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Cry it out...

Meganc1255Meganc1255
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I really need advice..

 

My little guy use to sleep in his crib, I used a magic sleepsuit and an aquarium and he was out. This summer has been crazy and weve been traveling quite a bit. (three plane rides for the little guy!)  When we went back East to visit my family for two weeks he slept with me, now he won't sleep in his crib. 

 It's been over a month now that I've been sleeping with him in his room.  I tried to let him cry it out and he cried like it was the end of the world for an hour and I felt awful letting it continue.  So I set up two couch ottomans next to his crib and I slept on those while I put him in his crib, thinking could gradually transition things.  Didn't happen.. even after he did go to sleep he would wake up within an hour or two and start screaming and was un-consolable just being next to him.  

After talking to a friend Pediatrician she keeps saying it's completely fine to let them cry.. even for up to 3+ hours.. (the longest she said it's taken a baby to fall asleep)

 Can you tell me about how things went for you if you did this?  How long until the baby did sleep and if you have ANY tips... 

 Wish my baby luck.. :-(   

 

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  • PurpleDrewbie5PurpleDrewbie5 member

    IMO 3hours is too long. I am not anti CIO but it didn't work for us. Our little one would cry relentlessly all night if we let her. What did work for us was setting a very strict schedule for about a week and a half. (Now it's more flexible) Wake up same time, down for naps same time, bed time routine and in bed. I nursed her to sleep for every nap prior to this and slept with her at night.

    To start the schedule I still nursed her until she was asleep and  put her in her bed. After a few days I just nursed her until she was almost asleep and put her down. She would cry for less than one minute and then sleep. Now I only nurse before bedtime and once in the middle of the night. I think the middle of the night feeding could easily be cut out but she shares a room with us so it's just easier to nurse her for a few minutes and put her back in her bed. 

    It was really rough at first and I still had to get up quite a bit at night but I now only share a bed with my husband and my girl sleeps like a champ. :)

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    IMO 3hours is too long. I am not anti CIO but it didn't work for us. Our little one would cry relentlessly all night if we let her. What did work for us was setting a very strict schedule for about a week and a half. (Now it's more flexible) Wake up same time, down for naps same time, bed time routine and in bed. I nursed her to sleep for every nap prior to this and slept with her at night.

    To start the schedule I still nursed her until she was asleep and  put her in her bed. After a few days I just nursed her until she was almost asleep and put her down. She would cry for less than one minute and then sleep. Now I only nurse before bedtime and once in the middle of the night. I think the middle of the night feeding could easily be cut out but she shares a room with us so it's just easier to nurse her for a few minutes and put her back in her bed. 

    It was really rough at first and I still had to get up quite a bit at night but I now only share a bed with my husband and my girl sleeps like a champ. :)

     Same here.  Seriously, DS would cry all night if left unattended.  What did work though was following the Ferber check-in method.  Going in after 3, 5, 7, 10 minute intervals is still required some nights.  For some kids, that makes them more upset, but for DS is helps re-settle him and also makes him realize that I'm not going to take him out of his crib.

    Maybe now he is just used to those check-ins, but if I try not to I have no doubt he would cry for well over an hour, and I'm not comfortable with that.

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  • memali26memali26 member

    3 hours is way too long, IMO. I kind of cry it out with my 11 month old for naps because she fights them so hard, but I do check-ins similar to Ferber.

    If you don't want to CIO (and I never did, it didn't feel right to me for the most part) you can try the Sleep Lady Shuffle. I used it to sleep train both girls and it worked very well for DD1 and okay for DD2. Since it sounds like he's reliant on your presence to fall asleep, the Shuffle might do the trick for you. Basically you start off sitting next to the crib until they fall asleep. Every 3 nights you move farther and farther away until eventually you can put them down drowsy and leave the room and they'll fall asleep on their own. Not tear free, but more gradual than CIO.

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  • iverske9iverske9 member
    I suggest reading The Sleep easy solution. I feel like some mothers do not take the time to actually read the book or have a plan. I would not have been able to handle it without reading this book, having a plan and understanding why it may be hard but can be good. Go buy the book!
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  • EveryNameIWantIsTakenEveryNameIWantIsTaken member

    CIO never worked with my son who is now 3.  I won't tell you when he finally did sttn, because it's depressing, but he would go from 0-60 in no time and freak out until we came back, no matter how long that was.  He eventually did go to sleep on his own, but it was a long, long time until that happened, so we rocked him to sleep, fed him or eventually just got him a drink for himself in the middle of the night until it happened.

    We've tried with dd too, and although she doesn't get near as bad as ds, I just can't leave her that long crying.  I think of how badly I feel after a big cry and I don't want her feeling like that.   I figure we're destined to having many years of bad sleep ourselves. 

    IMO, 3 hours is cruel.  No way would I ever do that.

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  • Meganc1255Meganc1255

    Thank you everyone for your advice so far, I did try a couple different things tonight.. no success...

     We decided to wait a couple more days before doing the CIO method.. maybe I can figure out something that works in the meantime.  

     I like being reminded of the schedule thing.. I have a schedule.. but we haven't actually been in town for a weekend in probably 2+ months.. things have been constantly changing.. were home for a while now.. so hopefully that will help.

    Your not kidding 3 hours in too long!  Jeeperz.. :-(  

     Thank you again! 

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  • lilmejolilmejo member
    We had something similar happen when LO was sick, he slpet with me in out spare room for about two weeks when he hada  really bad cough and after that he would cry every night going to bed and then wake up crying in the middle of the night. For us it was creating a routine every night and being really strict about sticking to it, for two weeks, we religiously stuck to our routine, same before bed routine and same bed time. It was tough at times because it's summer and we were invited to bbq's and what not but after two weeks of a solid routine and letting him CIO a few times, we now have no problems and he's back to sleeping in his bed all night and going to sleep without any issues. We can now be a little more flexible, like last night we had friends over and he was awake till 8:45 normal bed time is 8:00 and he did ok.
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