get this biting feeling in my butt or my lower back. It really feels like a spider or insect bite. I go to scratch or rub but nothing is there and there are no marks. I am still mostly numb, but I can finally feel is starting to heal.
And that was just from injections. I imagine after a c-section, your muscles and nerves are in shock. It may take them a while to heal, but none of my other c-section friends reported long-term damage. (I am concerned about this too).

I'm still numb in huge areas and it's been almost 5 months since I had my last injection!

angelfire02 · August 2012

I am 13 weeks out and my numbness has gotten significantly better. As for the sex part, like pp said, give your body more time. You are so exhausted still and your body is working so hard to take care of those babies, you need to give yourself a break. It will ALL get better!

lmydogally · August 2012

It will get better over time.

BananaPancake · August 2012

Hang in there, honey. Getting back in the saddle after each pregnancy is ROUGH. I don't recover well where sex is concerned, and it usually takes me until about 4m pp to really start feeling like I could have sex without crying. The numbness is totally normal, and I think it's the worst after the first pg. I was numb for up to a year after my first, and the numbness wore off by about 6w with my 2nd and 3rd. It's not so much nerve damage as they just take some time to reconnect. You WILL regain feeling completely, it may just take awhile.

After my last c-section, it took 12m for my spinal site to stop hurting. Every surgery is different, and the healing is different for each person. Be patient with yourself, and take some time to sit down with DH and talk it through. You're still bound to be pretty hormonal and exhausted, so things don't really look the same where you are right now.

This will be my 4th section. I can say with complete honesty that the best recipe for complete healing is patience and ibuprofen!

E&RMommy · August 2012

Time! Time! Time!

And see....this is why I hate it when people say a c-section will spare your sex life. Nope....not true.

Are you breastfeeding? That made it really painful for me.

Two years out I am pretty much back to normal.

Hang in there. The feelings of sadness and guilt get better. My numb area is smaller now and likey permanent.

rinascita · August 2012

Not the exact same as a c/s but I had an appendectomy in college - anytime you cut those abdominal cross-twitch muscles it takes time for everything to heal 100% (esp. nerves/feeling). I was numb for a few months in a small area near my appendix scar, but it gradually went away.

I hope you start to feel better soon!

justlld · August 2012

Thanks for all the reassurance. Patience was never my strong suit :, but it's good to know that things will likely get better.

ougrad1 · August 2012

I have two sections. The numbness goes away. I promise.

Reilly626 · August 2012

I'm sad too- but I was vertically cut from my belly button down with healing/incision problems. It sucks. But I did it for my 2healthy babies.

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