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what would you do?
You are divorced, 2 children, work as a nurse so you have 3-5 full days off per week depending the week.
Children need to see dentist, do you schedule appointments for them on days you will have them the whole day or do you pick the day their father picks them up at 5pm and make appointments 1 hour prior to that time?
Any ideas what we just got word about TODAY about TONIGHTS pickup????
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Re: what would you do?
I would schedule the appointments during my whole days so I do not have to consider any one else's schedule.
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Honestly, I think this is a petty complaint. Someone else would be complaining that the BM never takes the kid to the dentist. I know my dentist appointments always end up at an inconvenient time for me even when I try to schedule it at a convienent time. Now should she have told you before today, sure.
ha! i like this...but DH isn't as dramatic as us women can be i guess. if i even offered that suggestion he'd look at me like i'm nuts. I'm just sick of rotating life around her.
and a PP stated maybe this was scheduled months ago, this is true as usually you schedule a dentist appt 6 months in advance if done properly. but a last minute warning is never ok in my books. and she has her work schedule about a month and a half prior to this...i personally just schedule around things and can change appt's to make sure everybody is considered in a situation. but i guess thats just me.
why not send the email along with the work schedule when she sent that stating the appointments for kids are on those days and if you need them at 5 for any reason i can change it, if not will it be ok to keep in contact that day to let you know when we are out.
i'm pretty sure she views DH as her glorified babysitter still. no set schedule....we rotate our lives around HER work schedule.
yes its petty...but its my vent. if i vent too much to DH he gets annoyed cause he can't stand his ex and the BS she constantly pulls like this. if she were easier to get along with and deal with i guess we wouldn't care.
I'm sorry, I was assuming that she wanted you to pick the kids up early to take them to the dentist for her. If she's still going to take them and you'll just get them a bit later then 5 pm, then I wouldn't be too peeved. I agree that she should have told you well before today though.
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Don't get me wrong, I completely agree with you that last minute notice of an appointment is not ok. I was just throwing it out there. BM should consider the child's time with the non-custodial parent when making appointments if it interferes. My fiance's ex has no consideration with regard to his time. Just last week we found out the night before a dentist appointment that BM cancelled the appointment, but scheduled an eye appointment on the day after that for Dad to take child to. BM didn't even bother to tell my fiance, he found out from the child when he went to remind the child about the "cancelled" appointment. It is frustrating. Luckily he wasn't working, but if he was, he'd have to rearrange his schedule. Years ago we started to call the offices ourselves to find out when the next appointments were. Maybe you can try that so you can deal with any parenting time conflicts ahead of time, or offer to bring the child to the appointment.
just that its going to poisibly be a later time....we won't know until last minute...just like finding this out today in general.
she never takes our time into consideration and its a frustration. this is just a petty vent for me because i can't vent it to DH without him getting frustrated. she used to always ask for the kids early from us and he'd let her take them. even pick them up on his days to take them to weddings/parties/etc....cause he knows the kids will appreciate it. but she wouldn't even let him pick them up before 5pm on Fathers Day this year....with no reason why. Just NO.
its just a frustrating situation cause its her way or no way it seems like.
her pickup time is 8pm (after she gets off work) and for a long time it was getting to be 8:30-9:00pm before she'd be picking them up. with no text saying she'd be late. the kids would sit there in their pj's just waiting. at their ages (at that time 3 and 5...and soon after them turning then 4 and 6) i think its a little young to be keeping them waiting that late at night. he had to go to her and tell her if she isn't able to be there at 8pm like the CO says, somebody does to get them home and into bed because its ridiculous on a school night for them to be waiting for their mother to pick them up at 9pm. plus he is NEVER late to get them and if he can't i was there or his mother so we wouldn't inconvenience her.
ok sorry i got goin there! this was nothing but a useless rant....no real worries about anything. just a smartass vent session
I just want to say, being the person in the relationship w/the crazy impossible to deal with ex, please vent here instead of to DH. He can't change her behavior and he can't cut her out of his life completely. (and I have no doubt you know this)
When DH freaks out to me about my ex it just stresses me out more, I end up keeping most things that happen from him b/c he would just add stress and not ease anything. He has no idea the ex has been harassing me all week.