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Late Term and Child Loss
lrichmond86
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Painted his room yesterday/ conversation with my 3 yo niece
lrichmond86
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I finally painted the room that was supposed to be baby Gary's room yesterday. It's a neutral brownish beige color (it sounds gross, but it's actually very pretty). We'll still use it for a baby room someday. I'm going to paint a tree in white in one of the corners and put a rocking chair and book case in there for now. When we do have a second child we'll accent with either pink or blue depending on gender. I just couldn't keep walking by it looking empty and ugly. It was so depressing. Still it was hard to make what should have been my son's space into something else. I know it's one more step to moving forward, but it feels too much like a step toward "forgetting" (although I know logically that's not true at all). I don't want other people to think that, though.
I also had a conversation with my 3 yo niece yesterday about the room. When she sleeps over she sleeps on an air mattress in that room and always refers to it as "her" room. The conversation went surprisingly well. Here's the gist of it...
Me: You know, this room isn't always going to be your room. You can call it that for now, but someday me and Uncle Gary are going to have another baby and then it will be their room.
L: Right.
Me: Did you already know that?
L: No. Are you having another baby right now?
Me: No. We have to wait for God to give us another baby. But when we do have another baby you know that baby will be different than baby Gary?
L: Yeah. Cause baby Gary is in Heaven.
Me: Right. And when you go to Heaven...
L: You have to stay there.
Me: Right. (Long silence)
L: When you have another baby... in a long time from now... can I come in this room to visit him?
(sigh) Sometimes I wish I could have the faith and innocence and UNDERSTANDING that she has. It's like another baby cousin is an obvious given for her. That baby Gary is in Heaven and will never come back is a happy place for him to be. I know she misses her baby cousin, but to have that kind of acceptance would be utterly amazing for me.
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Re: Painted his room yesterday/ conversation with my 3 yo niece
In memory of Corbin Scott 10/28/11-12/3/11. Heaven got another angel the night you left this world behind Heaven got a little better the day it took you away from me Missing you tonight, see you again sometime For now I'll close my eyes and dream of heaven tonight I'll love you forever I'll like you for always Now and Forever My baby you'll be
corbinsmommy.blogspot.com
This is a great story (in a sad way, you know what I mean). Without getting too religious....maybe this is why Jesus said several things about children getting it - that the kingdom of heaven belongs to them, that to enter we must become like little children, etc. A simple, pure faith.
Just what I thought of when I read this and the other comments.
Hope everyone is doing ok today.
Hugs,
Jenn
We are so thankful that our second daughter, Lillian Elizabeth "Lily", was born healthy and happy on February 11, 2013. We love her to pieces.
We lost our first daughter, Hannah Grace on May 4, 2011. She was buried on May 14 during a beautiful service at my home church. We are grateful that if she could not be here with us, that she is healed and whole with the Lord. We look forward to the day when we will get to meet her. We love her so much.