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Baby sitter or MIL help?

aquariogirlaquariogirl member
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Hello, 

I have a baby sitter who comes to help twice a week for 4 hrs. Main reason I hired her is bc she seemed smart. She is a nursing student.

Today she came to help in the morning and I took a nap bc Im beyond sleep deprived.  LO was sleeping in the swing when she arrived and I told her to  not let his feed pass 3 hrs bc he hasnt had good feeds yesterday. I woke up a 1 pm and to my surprise LO was still sleeping in the swing. She had to leave quickly for the dayana she left. I was still sleepy when I went over the notes for the day and realized that she only fed him once. In other words LO had a 5 hr lapse without eating. He is a preemie and feeding him every 2 or 3 hrs is crucial. What did she do all morning? I texted her to confirm that she only fed him once and she said she didn't want to wake him up bc he was so tired. Also he takes meds in his bottles so the whole schedule was messed up.

Im very disappointed right now and my not call her back for help. Should I give her another chance? 

 

My other option is MIL whom 

DS was born in April 2012 at 31 weeks - 45 days in NICU
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Re: Baby sitter or MIL help?

  • aquariogirlaquariogirl member

    Continuation of above post. I couldn't edit it.

    Other option is MIL whom I know cares a lot about LO but she is getting a bit too senile and requires lots of guidance and supervision, ie she struggles with diaper change over and over. We also don't have a lot of chemistry but I was going to suck it up if she was good at handling LO. But maybe I should give her a chance.

    Not sure what to do, advice is appreciated. Thanks! 

    DS was born in April 2012 at 31 weeks - 45 days in NICU
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  • notkateanymorenotkateanymore member
    Does she know that it's super important that he be woken up to eat, no matter what? I didn't wake up DD when she was young just to eat. I've always been of the mind not to wake a sleeping baby. Is she didn't know that he needed to eat no matter what I would let it go.
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  • MommyslovebugsMommyslovebugs
    I agree with pp.  I would call her back.  It seems like your mil would be more work, than a stress reliever.  I would stress and clarify the importance of his feedings even if he's sleeping.  I think she just made a mistake and should be given one more chance.
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  • littlemermaidlittlemermaid member
    I would call her back and go over everything again with her.  Maybe she didn't realize the meds had to be given at exact intervals.  She was going on the concept of "never wake a sleeping baby."   So call her back and this time have her repeat your instructions to you so you know she understood you completely and thoroughly.
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  • PurpleDrewbie5PurpleDrewbie5 member
    I agree with all PP. Just call her, explain your concerns and if it doesn't happen again it sounds like you have a good arrangement. If it does happen again find someone else. It seems asking you MIL to help would be more work than help.
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