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kllrbnny

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I was curious how you were able to get sole legal custody?  In my state from what I understand it is very difficult to get sole custody.
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  • kllrbnnykllrbnny

    Originally we ended up coming to an agreement immediately before going to court-like, that morning. We were never married, never lived together, broke up before baby was born. In that agreement he got every single weekend and every other holiday, switching to every other weekend once kindergarten started. He did have to do all the driving though. (he lives an hour away)

    I was not pleased with this, but I was a brand new mom & had neither the energy nor the money to go to court. In the end it worked out ok b/c I was able to stay home with DS during the week and waitress on the weekends while he was gone. His dad views this as part of my unsavory lifestyle, but he never thinks about what is best for DS and that was.

    When he took me back to court last June, DS was 7 1/2, the judge basically left things as they were. I think that the ex had proven that he was unwilling to cooperate in a manner that would make joint legal custody a viable option for us. Plus my lawyers rocked. And I lucked out with our judge not liking crazy combined with my ex bringing the crazy. It might even help that I live smack dab in the middle of the country, the courts tend to favor moms a bit around here.

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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    dmndsr4eva, are you looking for sole custody? Why? From everything you have written on this board your ex seems like a decent father and all you want to do is make him pay for cheating on you. Be careful what you ask for because with all the crazy you bring and the legit contempt charges he filed, you are setting yourself up for him to counter sue for sole and win. Stop playing games!
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  • CheerileeCheerilee member
    DH was awarded sole legal, sole physical because BM had proved to be unstable and addicted to drugs/alcohol, was not involved regularly, and didn't show up for several court dates.  
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  • ldmessingldmessing member

    My husband was awarded sole legal and physical custody, with all decision making authority on all issues medical, religion, education and day to day.  

    The biological mother was abusive.  It took a gal, psych evals and almost a year in court 

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  • dmndsr4evadmndsr4eva member

    I really don't think there is a chance of either of us getting sole custody at this point.  However I don't see how we are going to make decesions together for my son for the next 15 years when we cannot even communicate on the most basic simple things. 

    And not that it matters to anyone except for me but his exwife has sole custody of his other kids.  As far as I can tell he does not have any say AT ALL in medical care, schooling, or religion.  His exwife takes them and has for years to a non denominational church and he is catholic.  The kids were baptized catholic.  They have changed schools twice once to a private and now to another public school without him being involved in the decesion.  And one of the daughters has a medical condition and the mother makes all the decesions on what doctors and treatments she gets.

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