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Did anyone have an Adoption Shower?

House of LovelockHouse of Lovelock
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For some reason all of my friends thought it would be weird and didn't do anything when we adopted our son. Now that we are adopting again, I'm considering just throwing a "Come meet our Baby" party just so people can actually see and meet the baby. This will be our 5th child so we won't be visiting other people as much this time around, we need them to come to us. Definitely wouldn't be a gift event since I'd be throwing it myself, but would that be a weird idea?

How did you all have/plan showers? Or did you not have one at all? 

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  • steph196steph196 member
    We had 3 people throw us "Meet the Baby" showers when she was about a month old. We did register because this was our first child, so the parties were definitely more like baby showers. 
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  • nursesrhnursesrh member
    We had 3 showers. Only one was a meet the baby shower. That one was reserved for family and close friends.
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  • irismorningirismorning member

    I am blessed with wonderful friends who threw me a "baby" shower (the boys were 0 and 2). I had 1 week notice that my boys would be arriving and no baby or child supplies. (It was a private placement.)

    I think that an adoption should be treated with the same respect and excitement as a biological child's birth. Maybe if you have a close friend you could explain that this is a big deal for you and would like a shower.... You could even say that you do not need presents (if you feel that way), but would like everyone to meet your child.

    Mother of two wonderful boys! Blessed through adoption.

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  • elissaann26elissaann26 member

    We were very lucky to have two showers thrown for us in anticipation of becoming foster parents.  Our friends and family were excited that we would have little ones in our home and wanted to help us prepare.

    There were a few friends and family that felt more comfortable giving presents once we had a little one in our home.  And now it feels like we are being showered all over again!

    If you are interested in the specifics of our showers, you can find some more details here and here.

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  • miss1180miss1180 member

    we're adopting a little boy from Korea- we leave Thursday to go get him! AHH!!

     anyway- we've been matched with him for awhile, but weren't sure when we would end up traveling. my mom and i weren't comfortable planning a shower before he came home, just because you never know what can happen, etc.

       so I ended up buying most of the "necesseties" (he's almost 2 so it wasn't as much as if he was a newborn). AND now my mom and sister are planning a "party"/shower for us in a few weeks once hes home. I registered for some toys, clothes, and some more "Gear" that it would be nice to have.

       i think it'll be a nice way to do it- we're gonna try to take our son, too, so everybody can see him- depending on how everything is going with him at that point.

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  • Dr.LorettaDr.Loretta member

    MIL threw us a baby shower when DD was 7 weeks.

    A meet the baby party sounds lovely

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  • Art TeacherArt Teacher

    Our family threw us a shower about 2 months after dd was home with us.  They had asked us if they could.

    If we adopt again, we won't have a shower (it's not common to have one for babies after your first one around here) but I think a party is nice. 

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  • mommytoconnormommytoconnor member

    My coworkers threw me a shower and it was great.  They were so excited for me.  I don't think it's weird at all.  People like to celebrate babies, no matter if you give birth or adoption.

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  • MarionB79MarionB79

    DS is our 1st child. My friends always said that they wanted to throw me a shower, my only rule was to have it after I knew that the placement was for sure. 

    I had my work shower last Friday and it was so much fun! I was so amazed, because it was the biggest shower we've had at my school in years. It was so fun to see how excited everyone is about DS's arrival!

    I have another shower this Saturday, which is for family and close friends. It's not really a "meet the baby shower", since they'll get to see DS only briefly. He's still too little to meet a lot of people. 

    I think the meet the baby party is a great idea. I guess you really don't need as much gear considering your DS is baby number 5, but I'm sure everyone would like to meet him!

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  • breathlessbridebreathlessbride

    I hope I can throw an Adoption Shower!  I posted on this board a while back about my friends adopting a couple older kids...but we're still waiting on the details (age, gender, etc).

    I already asked/talked to her about it and like I said, we just going to wait and see.  Maybe it'll be okay to have the kids there, maybe it'll be too overwhelming for them.  But I'm REALLY excited :)

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