Community› The Bump Month Clubs› June 2011 Moms
June 2011 Moms
New Discussion

Evening Temper Tantrums I Know You're Jealous Of

wootownladywootownlady member
in June 2011 Moms

Long story short: my DH was gone for 10 days on business and my DD and I had 10 days just the two of (she will went to DC, but you know what I mean).

Now, DH is back and we've resumed our normal routine, except our DD is not onboard. She is okay in the morning (after 11 hours of sleep) and okay all day at DC, but from the time DH picks her up (4:30 pm) to the time she goes to sleep (8 pm) She. Is. A. Whiney. Sobbing. Awful. Nightmare. 

She is extremly temperamental in the evening - we're going 4 days straight of this. Old standbys - going outside, walks, pacifiers, sippies, snacks, special toys, reading, wresting - do not cure this mood for more than a minute.

She's not teething, she's not sick, she's not hungry/thirsty - and not acting like that all day at DC. She goes from fine to MAJOR TEMPER TANTRUM in 30 seconds flat.

What gives? Is she hating on DH now (she refuses him if i'm around)? How can I make her a happy peaceful baby again? How long can this last?  At a total loss.... HELP!

Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
Report Reply to Post

Re: Evening Temper Tantrums I Know You're Jealous Of

  • IdigDirtIdigDirt member
    I have no advice since I am in the same boat except DH doesn't get home until almost bed time do he doesn't get to share in the joy. I just keep telling myself it is just a phase.
    image
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • Jills83Jills83 member
    Is she taking good naps?  If my DS skips his afternoon nap he is a mess in the evenings.
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • Syncronicity09Syncronicity09 member

    Ash was like this for MH when I went back to work. Ash spent all day with me for 2 months, then he started going to DC and Daddy picks him up and spends a few hours alone with him until I get home. He was whiny and had mood swings like crazy. It took some time (maybe a week and a half or 2) but now Ash seems to love Daddy time. I think it was just a response to the change, and was worse as he got tired and closer to bed time, which happened to coincide with Daddy time.

    He also started ignoring me when I told him no, I think as a punishment for going back to work. So maybe she is expressing her displeasure with his 10 day absence. 

    Sorry I don't have an instant fix, my only answer is to give it time.

    AlternaTickers - Cool, free Web tickersImage and video hosting by TinyPic V__AE81
    June Bugs Blog

    Kelly's book recommendations, liked quotes, book clubs, book trivia, book lists (read shelf)
    Report Reply
  • kas80kas80 member
    This is a normal developmental stage when they are transistioning from two naps to one. During the transition period they become total terrors in the evening. Once they fully transition it should go away.
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
  • JsMama11JsMama11 member
    We were going through the same thing last week. Ugh. I am now putting him to bed earlier and it is extending his night sleep. Now he sleeps more overnight, takes less naps during the day and goes to bed earlier. Much better for everyone.
    <a href="http://s950.photobucket.com/albums/ad344/cjohn1211/?action=view
    Report Reply
  • SunidazeSunidaze member
    I think we are kind of in the same boat.  Stella is a moody little thing in the evening.  Not always immediately after DH picks her up from daycare, but as soon as she sees me, she wants nothing to do with him and will have a fit if she can't get to me right away.  And her overall demeanor for the rest of the evening is a bit on the crabby as hell side.
    Warning No formatter is installed for the format bbhtml
    Report Reply
  • J9melissaJ9melissa member
    imagekas80:
    This is a normal developmental stage when they are transistioning from two naps to one. During the transition period they become total terrors in the evening. Once they fully transition it should go away.
    Yup! It's the stage we are in right now.
    image
    Lilypie Third Birthday tickersLilypie Pregnancy tickers
    Report Reply
  • JsMama11JsMama11 member
    We were going through the same thing last week. Ugh. I am now putting him to bed earlier and it is extending his night sleep. Now he sleeps more overnight, takes less naps during the day and goes to bed earlier. Much better for everyone.
    <a href="http://s950.photobucket.com/albums/ad344/cjohn1211/?action=view
    Report Reply
  • M&M227M&M227
    Our tantrum time has nothing to do with DH, just the time of day.  Every day around 5 DD because a mess.  It seems to be a combination of things - she's been awake from her nap for an hour or more and is getting a little bored, she's anticipating dinner time and wants to eat (she'll sign it a million times and has a snack around 4 so I don't think she's truly hungry), and she's just tired.  Also I'm cooking at this time so she gets under my feet or annoyed I'm not paying attention to her.  Once DH comes home at 6 and we eat she seems much happier until bedtime.
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic <a href="http://www.thenest.com/?utm_source=ticker&utm_medium=HTML&utm_campaign=tickers" title="Home D
    Report Reply
  • tadamsmartadamsmar

    Read "Kazdin Method".  It's one of the few parenting books based on science.

    The most important thing is to give lots of positive attention when the kid is not tantruming and is behaving in the manner you desire.

     The instant the kid shows any sign of starting a tantrum, turn away and don't say a word.  Ok to walk away and do chores.  You can watch the kid out of the corner of your eye,  better to pretend to ignore the kid that to actually ignore.  The kid will be looking over to see if you are paying attention.

    When the kid shows some self-control specifically praise that self-control.

    Tantrums may get worse for a short period before they get better, but this will work if you keep it up for a week or two.

    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"