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February 2013 Moms
ladies with not so great mom's/MIL's...
Just wanted to let you guys know I so wish i could trade my mom or MIL in for the ones you guys are having to deal with. I got blessed to have great moms and dont know how you guys deal with all the drama constantly! I would have torn some heads off by now and disowned my family and moved far away with all the things i read. My temper/patience it not so great.
Just wanted to give you ladies major props for dealing with your moms. I pray and hope that all the mothers come around and become easier to deal with when your babies are finally here! Hugs and blessings to all you gals!
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Re: ladies with not so great mom's/MIL's...
I re-read my post and wanted to make sure you ladies know i didnt mean to come across as boastful about my mothers being better than yours. Just only meant to sympathize with you and wish i could trade you my moms so you wouldnt have to deal with so much stress. My apologies if it came across badly.
Are you sure you want to trade MILs? I'll hold you to that!
lol
No, it didn't come across that way at all. My MIL can be a handful, which is why we haven't told her yet because she cannot keep a secret! We plan on telling her in the next week or so, but I already have a feeling she is going to want her "own" shower and will make this baby about her. DH already said he is NOT going to let that happen... so hopefully the other gals on here who have MIL issues have a great DH too, he helps balance her out :-)
I understand your sentiment. I'm too shy to start my own thread about my family situation and its been (is comforting the word?) to know I'm not alone and other (normal) people are in similar situations and dealing with it well enough.
My mom is a complete nutcase. Unfortunately we've been living with her b/c we moved out of our rented house to take an extended road trip around the country, then we found out we were pregnant and stayed on with her to save money for our home birth and the baby before we move out on our own again.
Its kind of cool b/c hubs has known me for a decade and he is just now saying stuff like "I had no idea what it was like growing up for you until now" and "I feel like I understand you so much better now" LOL
I wouldn't trade her but I would love to see her change from a selfish, manipulative, traumatized child into a healthy, confident and open adult for anything!
Rest assured hubs and I have decided that we are getting out of this house by the time the baby is 6 months at the oldest. We both love my mom, but are under no delusions that her behavior is healthy.
I have to say that I have a pretty great mom, she is so happy (albeit somewhat crazy happy at times) and caring. I also LOVE my stepmom! She's one of my closest friends, and a person that I can take anything to.
My MIL is her own deal. If she weren't so negative and unhappy all of the time, she might be a really wonderful person that I would WANT to spend time with! She didn't used to be this way, and I did like to be around her, but after more than a decade of her being a sourpuss I just struggle being nice.
You can have my MIL (and FIL for that matter) any day! They are both so manipulative, cold and uncaring. I will NEVER forget telling her when we found out that DS was a boy. She didn't bother to call any of us, just sent me a text message saying "Boy oh boy it's a boy." THat's it.
I could sit here for HOURS venting about how cold she is, how she puts DH down every chance she gets, etc., but it's not worth my time and aggravation!!