Any else have trouble TTC after D&C?

strawny0807 · August 2012

I was 13 weeks pregnant on March 29th when I had a D&C because my sweet girl had a cycstic hyrgroma and Turner's Syndrome...the fluid in the cyst consumed her heart. We started TTC in June once I was cleared by the doctor. Almost 3 months later and I'm becoming frustrated. I know 3 months is nothing in the world of TTC but we were lucky enough to get pregnant the last time around right away. Of course it doesn't help when just about all of the women close to me, friends, co-workers, neighbors are either pregnant or just had a baby. I know worrying about doesn't help the situation either but how to you not worry about it. Anyone else had trouble TTC after a D&C? Every month that I get my period is another week of tears...

Thank you for taking the time to read. And my apologies for the book!

Lauren

killian09 · August 2012

I'm sorry for your loss, and TTCAL is a frustrating process. But 3 months really isn't long enough to signal any type of issue. The fact that you got pregnant in 1 cycle the first time was just chance. And now you have to take your chances again. FWIW, it took us 1 cycle to conceive the first time and 5 cycles the second time. Now we're on take 3 of TTC, cycle 2, waiting to see what happens.

Healthy couples have about a 20% chance of conceiving in each cycle. (Maybe up to 30% if their timing is really perfect.)

My ob/gyn will begin an IF evaluation at the 9 month mark, but 1 year is the common practice.

Yup, it's super frustrating, but no, it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with your fertility.

strawny0807 · August 2012

Didn't mean to offend you. For me, I feel like it's "trouble" but like I said in my post, I know 3 months is nothing in the world of TTC. Doctor said I should be able to get pregnant right away...that's all. And I guess her "right away" is different from the "right away" I have in my head. My apologies.

killian09 · August 2012

laurenstrawn:
Didn't mean to offend you. For me, I feel like it's "trouble" but like I said in my post, I know 3 months is nothing in the world of TTC. Doctor said I should be able to get pregnant right away...that's all. And I guess her "right away" is different from the "right away" I have in my head. My apologies.

I can only speak for myself, but I wasn't offended. TTCAL is hella frustrating. I think we all get that.

And my OB reacted as if my 2nd pregnancy happened "right away", but I can promise you those five cycles didn't feel like "right away" to me. So you're probably right about your differing definitions.

ANyway, welcome to the board! Sorry you have to be here.

Skk1977 · August 2012

RosiePeare:
Fortunately, I'd copied the response I already wrote you on the top of your three posts (we've been having a lot of error messages on this board, so I got in the habit of copying everything before I post). Here it is again below:
Hi Lauren--welcome to this community. We're sorry you have to join us here, but you've found a wonderful community of awesome women.
The first thing you should do is a take a tour around our blog (link in the page header or here: https://www.ttcalblog.blogspot.com/
There, you're going to find lots of helpful information about TTCAL. We all know the desire to get pregnant again as quickly as possible, but many of us also know the pains of it taking a long time (and, according to pretty much all medical professionals, a "long time" isn't until after 12 months if you're under 35 or after 6 months if you're over 35 or if you're diligently charting, using OPKs, etc. That timeline also "resets" to 0 after a m/c or loss). Before we here can help you further, it would be good to know if you're charting, if you've had any testing done, etc.

Hey, thanks. I didn't know it reset to "0" after a mc. I will keep that in mind...though 35 is creeping up on me

Skk1977 · August 2012

laurenstrawn:
I was 13 weeks pregnant on March 29th when I had a D&C because my sweet girl had a cycstic hyrgroma and Turner's Syndrome...the fluid in the cyst consumed her heart. We started TTC in June once I was cleared by the doctor. Almost 3 months later and I'm becoming frustrated. I know 3 months is nothing in the world of TTC but we were lucky enough to get pregnant the last time around right away. Of course it doesn't help when just about all of the women close to me, friends, co-workers, neighbors are either pregnant or just had a baby. I know worrying about doesn't help the situation either but how to you not worry about it. Anyone else had trouble TTC after a D&C? Every month that I get my period is another week of tears...

Thank you for taking the time to read. And my apologies for the book!

Lauren

I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure it must have been very difficult feeling like you were in the "safe" zone. I had a d&c just before you on 2/17 and my OBGYN said to wait three cycles (and also said we would get pg right away). We just started trying last cycle and I was a little po'ed it didn't happen "right away." However, now that I'm charting, I realized that we were having sex way before I ovulated last month. We got the timing just right this cycle but I know it is still is not a guarantee.

I feel much more in control of the whole situation now that I'm charting and OPKing. It will give you something to focus your frustration on like I have

Sorry it's taking longer than you expected. We are here to support you.

killian09 · August 2012

Skk1977:
Hey, thanks. I didn't know it reset to "0" after a mc. I will keep that in mind...though 35 is creeping up on me

Fertility interventions are (mostly) designed to get you pregnant, not to prevent a pregnancy loss. So most of the time, docs will not want to try to diagnose someone with an infertility problem if they are cycling regularly and have no evidence of trouble getting pregnant... so that is why the clock resets. Without waiting out the 6-12 months, it's too early to say if there is a fertility problem that the docs could really help with effectively.

DebateThis · August 2012

FFS. 3 months is not any sort of trouble TTC. It's still on the low side of normal in terms of the average time it takes a couple to conceive.

Start charting your BBT and in the meantime be patient and potentially see a counselor. If getting your period is dissolving you into a sobbing puddle for a week every month, it might be time for some professional help.

Skk1977 · August 2012

killian09:
Skk1977:
Hey, thanks. I didn't know it reset to "0" after a mc. I will keep that in mind...though 35 is creeping up on me
Fertility interventions are (mostly) designed to get you pregnant, not to prevent a pregnancy loss. So most of the time, docs will not want to try to diagnose someone with an infertility problem if they are cycling regularly and have no evidence of trouble getting pregnant... so that is why the clock resets. Without waiting out the 6-12 months, it's too early to say if there is a fertility problem that the docs could really help with effectively.

Ok thank you. I wish there were more interventions for preventing pregnancy loss!

AudUy · August 2012

I'm sorry for your loss. February 1st I had a D&C and we've been trying since the cycle following. I also had become pregnant with during my first cycle the first time around and was originally expecting it would be the same thing now. I have times of high frustration and sadness, but it is important to remember that this is all part of normal. If you're feeling panicked that something is wrong, that's normal! Several years ago my SIL miscarried during her first pregnancy. It then took her a while (I can't remember how long) to conceive and she was very upset about it. As it turned out, it just took time, there was nothing wrong and three healthy babies followed. There are many positive stories out there like this.

buckeyebaby814 · August 2012

I'm very sorry for your loss.

TBH, I thought this post was going to be about complications causing you 'trouble' TTC. 3 months is not 'trouble'. Sad to you, disheartening, yes. I remember those days, but it's not trouble. It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive, which gives you about 9 months before there's any 'trouble' to be looked at. Trust me- you don't ever want to experience trouble TTC.

If you're not charting chart (Fertility Friend) and read Taking Charge of Your Fertility.

Laurakat81 · August 2012

buckeyebaby814:
I'm very sorry for your loss.
TBH, I thought this post was going to be about complications causing you 'trouble' TTC. 3 months is not 'trouble'. Sad to you, disheartening, yes. I remember those days, but it's not trouble. It can take a healthy couple up to a year to conceive, which gives you about 9 months before there's any 'trouble' to be looked at. Trust me- you don't ever want to experience trouble TTC.
If you're not charting chart (Fertility Friend) and read Taking Charge of Your Fertility.

Extremely well said.

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