Feeling very uneasy

mommyof4boys · August 2012

I've been on the Special Needs board for about 4 years now and have been on the nest/knot for over 8 years. I have come on here for quite some time asking for support and suggestions (as we all do) and it has recently been brought to my attention that someone is lurking here from the town where I live. It was brought back to others things that I have said on this board. I am hesitant to post here knowing people lurk who know who I am IRL and have told others what I have said. I feel very uneasy posting anything now knowing that people know who I am and it can and will be shared with others. I was actually asked to stop posting by someone in our area because of it.

I will not name names nor have I before this. I rarely share info about the area that I live in. I wish I could feel comfortable coming here asking for advice about school things without feeling like I am being watched.

MirandaHobbes · August 2012

That sucks. I wouldn't feel comfortable posting either. Way back when (knot times) I know I had family members lurking, seeing what I was posting about them. They tried to confront me but I just said, hey, you're the loser lurking on the internets trying to find gossip... Calling you out about trying to find support online re: your sons is BS.

d.f · August 2012

That sucks! I've had a few IRL encounters but they've all been from my local where it's expected and I've actually met many through the nest. None have been negative more like a hey we work in the same building or I went to HS with your DH I would probably react the same way you are if it was negative.

finsup · August 2012

Wow. Someone needs to get a life.

FWIW - I also frequent another board for my local area, that is a "spin off" from the nest. Girls from my local nest board decided they didn't like this formant anymore and created their own board.

So there have been a few security issues recently there and they just went through this whole process of making sure the board was "secure".

Then, apparently, someone with a SN child vented about the therapy clinic their child attends. Someone on the board read the post and showed it to the owner of the therapy clinic, owner then confronted the poster and now the child can't go back to the clinic and the family has to start over wrt finding therapy and getting the kid comfortable there.

Sometimes people just SUCK.

ToastieSimons · August 2012

the same thing happened to me and they upset my family greatly. hence the anonymity now.

MaxandRuby · August 2012

And this is why I created a new account and don't have anything for a siggy. This is also why if I do post a picture or video I do not keep it up forever. I know of one person that rarely posts on this board, but I assume lurks more frequently, that I just don't feel like letting them know I am who I am if that makes sense.

I think it sucks that you were asked NOT to post. Pretty uncalled for since this is a support thing, not a gossip thing, not a bash everyone you dislike type of thing. Some people need to get a damn life and worry about themselves and only themselves.

realisticdreams · August 2012

I've been thinking about this a lot too lately. I wish we could all go to a closed group somewhere, that we didn't have to feel like this. Something that wasn't 'googleable' (even a closed facebook group) BUT that limits people finding us who need help and blah blah blah. You really can't win. I did take the girls picture out of my siggy and starting trying to use P & M but it's hard. I think my blog is even on private now. I know i've put many people on blast in it lol so i'd be screwed if someone found it.

mommyof4boys · August 2012

Realisticdreams, you will be getting PM soon.

st.augbride · August 2012

Maybe limit what you post under this screen name and create a new one without idnetifying pictures or info for more personal posts. That's what I would do.

gimmietimmies · August 2012

It really sucks that people can be like that. I'm not taking my siggy down, but ds is linked all over the internet if you know where to look, so I doubt it would make any difference. As far as anonymity, I like it here because irl, I only have one person that gets any of this - she has more on her plate than me, and I don't want to burden her. Heck, I wouldn't care if anyone knew who I was, if it weren't for trolls (virtual - I can more than handle them irl). 4 Boys - why don't you email the bump gods to change your name, and change the siggy. Sucks that someone would do this.